well what do you think the chance of me finding a good man to be a father figure and a good spouse for me to spend the rest of my life with and with no drama that he has his **** together. should i go ahead throw in the towel now and plan on being single for a long while. because my track record has not been the best. between the beaters,cheaters and the momma's boys what is there left.

I'm 38 and pregnant! And I haven't given up hope.

It'll happen sooner or later.

Right now, I hope it's later though. Don't need to get involved with anyone to add to the chaos already in my life.

Don't know, but I wish you luck. Welcome aboard.

yeah being a nun that dresses sexy works for me

It seems to me that when you get over 30 the ones that aren't beaters, cheaters, and momma's boys are like me. We eather work too much, been burnt too many times or are like me. Combo of both and too ugly to be seen in public with.

thanks i hoped there was still hope out there i'm just going thru hell right now with the dad it seemd like this is never going to end. maybe when she is in college he can find someone new to drive crazy. thanks for all the comments they are well needed and i love this web site it's the best around it has helped more than you know. keep up the comments.

i have always been the one to get the short end of the stick and the one to suffer. sometimes i forget that there are men out there that have the same problems as i do. good me are hard to find because of the bad women out there. i guess without the balance what would be the point. i will hold my head up high and try my best to do what makes me happy i think alot of my problem is that i done to much and got nothing in return. i need to stop taking care of the men in my life and take better care of me.

Wish you the best of luck.

God bless that baby in your womb!

With that kind of attitude you'll probably not find much out there.

It will be amazing if in this country we will ever see people who are married 50 or 60 years again. I see people get divorced every day that really shouldn't be allowed to divorce. (And some that should be allowed to horse whip their spouse.)

I'm 40, Disease and drug free, never been married,own a business, etc... BUT I smoke cigarettes AND I care about my parents to the fact that I will not allow them to be placed in a home. Really, I could say some things about women out there that wouldn't be to popular.

As for "S&^% together." Does anyone REALLY have that? Especially in this time of jobless, moneyless, etc... society.

Hi Lennie,

I am also in that same boat. Simply remember to love and protect your children and put them, and yourself, first. Love will come along when it is meant to. You don't need anyone to be a good father figure to your children or a good spouse to you. What you need is someone who your children & you will accept into your family because he has earned the right to be there....by being the man you are capable of meeting (not a cheater, liar, abuser or full of drama).

Focus on you and your children, and one day, Mr. Right will be right were he is supposed to be.

there are so many ppl out there that truly have no idea what they want. the words come easily and they sound nice but when it comes down to it... i dont think they have a clue

I think looking for a father figure is maybe the wrong way to put it. That kinda talk could make many a man run.

But dont forget there are many single fathers out there too, who might be more compatible for you, than some single men with no kids.

I wouldnt throw the towel in yet.

yes starting over is pretty hard. i personally didnt care for the opposite sex for a LONG time until i meet a person on here. she has opened me up. but the distance does suck. actually it works for us we both are busy in our professions and im learning to travel eastward.

you know I feel the same I have been used abused and cheated on so my track record is like yours I can not pick a winner but life is short and I do not want to be alone just waiting for the next lier and cheater because that is what I attract so I am changing and if it happens then it happens from piesave