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Topic: "Hon" and "Dear" terms
Bushidobillyclub Joined Fri 05/11/07 Posts: 5689	Thu 03/05/09 02:07 PM
I like those terms to be used only by the person with whom i'm involved romantically. I'll give southerners the benefit of the doubt, however, because I realize some of them use those words regularly and generally. If it's anyone else, it creeps me out. It took me a concerted effort to remove those terms from my common language. When I realized people could find offense with them that is . . . My mother was born and raised in Savannah Georgia and its just a part of life there. (at least when she grew up there)

penlgrif Joined Sat 02/28/09 Posts: 466	Thu 03/05/09 02:10 PM
YES!!!! And...YES!!!! again! Irksome, tiresome, bothersome, irritating...can I list MORE negative adjectives??????? Call me by my name, or...at the VERY least, ask me if it bothers me!!!!

LindaJL56 Joined Wed 01/21/09 Posts: 3387	Thu 03/05/09 02:14 PM
At least it's nice to know I'm not alone.

penlgrif Joined Sat 02/28/09 Posts: 466	Thu 03/05/09 02:16 PM
HI, Linda! I'm Penny...and no way, no HOW are you alone!!!!! LMAO!

Riding_Dubz Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 22110	Thu 03/05/09 02:17 PM Edited by Riding_Dubz on Thu 03/05/09 02:18 PM
Well if u don't like being called that don't ever come to the city you rolll up in the club, you won't even notice the guy that slipped up beside you and your now holding your hand,

LindaJL56 Joined Wed 01/21/09 Posts: 3387	Thu 03/05/09 02:18 PM
Thank you Penny. It's nice to meet you. I'm glad I'm not alone on this. It would be different if maybe I got a feel for a person here first, rather than them emailing you, starting with, "Hon", wouldn't it?

luv2roknroll Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 30367	Thu 03/05/09 02:19 PM
Well if u don't like being called that don't ever come to the city you rolll up in the club, you won't even notice the guy that slipped up beside you and your now holding your hand, If it was you holding my hand Kevin... it would be heaven!

BurningStarFour Joined Mon 03/02/09 Posts: 17	Thu 03/05/09 02:20 PM
Eek. Y'all would hate me. Ha ha. I tend to use it if I feel comfortable with that person, even if I just met them. If the situation seems appropriate (especially if I'm being sarcastic), I always throw one of those terms in there. Ha ha.

LindaJL56 Joined Wed 01/21/09 Posts: 3387	Thu 03/05/09 02:20 PM
Well if u don't like being called that don't ever come to the city you rolll up in the club, you won't even notice the guy that slipped up beside you and your now holding your hand, probably won't

penlgrif Joined Sat 02/28/09 Posts: 466	Thu 03/05/09 02:21 PM Edited by penlgrif on Thu 03/05/09 02:23 PM
Exactly, Linda. It's not that I am averse to those terms being used on me, it's just that to me...they are familiar terms, and to be used after getting to know someone...not as icebreakers towards that end. I will admit that I use the term sir alot when addressing men online, but I find that neither familiar NOR derogatory! I have gotten some flack for its usage, but....LOL!

LindaJL56 Joined Wed 01/21/09 Posts: 3387	Thu 03/05/09 02:25 PM
Maybe the flack comes from them wanting to know you better and they think it's too formal...or maybe it's like people calling us Ma'am. Some of us feel really old when they call us that.

penlgrif Joined Sat 02/28/09 Posts: 466	Thu 03/05/09 02:28 PM Edited by penlgrif on Thu 03/05/09 02:28 PM
I totally agree, but I also realize that if I am going to call them sir, most times I am going to get the ma'am thing in return....usually NOT out of respect....LOL! I've had some guys go berserk on me for saying sir...even once. At that point, I know for certain I would not match well with them...and I move on. I am not Miss Manners, by any stretch of the imagination, but I do like to show respect when chatting with new people, and I don't like to have to use their name every time....I suppose the same COULD be said for those who choose to use those....'terms of endearment...."....

LindaJL56 Joined Wed 01/21/09 Posts: 3387	Thu 03/05/09 02:32 PM
Eek. Y'all would hate me. Ha ha. I tend to use it if I feel comfortable with that person, even if I just met them. If the situation seems appropriate (especially if I'm being sarcastic), I always throw one of those terms in there. Ha ha. We like everyone here. Don't worry, you're still young and maybe reading the posts and asking questions, will help you.

BurningStarFour Joined Mon 03/02/09 Posts: 17	Thu 03/05/09 02:43 PM
Maybe the flack comes from them wanting to know you better and they think it's too formal...or maybe it's like people calling us Ma'am. Some of us feel really old when they call us that. You shouldn't feel old when people call you ma'am. Or for guys, sir. I think those are terms of respect for people in general, not for respect as elders. I'm student teaching in a 6th grade geography class. And every little 11 year old girl and boy get ma'ams and sirs from me.

LindaJL56 Joined Wed 01/21/09 Posts: 3387	Thu 03/05/09 02:45 PM
Good for you! I'm glad to see respect is still being taught in school somewhere.

Muchacho Joined Sun 03/30/08 Posts: 1064	Thu 03/05/09 02:51 PM
When it come to a line i dont use Hey baby whats up that sounds pushy i would rather say Hey how you doing or whats your name. As for calling someone baby i would have to say they were with me as a couple.

LindaJL56 Joined Wed 01/21/09 Posts: 3387	Thu 03/05/09 02:52 PM
how about, What's up, Doc?

Muchacho Joined Sun 03/30/08 Posts: 1064	Thu 03/05/09 02:56 PM
how about, What's up, Doc? Yes the ladys like that one

LindaJL56 Joined Wed 01/21/09 Posts: 3387	Thu 03/05/09 02:59 PM
sorry, that's all I've got (unless it's, "What's it like way up there?" or "Are the eggs blue too?")

Muchacho Joined Sun 03/30/08 Posts: 1064	Thu 03/05/09 03:02 PM
sorry, that's all I've got (unless it's, "What's it like way up there?" or "Are the eggs blue too?") My fav question is if thats what u got on now what r your pj's like?