I am way too insecure...and I sabotage my relationships..sick yes I know but I realized this just today...HELP..I really don't wanna lose this one..

Talk to someone, be less insecure, learn.

I am trying really I am...I hate this about myself..how can anyone find me worthy if I myself feel so inadequate..

I have the same problem but try to remind yourself that he likes you- or he wouldn't be with you and you are worth it- and just to be cocky -- he is lucky to have you. Just saying it in your head helps the insecure feelings go away.

i will help if i can sweet. i'm getting off line now, but i'll e-mail check later.

the hardest thing to do is to love someone without any expectations at all.

once you are able to do that, i think the insecurities disappear.

appreciate and enjoy the 'what you have today', in regards to the relationship, instead of focusing on what might be, could be, etc.

YOU ARE WORTH IT! i realize this, i want you to realize it too.

A lot of people sabotage relationships because they have an internal belief that they really don't deserve to be happy. So it turns into a self-fulfilling prophecy -- "This person can't really be interested in me, maybe I need to get out of this thing before I get hurt" -- thereby eliminating any chance that it could be real, and could really work.

You mention your insecuriities, and these are most likely what's fueling the sabotage.

You need to realize that you are worth it, that you do deserve to be happy.

Easier said than done, I know. But self-acceptance is a remarkable liberator.

Okay, did a double-stalk on ya. You know it's all an inside job, and I'm supposed to just nod my head and smile with the 100 yard stare while you vent, right?

I'm the same way. I don't know about the insecure part, but maybe I just won't admit that I am.

I am in the process of trying to fix a relationship that I had started to sabatage. Its a hard thing to realize that you are doing something that causes yourself pain. I learned my lesson in a very hard way. Catch yourself when you do it and try to turn that into a positive. It may not save this relationship but your future ones will be better because you are aware of what you are doing.

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Why do you feel inadequate? You look very attractive in your photo.