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Topic: waiting for no one
Jill298's photo
Wed 02/25/09 03:18 PM
You may not have found the right one for you... but at least you eliminated one :wink: still progress:tongue:

linniebunny's photo
Wed 02/25/09 03:21 PM
Thank you Jill I have walked away from a lot of jerks, but at least I tell them why I am walking away. Maybe the next time they will think twice. maybe not

Jill298's photo
Wed 02/25/09 03:26 PM

Thank you Jill I have walked away from a lot of jerks, but at least I tell them why I am walking away. Maybe the next time they will think twice. maybe not
I can't tell you how many times I've been stood up or he just never called back and I never got a reason.
It really ticks me to no end. But then I realized that I was really just picking bad men. Try something different... someone different. And don't be so willing to get your hopes up. If a guy you didn't really date for very long doesn't call you back... then let him go. Don't be easily available for him. That's what helped me. Once they realize that we don't NEED him right now... we actually do have a life and fun without you around... thats when he wants to be around you even more. Men are strange like that laugh

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Wed 02/25/09 03:27 PM


not just move on but completely forget that jerk.
[/What are the signs to look for when figuring out a good man from a jerk? coukld somone enlightne me please


I"m a guy and I must admit that most (not all) man I know are jerks towards women, I sometimes feel ashamed to be a man when I hear them talk about woman and even worst when I see how they change their tune depending if a woman is present or not.

linniebunny's photo
Wed 02/25/09 03:33 PM
thanks I will take that to heart, maybe I can turn things around and not get stood up the next time a man asks me out.

MirrorMirror's photo
Wed 02/25/09 03:45 PM

Have you ever set up a date, a spacific time and place to meet, you show up on time, you might even get there first, go ahead and get a table for two, and you wait. With all the tech. these days, cell phones and e-mails, the other person knows he/she is not going to show up, and yet you sit there waiting, telling the waitress, you will wait to order when you friend arrives. You end up feeling and looking like a fool.Do you call and try to find out what happend to them? do you make excuses for them? so you feel like a fool? do you give them another chance?




:smile: No second chances:smile:

MelodyGirl's photo
Wed 02/25/09 03:52 PM
Edited by MelodyGirl on Wed 02/25/09 03:53 PM

Have you ever set up a date, a spacific time and place to meet, you show up on time, you might even get there first, go ahead and get a table for two, and you wait. With all the tech. these days, cell phones and e-mails, the other person knows he/she is not going to show up, and yet you sit there waiting, telling the waitress, you will wait to order when you friend arrives. You end up feeling and looking like a fool.Do you call and try to find out what happend to them? do you make excuses for them? so you feel like a fool? do you give them another chance?



I was stood up like this about 3 years ago. I showed up first, sent a text to him and told him I was at the bar, and I put our names in for a table. He never replied to the text but maybe the stereo was loud or he was driving *what-ev*

By the time he was 15 minutes late, I called him. No answer. I told the bartender I just got stood up and I wanted to buy he and I a shot of Patron Silver! I hung out with the bartender for another hour, chatted, and I watched the game. I had a great time!!

Dude called me the next day and acted 'dumb'. He said he forgot about our date and never received my call or text. WTF ever, dude! whoa

I didn't give him another chance. His excuse was lame -- no consideration -- and that is someone who plays games. I don't play games.

:banana: drinks :banana: drinks :banana: drinks :banana:

linniebunny's photo
Wed 02/25/09 04:25 PM
Good for you, When I was stood up, I wish I had thought of justhaving a good time with out him, and forgetting he ever existed. Baby steps for me,

linniebunny's photo
Wed 02/25/09 04:25 PM
Edited by linniebunny on Wed 02/25/09 04:29 PM
Good for you, When I was stood up, I wish I had thought of justhaving a good time with out him, and forgetting he ever existed. Baby steps for me, but I am moving on. I still feel like i was treated like a fool. and no one deserves that.

MelodyGirl's photo
Wed 02/25/09 04:34 PM

Good for you, When I was stood up, I wish I had thought of justhaving a good time with out him, and forgetting he ever existed. Baby steps for me, but I am moving on. I still feel like i was treated like a fool. and no one deserves that.


I can't say that I was sad and felt bad about myself at first, but I quickly decided he was not going to have that power over me. :thumbsup:

(((linnibunny))) flowers

JustAGuy2112's photo
Wed 02/25/09 09:14 PM

Just happened to me last saturday, but i didn't get a table. I waited at the front door. It is completely embarassing! But guess what the guy isn't worth your time!


Someone stood you up like that??? What a freakin loser that guy is.

AmuseMe32207's photo
Wed 02/25/09 09:47 PM
Gosh! What a complete D!CK!...(excuse the language)..but c'mon! Have enough decency to call and say you can't make it or wtf? don't make it at all if you're not going to show up...That's beyond immature ...downright moronic!! Sorry that happened to you and anyone else that posted....:heart: :heart: :heart:

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Wed 02/25/09 11:31 PM
I figure they better be dead. No other chances!!!noway

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Wed 02/25/09 11:43 PM

Have you ever set up a date, a spacific time and place to meet, you show up on time, you might even get there first, go ahead and get a table for two, and you wait. With all the tech. these days, cell phones and e-mails, the other person knows he/she is not going to show up, and yet you sit there waiting, telling the waitress, you will wait to order when you friend arrives. You end up feeling and looking like a fool.Do you call and try to find out what happend to them? do you make excuses for them? so you feel like a fool? do you give them another chance?



This has happened a number of times in that exact manner. A date would be set, I'd be at the meeting place, and would proceed for the date that would never come. I typically only wait about a half-hour before deciding to "cut bait" and leave the establishment.

I used to give second chances ("mulligans" I call them) if the person was TRULY under some form duress that resulted in the flaking out, but I don't even do that anymore.

AmuseMe32207's photo
Sat 02/28/09 01:53 AM

I figure they better be dead. No other chances!!!noway


Hell yes! You better be broke down on the side of the road or something worse...& I should at least get a phone call, or dead in some alley... That sounds really harsh but so is standing someone up who probably was all excited about the date...People can be so cruel sometimes and just not give a sh!t....explode explode explode

EtherealEmbers's photo
Sat 02/28/09 01:57 AM
move on..

I usually meet for coffee, that way if they dont show up, no one knows but me.

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