My friends all have these great relationships. In some cases the relationships are long term and can get really serious. In other cases the relationships run their course and then end, and they end up being friends or at least parting on friendly terms.

Yet in almost two years now I haven't had a single boyfriend. I didn't have a boyfriend in high school either. There was one hopeful who asked me to prom, but I turned him down for two reasons: 1, he had dated and slept with my best friend not one month earlier, and 2, he was very clingy and I got the feeling he was just latching to me so he wouldn't feel so lonely.

Maybe I should have just gone to the prom with him. Maybe I should have just seen where it would lead, even if I knew it wasn't going to definitely end in marriage.

But I'm going to be 25 later this year and I am still completely retarded when it comes to guys. My last relationship was so bad and emotionally abusive that it scared me from jumping back into the dating pool. But maybe now it's me? I don't know.

Well, I get called "too picky" a lot (although I prefer the term "selective"!) -- because my standards have eliminated 143% of the female population from gf consideration -- but it's only because I've seen what happens when I'm NOT picky -- I end up in disaster-scenarios that I can't WAIT to get out of.

My philosophy is it's better to be alone than to be with yet another wrong person....

I thought it was 176%

Never settle for 2nd best

This is a common misconception. It's 143% of the female population of the world, but 176% of the female population of THIS SITE. It has to do with zoning laws or something.

sounds like you haven't dated a lot of guys...suggestion -- date a lot of guys..gain some experience..some of your friends may call you names for doing so, but disregard it..you can only know so much from the advice of others, only by going through it you will gain the knowledge that you seek

roco

Ahh! My bad!

being picky isn't a bad thing but sometimes a firm overview could mean you overlooked

me too, but i'm starting to rethink that. how much am i really missing out on by not giving people a chance?

nothin wrong with you. I went years without dating anyone. Better to keep doing what you're doing than to 'settle' for less than you deserve.

zoning, on a dating site.........way too funny. they don't have an emoticon that can express this.

It ain't just you! If you don't stick to your guns you will only find misery!

When We Enter our hearts


We all see in our eyes.


The need for us to fly.


We want to fly so high.


Knowing we touched the sky.



I seen this beautiful girl.


She is living in her world.



Her words to me are kind.


Will she say she is mine.



We feel the push of time.


Pushing us through our lives.



Making us wonder why.


Why we feel this way on this ordinary day.


We feel our heart wanting to say.


Will you think about me.


Will the feeling stay.


Stay in our soul.


All I want to know.


Is your love for real ?


Will I have to steal.


The love that I know is mine.


The love that will grow with time.


We feel when we were young.


This love of our mothers hand.


We ask our self again.


Will we have to pretend ?


Pretend that the love we feel.


Is so very is real.


Will we make a deal.


To give our love away.


To share our love today.


When we hear those words.


So loving and so kind.


The words we want to hear.


Come to me my dear.


Please do not fear.


This love that we hold so near.


So near to our hearts.


The love we know will start.


This new chapter in our lives.


This is when we fly.


We fly so very high.


Until we touch the sky.


This is when we know.


That this love inside us will Grow.
Written By:
Jimmy

:)

I was alone for four years. Before that...I was never alone for very long.

Why was I alone for four years?? Because I CHOSE to be. I absolutely refused to settle for less than I know I deserve, or for someone who is something even a little less than what I wanted.

You have to make your own choice. Be as picky as you want to be.

Only YOU can determine who is right for you.

Perhaps the core of the matter is not whether you are picky, but whether you can pick a person that you can "work with."

Togetherness can the result of two (or a family) working towards balance and accommodating each other; committed to handle all the vagaries of life, come what may.

"Workable" relationships build their own history. The hard work pays off and the couple make their dreams come true together.

That's the way it used to be done, by many prior generations. It is worth considering, but definitely requires forethought, and knowing yourself well enough to appraise potential relationships for their workability, with you.