I am discovering that Mingle2 is more of a Socializing Site than a Dating Site. To me it has its (mostly) good and (some) bad points. I love M2 and I will keep my profile on here, but I'm starting to think that I may need to look elsewhere to find local people who are actually serious about meeting someone. I've found that the ones who do seem serious, are all many miles away.

I've taken the initiative to send emails to some men I've been interested in only to find out that they are in a relationship, but have kept their profile active to remain in the social loop with established friends. That's great for him/them.

But it gets to be frustrating when finding that I seem to be interested in the ones that are already "taken".

And while I think it's great that people show their creative side by posting cute pics that are not of themselves, I do wish I could see more pics of the profile subject. I have viewed some profiles that have multiple pics, but the few pics of "them" are hard to see or it's difficult to figure out which one in the pic is him/her.

While I highly value the social qualities of M2, I wish that more of the men on here were available - or at least their profiles said they are in a relationship, etc. if they aren't available.

Not an exclusive M2 issue: I also wish that more of the men out here were willing to take a chance and meet a gal for coffee or something before writing her off based on a one-page, self-written profile. (Not everyone has marketing skills). I for one, have an open mind and am willing to give a guy a shot unless something in their profile is an absolute turn-off.

Another pet peeve, while I'm on the subject, is that men will state that they are in a relationship, but still continue to browse profiles... hmmmm?

Another point I'd like to make is that I wrote my profile straight from the heart, I don't browse (and never have browsed) other women's profiles, so I have no idea what other women write in their profiles. And I find that a good majority of the men are too busy or lazy to write much in their profiles... so, what I've written in my profile may seem cliche' or "common", but it is true and from my heart.

I don't know anymore, maybe I'm just full of sh!t, or simply babbling. Is it just the nature of internet dating, or what? I'd like to know what others think about it.

I think alot of what you say is true.. I've had the same experience with the mem when I write them...

Hey ss dropping by to wish you luck

Thanks, that was so sweet, it almost choked me up. You are kind.

What's the question?

Same here. I ve contacted a couple of 'local' ladies without much response. Local means up to 75 miles from me.

Dear Abby said "When a mans through looking, he is through"

I'll peek at another mans profile, I have a couple of guys on my friends list.

I am dating someone, and yes I continue to socialize here. I didn't met her online but I might as well have as she spends most of her time in another part of the state about 3-4 hrs away, and we only see each other about once a month.

There's no question. It's just open for comments if you have experienced the same, have thoughts about it, agree or disagree.

I came to that same conclusion awhile back. I love the site, there are great people all over the place here, but I have yet to run across a viable relationship prospect, or anyone in my area who actually participates here at all.



Nature of internet dating, probably....? I've tried a lot of sites. Some of them had people who were more proactive about actually meeting someone, but those sites had other (major) issues as well.

The only site I've ever been on where it seemed that people were TRULY trying to meet someone, was a pay site I tried for 3 months in early 2006. I was contacted by many people there, most of them locals, but no one suitable.

It was an interesting experiment; but, in the end, more of a waste of $24.95 a month.

I really don't think the kind of person I want is using a dating site....well, maybe there are some really obscure, undercover sites I've never heard of....that's possible. But I don't feel much like embarking on an expedition to find them, either.

My belief now is that, if I'm ever going to meet anybody, it's going to have to be in real life, probably through a friend that I don't have yet.

If you are a forum poster this place is probably more of a social site. For those who dont use the forums it is mainly a dating site.

But i fully agree, it is not a particularly good place to meet local people. So if thats what you require, you could be wasting your time here.

I'm personally agree with you even though I'm here to meet women. I personally though your profile was honest and gave a start to letting men know who you are and what you are about. Not comparing but, the issue you write about seems common on this side also(you would think women would be more sensitive). I wish you luck in the dating jungle, he's out there you just haven't set the hook or some men are to stupid to know a good thing. Have a beautiful day and remember no-one knows what around the corner. K

Actually, now that you mention it... I have some women in my friends list, but I added them based on a kinship found in the forums. I don't know that I really checked their entire profiles... maybe a quick scan, because it was the personality I liked while posting in the threads.

I guess I don't like to browse the women's profiles cuz I might be intimidated by all the competition. LOL

I dont know. Good things come to those who wait. I just met someone a mile from my house.

you're right...and i'm guilty of using m2 as a social outlet so i can be home w/my kids or bored at work but still have people to "talk" to...it's been my experience too that when you're really looking for a guy and have decided there's not one worth having left on our planet a great one will just fall out of the sky at your feet...chin up and from your pic and postings any man would be a fool or just plain blind not to beg you for a date

Since this subject is a based on personal experiences I cannot make any broad statements.

My own observations have shown me that on this particular site local dating possibilities are, ummmmm, somewhat limited. I've also noticed the possibilities of a successful long distance relationship are akin to being struck by lightning or winning lotto.

I still play lotto, but have no interest in spending weeks or months building up expectations and fantasy images only to crash and burn. That is the norm here. Anybody who tells you different is full of crap.

I am still here because I enjoy the forums (mostly) and have made many friends.

Waitaminnit, back up the truck! Somebody actually AGREES with me???

Funny story: While in the forums, I've noticed some really knockout gorgeous women popping up in the threads... and my first thought is, "Damn, with her in the dating pool, I'll never get a date!"

I'm not knocking myself by any means, but I know I'm no beauty queen. The years are starting to take their toll. But I bring a lot of great qualities to the table... it's just harder to get guys to stop and take notice of that fact when I don't have the prettiest first impression features that some women my age do.

Also, I just don't photograph well. People I have met face to face, from online, have told me that my pics make me look "older", or I'm much "prettier" or "hotter" in person. What's a lady to do?

Hey SS,
Having any luck in your job search?
Hope your situation is improving.

oh no you did not just say that...and looks will only get you so far...

A good looking woman my get my initial attention, but it takes more to keep it. Yes there are some attractive women on this site, it doesn't mean that they are 'attractive' face to face, or when you interact with them via email or on the phone.

No luck on the job front, but I'm looking into some internet opps and consulting.

One day at a time.

And thank you for remembering and being concerned. Sending you a hug.