Topic: Why are women so confusing???
franshade's photo
Fri 02/20/09 07:30 AM
Mage - did you not read the instructions that came in the box (just kidding)

People in general are confusing.

Some people keep it simple
Some people make things difficult
Some people speak their minds
Some people want their minds read
Some people are fearless
Some people are scared of everything

Good luck and hope things work out for you flowerforyou

trgirl's photo
Fri 02/20/09 07:30 AM


she is a lucky woman and does not know it yet. I hope she comes around.


Thats what her mom told me!

mom's are often correct even though we tend to not believe them

mage2210's photo
Fri 02/20/09 07:32 AM

Yes, but here is the thing. If I meet a person and I just want to be friends... I would introduce them to everyone, no hesitation. But if I was interested in them romantically.... I'd hestitate. And wait.

And I'd be at LEAST kissing the guy. Her behavior spoke of something more... but the lack of intimacy shows no spark. You are the friend. If she wanted something more or even actually valued your friendship, she'd have called you back by now.


Your gonna make me cry lol!

mage2210's photo
Fri 02/20/09 07:34 AM

Mage - did you not read the instructions that came in the box (just kidding)





That would be a big book

lilith401's photo
Fri 02/20/09 07:35 AM

Your gonna make me cry lol!


I don't mean to make you cry.

But think about it.... would you not call her back if you were upset? No.... true friends talk. At least text back and say, I'm sorry, I'm upset, I need some time. And if there was romance, it would have sparked tension or at least a french kiss, right? Did you keep her physically away? Did you cuddle while watching movies?

misstina2's photo
Fri 02/20/09 07:35 AM
flowerforyou I wouldn't continue to put my heart into a relationship that someone couldn't at least give me the courtesy of a phone callflowerforyou

trgirl's photo
Fri 02/20/09 07:35 AM


Yes, but here is the thing. If I meet a person and I just want to be friends... I would introduce them to everyone, no hesitation. But if I was interested in them romantically.... I'd hestitate. And wait.

And I'd be at LEAST kissing the guy. Her behavior spoke of something more... but the lack of intimacy shows no spark. You are the friend. If she wanted something more or even actually valued your friendship, she'd have called you back by now.


Your gonna make me cry lol!


dont cry, but get it out in the open i would rather have my friend back than no friend at all

prisoner's photo
Fri 02/20/09 07:40 AM
:smile: do you prefer grapes or cheese with your whine? be seeing you

mage2210's photo
Fri 02/20/09 07:47 AM


Your gonna make me cry lol!


I don't mean to make you cry.

But think about it.... would you not call her back if you were upset? No.... true friends talk. At least text back and say, I'm sorry, I'm upset, I need some time. And if there was romance, it would have sparked tension or at least a french kiss, right? Did you keep her physically away? Did you cuddle while watching movies?


As much as I hate to admit it, your making alot of sense... Everyone tells me to give her time, or space, or wait for a call. It has only been a week, should I wait longer for a call or should I attempt to call her 1 more time before I put this to rest? The last few guys she has been with (her words) "we in a hurry to get down my pants". I was not pushing her away physically, but making an honest effort to show her thats not what I was after. We would sit close together watching movies, the occasional hand on the shoulder, that kind of thing, but not full-blown cuddling...
There was one time when I was dropping her off at home at night, we were saying our goodnights, etc, and there was a short look into eachothers eyes, and all I thought was "do I try to kiss her?". With her past relationships I thought I would rather her make the move though...maybe I should of went for it.

mage2210's photo
Fri 02/20/09 07:49 AM

:smile: do you prefer grapes or cheese with your whine? be seeing you


Thanks for the advice

longhairbiker's photo
Fri 02/20/09 07:49 AM
Oh man- did she ever lead you on and use you. Don't you get it? She had to prove to her WHOLE family that she could find a decent guy after Mr Ass Hole. You became her f*cking token that she waved in everyones face. You became her security blanket to comfort her needs. You became her crutch for all her inabilities to cope. You became her imaginary freind come to life. You became her shoulder when in need. You became her real life Ken doll to place on her fireplace mantle when not in use. How did it feel to be a pet? Sucked didn't it? One word- RUN!!!

lilith401's photo
Fri 02/20/09 07:52 AM
I'm guessing you posted this for other perspectives.... and here we all are!happy

Her actions are speaking loud and clear.

Kissing is not at all in the same league as sex. But really, if she wanted you to kiss her, she'd have let you know... and you wouldn't be Monday morning quarterbacking this right now. Personally, I prefer to initiate a kiss just to let the guy know I'm interested and let them take it from there... but that's just me. No kissing says a lot. No hand holding. No cuddling....

And again, if I was going to introduce a guy to my family..... no way would it be a guy I was interested in having a relationship with. It would be a friend, only friend, or a guy I was already in a relationship with.

You've given her a week. You spent every day together for five weeks. What gives?

longhairbiker's photo
Fri 02/20/09 07:55 AM
If you call her I'm going to send you a dog collar for your neck. Because you will be her pet again in 7-6-5-4-3-2-....one. Got played. Sorry for it. Move on.

prisoner's photo
Fri 02/20/09 07:57 AM


:smile: do you prefer grapes or cheese with your whine? be seeing you


Thanks for the advice
:smile: anytime,that's why i'm here be seeing you

longhairbiker's photo
Fri 02/20/09 08:00 AM
Think you got had now? Get back together with her. She will put down ultimatums. She will lay down ground rules. You will be her slave under her complete control. She will own your soul. She got horns and a tail?

mage2210's photo
Fri 02/20/09 08:00 AM

I'm guessing you posted this for other perspectives.... and here we all are!happy

Her actions are speaking loud and clear.

Kissing is not at all in the same league as sex. But really, if she wanted you to kiss her, she'd have let you know... and you wouldn't be Monday morning quarterbacking this right now. Personally, I prefer to initiate a kiss just to let the guy know I'm interested and let them take it from there... but that's just me. No kissing says a lot. No hand holding. No cuddling....

And again, if I was going to introduce a guy to my family..... no way would it be a guy I was interested in having a relationship with. It would be a friend, only friend, or a guy I was already in a relationship with.

You've given her a week. You spent every day together for five weeks. What gives?


Its been a long time since I met someone I felt this way about, so I guess I'm not in a hurry to just give up after a week. One of 3 things could happen to make this better for me...
-she would call and say she's not sure, not in a hurry, but lets keep hanging out
-she would call and plain tell me to leave her alone
-she could call and say she just wants to be friends

PATSFAN's photo
Fri 02/20/09 08:01 AM
I think it's best if you put effort into someone whos is looking for a relationship.

lilith401's photo
Fri 02/20/09 08:02 AM
Mage.... I really am sorry.flowerforyou

You don't see it. She already decided for you. It's not up to you.

If there was anything there, even sincere friendship, she'd have called already.

Again, very sorry.

mage2210's photo
Fri 02/20/09 08:03 AM
I love all the different perspectives on this...

longhairbiker's photo
Fri 02/20/09 08:04 AM
Just picture her bald, in a gray suit with her pinky upside down in her mouth. Dr Evil with breasts.