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Topic: Pesky Old Love Interests
Moondark Joined Tue 11/27/07 Posts: 5866	Sun 02/22/09 09:43 AM
When I first started on this site I met a great local guy. Receintly widowed. We talked for 6 months and he wanted to meet up. We totally hit if off and started dating. It only lasted a bit over a month. And what a fabulous month it was. Then he is gone. No longer interested. A month ago he pops on to empty his profile and leave a message he is no longer single on it. I only knew because he suddenly showed up on my Mutual Matches again only his picture was missing, which seemed odd. Last night, he IM's me saying hi and how am I doing????? Why? Why IM someone you broke up w/ nearly a year later?

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Sun 02/22/09 09:45 AM
Maybe he feels bad & wants to clear the air

awolf1010 Joined Sun 03/30/08 Posts: 7251	Sun 02/22/09 09:57 AM
he's horny!!! and realizes the relationship hes in is unfufilling!!! some would call this a booty call

Moondark Joined Tue 11/27/07 Posts: 5866	Sun 02/22/09 09:57 AM
Possibly, but after a year, does it ever really mean anything? It certainly isn't going to make the person dumped feel better about it and it just brings the entire thing up again.

Moondark Joined Tue 11/27/07 Posts: 5866	Sun 02/22/09 09:58 AM
he's horny!!! and realizes the relationship hes in is unfufilling!!! some would call this a booty call Never Going To Happen....

MsCarmen Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 6282	Sun 02/22/09 09:59 AM
Maybe he just wanted to say Hi and ask how you were doing?

Moondark Joined Tue 11/27/07 Posts: 5866	Sun 02/22/09 10:00 AM
Yeah, it doesn't change the question of why. After a year, why the hell would he even care?

tomohawk Joined Thu 11/15/07 Posts: 359	Sun 02/22/09 10:03 AM
You could maybe ask him why he wants to make contact with you now.Could be a lot of reasons he contacted you,only he will know why.Maybe ask and put it all behind you for good

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 02/22/09 10:05 AM
Yeah, it doesn't change the question of why. After a year, why the hell would he even care? Did you ask him?

Moondark Joined Tue 11/27/07 Posts: 5866	Sun 02/22/09 10:10 AM
Since he is not online at the moment, he won't see it until he logs on again. Who knows when he will get it.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Sun 02/22/09 10:18 AM
When I first started on this site I met a great local guy. Receintly widowed. We talked for 6 months and he wanted to meet up. We totally hit if off and started dating. It only lasted a bit over a month. And what a fabulous month it was. Then he is gone. No longer interested. A month ago he pops on to empty his profile and leave a message he is no longer single on it. I only knew because he suddenly showed up on my Mutual Matches again only his picture was missing, which seemed odd. Last night, he IM's me saying hi and how am I doing????? Why? Why IM someone you broke up w/ nearly a year later? A lot of things go on in peoples lives that we are unaware of.

KimmiM Joined Sat 12/27/08 Posts: 1694	Sun 02/22/09 10:19 AM
When I first started on this site I met a great local guy. Receintly widowed. We talked for 6 months and he wanted to meet up. We totally hit if off and started dating. It only lasted a bit over a month. And what a fabulous month it was. Then he is gone. No longer interested. A month ago he pops on to empty his profile and leave a message he is no longer single on it. I only knew because he suddenly showed up on my Mutual Matches again only his picture was missing, which seemed odd. Last night, he IM's me saying hi and how am I doing????? Why? Why IM someone you broke up w/ nearly a year later? A lot of things go on in peoples lives that we are unaware of. Very true!

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Sun 02/22/09 10:21 AM
Being widowed maybe threw him a curve when your relationship took off. You don't have to do anything you don't want but if he made you made you so happy I would take my opportunity to work it out. If you know where he lives maybe send him a personal letter.

Moondark Joined Tue 11/27/07 Posts: 5866	Sun 02/22/09 10:37 AM
Since he is no longer single, I don't think taking the opportunity to work it out is a very good idea.

mage2210 Joined Wed 02/18/09 Posts: 217	Sun 02/22/09 12:13 PM
Ive done that with my exes too. just because you broke up doesnt mean you have to hate eachother. I am good friends with 2 of my exes, but it did take a while to reach that point after we split.

downhomechik Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 479	Sun 02/22/09 12:20 PM
I agree with being friends after the smoke clears & the complication of losing a spouse was most likely a very trying time for him. I would be totally honest and upfront and say you were curious as to why he'd contact you after all this time....

brenlee1965 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 529	Sun 02/22/09 12:36 PM
I agree with being friends after the smoke clears & the complication of losing a spouse was most likely a very trying time for him. I would be totally honest and upfront and say you were curious as to why he'd contact you after all this time.... I AGREE! You are pretty smart; must get that from your older sister! :)