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Its like watching the news and seeing something sad for me...I think...man, those poor people...and thats the end of that...because...honestly...a stranger telling me they're sorry for my loss...just means nothing to me
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When I was younger, I didn't give a damn if everyone died. But after you lose most everyone and see people that you love lose people, you tend to be a bit less macho and a lot more sensitive to that...and everything else. I've never really had any online "friends", just people that I talked with from time to time. Believing that comfort is given by loved ones, I've never given my sympathy to strangers. But some DO have friends on here and it's good to know that your friends are thinking of and praying for you. If by chance, you grow old(er), you'll do the same. I would hope. I am in no way trying to be macho. I dont care what people think of me here so im not trying to be anything i am not. Giving comforting words and being nice is one thing, but it does get taken to a different level, and i question some of these peoples motives. Some people want to be seen as being nice and caring people, so will react to threads in such a way to try to portray this. |
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Edited by
FreeToB
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Thu 02/12/09 07:54 PM
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When I was younger, I didn't give a damn if everyone died. But after you lose most everyone and see people that you love lose people, you tend to be a bit less macho and a lot more sensitive to that...and everything else. I've never really had any online "friends", just people that I talked with from time to time. Believing that comfort is given by loved ones, I've never given my sympathy to strangers. But some DO have friends on here and it's good to know that your friends are thinking of and praying for you. If by chance, you grow old(er), you'll do the same. I would hope. I am in no way trying to be macho. I dont care what people think of me here so im not trying to be anything i am not. Giving comforting words and being nice is one thing, but it does get taken to a different level, and i question some of these peoples motives. Some people want to be seen as being nice and caring people, so will react to threads in such a way to try to portray this. Motives? If you're hungry and a stranger gives you food, does it fill you any less? There are people who genuinely care for strangers. I'm one of them. I do understand what you're saying and why. But it doesn't matter if they're genuine to you or not. It's not that they ARE your friends or even know you from Adam. But it's good to know that those people exist. To me anyway. |
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Yes, I care. Don't you have a thread about having the flu and then it turned worse? Didn't you like it when we all wished you well? Absolutely, well wishes are nice. But i dont really expect people i dont know very well to care. I made that thread initially asking for sympathy as a joke, and then things did turn worse. Otherwise there would have been no thread made about it at all by me. |
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9/ chances outtta 10 on immmmma have to go with i don't really give a damn but negativity is often confused with, being realistic and im defiantly not being negative, hey if anything you can appreciate my honesty, I appreciate the honesty! I need people on my side here! lol I don't care if you need people on your side, Dan...............lol Yes you do you big caring hunk of a man! |
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sympathy create weakness and self pity with shallow words of vain flattery, but empathy enduce strength and character with words that teach to embrace struggle???
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Its like watching the news and seeing something sad for me...I think...man, those poor people...and thats the end of that...because...honestly...a stranger telling me they're sorry for my loss...just means nothing to me When i watch the news something can provoke feeling enough in me for a tear to form in my eye, because i do actually care. Soon after, whatever it was is off my mind and i carry on with my life. But those things on the news are usually a lot more important than thing we read in the threads. |
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sympathy create weakness and self pity with shallow words of vain flattery, but empathy enduce strength and character with words that teach to embrace struggle??? You're right. I should have been using the word empathy, not sympathy. me so smart! |
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I do care....
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sympathy create weakness and self pity with shallow words of vain flattery, but empathy enduce strength and character with words that teach to embrace struggle??? You're right. I should have been using the word empathy, not sympathy. me so smart! i didn't read your post before posting this, lol........ no connection! |
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Its like watching the news and seeing something sad for me...I think...man, those poor people...and thats the end of that...because...honestly...a stranger telling me they're sorry for my loss...just means nothing to me When i watch the news something can provoke feeling enough in me for a tear to form in my eye, because i do actually care. Soon after, whatever it was is off my mind and i carry on with my life. But those things on the news are usually a lot more important than thing we read in the threads. I dunno. As foreign as I am to this medium, I don't feel as far from here as Darfur (sp?). And no matter what losses you suffer, you always carry on with your life. Sadly, you just don't try to let people too close. |
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sympathy create weakness and self pity with shallow words of vain flattery, but empathy enduce strength and character with words that teach to embrace struggle??? I have to be honest and say that your posts are going way over my head! But it is 4am here and thats the excuse im sticking with! |
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sympathy create weakness and self pity with shallow words of vain flattery, but empathy enduce strength and character with words that teach to embrace struggle??? I have to be honest and say that your posts are going way over my head! But it is 4am here and thats the excuse im sticking with! |
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9/ chances outtta 10 on immmmma have to go with i don't really give a damn but negativity is often confused with, being realistic and im defiantly not being negative, hey if anything you can appreciate my honesty, i`m going with this answer...lol |
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sympathy create weakness and self pity with shallow words of vain flattery, but empathy enduce strength and character with words that teach to embrace struggle??? You're right. I should have been using the word empathy, not sympathy. me so smart! i didn't read your post before posting this, lol........ no connection! No worries friend, nobody else does either! lol I'm just talkin' to myself. |
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sympathy create weakness and self pity with shallow words of vain flattery, but empathy enduce strength and character with words that teach to embrace struggle??? I have to be honest and say that your posts are going way over my head! But it is 4am here and thats the excuse im sticking with! YOU NEED NO EXCUSE, LOL!!! |
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listen i think we need a group hug
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Edited by
FreeToB
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Thu 02/12/09 08:04 PM
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listen i think we need a group hug ummmm...No? I know, I know...you were not talking to me. |
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listen i think we need a group hug  |
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When you see a thread and someone is ill, dying, dead or whatever..do you REALLY give a damn? I ask because i see a lot of falseness, and people PRETENDING to care. Most often, if i am honest, i couldnt give a damn. For me it all depends on how well i know somebody. A friends son passed away very recently and i DO care, i have know her a long time and met her in person twice. But when its someone i dont really know, which is the case for the majority of people here, or its this someone's friend, relative or budgie, it doesnt really provoke any interest or emotion in me. So what?! There is sh1t happening to people all over the world that i dont know, its not my problem and there is nothing i can do about it anyway...oh look a peanut.. So...who really does care for peoples problems when they dont know the people?  The more I know a person the more I care.
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