Well, I certainly agree with everything you've said in all your posts
Txsgal.

I guess the title of the thread is kind of throwing me for a loop
because the title looks like it's pitting attraction vs. love.

I guess what you really meant by the thread title was "Shallow
Attraction" versus "A Loving Relationship".

That certainly makes sense.

Jess wrote:
“Goodness no Abra...not at all..call it gun shy.”

In other words you get the semantic heebie geebies when you see the word
‘God’ most likely brought about by previous traumatic encounters with
unloving dogmatic hypocrisy associated with the poor little 3-letter
word ‘God’.

I understand.

In a nutshell, Abra...*insert nodding emoticon here*

Well actually, some will say they have to have that attraction first and
the friendship. Before it actually turns in to love. Or they fall
in-love with the person. And some will say that it is the person
themselves how they present themselves and there outlook on life and
becomeing friends first is why they fell in love with that person.
Actually Attraction & Love plays a big part in a relationship for they
do go hand in hand!

Back on topic,

I don’t believe that I was ever in danger of becoming involved with a
woman based purely on attraction without and deeper meaningful
connection.

However, it’s been my life’s story to have met many women with whom I
was able to have extremely deep and meaningful relationships with, but
that never progressed into full-blown romantic love because of I was
lacking a sensual attraction for them.

So this is why the thread title attracted me (no pun intended)

All the love in the world won’t incite physical attraction. So love
alone just won’t cut it.

So I guess it’s a two way thing. I mean, attraction alone is useless,
but so is love alone. To have a genuinely fulfilling fruitful
relationship that can grow romantically, both elements are absolutely
necessary.

I know that I’ve already stated as much in my previous posts, but I just
feel like rambling today. :o)

Txsgal wrote:
“Well actually, some will say they have to have that attraction first
and the friendship.”

I’m really not concerned with any particular order of how things evolve.
However, it’s been my personal experience that if there’s no physical
attraction on day 1 there’s a very slim chance that it’s going to
suddenly appear on day 101.

I’m not saying it can’t happen. But I’ve given it very long-term
chances to happen in the past and it just never happened. I think it
almost has to be there on day 1 if it’s going to exist at all. It’s
like it’s either there or it isn’t, and if is isn’t there, then all the
time in the world isn’t going to change that.

At least this has been my own personal experience. I’m well aware that
everyone is differnet so it may well work differently for other people.

Well most will say attraction to them means either physical, sexually,
or for what is within the person. Each one is some type of attraction.
And yes we all need at least one or the other or all three in order to
consider taking it to the next step. If not then it could be nothing but
friends for some, and for some just dating only until someone does catch
there attention in the way they want to see if there is a relationship
there or not.

If they don't have the beauty in their Heart & Soul... I do not have
the time for them... Inner beauty almost never fades... That's the Best
kind of Beauty.. I would expect to have my Lady be one of my Best
Friends as well as my Love.. Love is the full deal.. feel it in your
toes.. stick it out through the rough times... You may hate them at the
moment, but you don't stop loving them...

Words that are so true for the person they are within will shine
through. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder for what I might think
looks good to me does not always to the next person. Personality and
humor has a big factor and that they have the ablility to talk about the
problems and willing to work things out. For some where along the line
they will disagree sooner or later.

Attraction is the recognition of qualities within oneself, reflected in
another...

Love is the acceptance of another, irrespective of their qualities...

atraction can lead to love is all i know about this one !!!!!!!

Incredible post Ms Txs,,, You are Rockin Today,,,,

Thank you Denise

Gwen & I had a 5-6 yr friendship that just kept growing, till we
married.

CHEERS...

It is true that people can act however they want, be whatever they want
to be, over the internet. But eventually the true person leaks through
the cracks and we begin to see their true self. Moral of the story? It's
best to be your real self. You may eventually want to meet the person on
the other end of the conversation.

On the other hand, when you do meet the real person on the other end,
remember that you have grown to like that person because of what's
inside their mind and heart. You have found a potential soul mate. Who
thinks as you think and feels much the same way that you feel.

I have to disagree. Sometimes the "real" person does not leak through
the cracks until you meet them. Sometimes what is presented on these
sites is not the real person, it is just an illusion.

THERE IS A HUGE DIFFERENCE.

IMHO, attraction is all about personality and compatibility. Everything
else is irrelevant.