Hey Moofga, remember this because I went through it with a guy threatening to jump me in the parking lot until I almost killed him in on the Shop floor...
Needless to say he ran like hell from me because I flipped out on him for a change in front of everyone and went right after him armed with a screwdriver and a ball peen hammer, and I mean a BIG screwdriver.

First file a complaint with Human Resources to get it on record.
Demand action because the employ "is creating a threatening and hostile work environment." That phrase is VERY IMPORTANT!
After the third time you file get an attorney and let your attorney address HR and their superiors over the matter. if they have not fired that employee and their behavior continues past that point QUIT and sue the crap out of the employer!
As long as you got records most attorneys see this as a slam dunk and money in the bank!
I bet by the time an attorney calls HR over the incidents that the person in question will have been put in place or FIRED.
If it is a superior of yours they are in for a wake up call. if you are fired as a result of having to get an attorney then they are literally putting their neck on the Guillotine and getting ready to yank the release rope themselves!
Good for you that you stand up to them!!!!

I was in an abusive relationship for 7yrs, with the father of my kids. To elaborate a bit, i met him just after my gran passed away (we lived with my gran) when i was 17. At first, he was charming, and very much in love with me. Within a year, i fell pregnant, and we decided to make a go of it, and moved in together. Just a few weeks after my first son was born, he slapped me really hard on the face, this was to be the beginning of many cruel beatings on me.

I was very vulnerable at that point of my life, and he had emotionally manipulated me into believing i was worth nothing. I thought cos i had made my bed, i had to lay in it. I wanted to be with the father of my child cos i didnt want to be a single mum, i was afraid of the stigma and the unknown. I also believed him every time he said sorry and that it would stop, but it only ever got worse. He had/has issues from his past, and he is also bipolar.

It didnt help that my own parents had an abusive relationship, in a weird way, i think it made it seem more acceptable. My friends were great, they tried really hard to get me away from him, but he just had way too much control over me, and i started keeping the beatings to myself, cos i knew wat my friends and family would say.

Anyhoo, i went on to have a second son, and a yr after that i had a miscarriage. I place a lot of the blame on him for that cos of the way he treated me throughout it, and it was then i knew i had to get away from him, and that i didnt love him anymore.

I discovered i was way stronger than him, and that he had sapped me of my strength over a long period of yrs. It took me about a yr of rebuilding my confidence to finally end it. He had a nervous breakdown when we broke up, but i did not feel guilty, he had tried to strangle me, broke my nose, burst my eardrum, and split my eyebrow by headbutting me...and various other acts of cruelty.

Ppl who try and control others r usually very weak individuals, who seek out strong characters, who they think can carry them thru life emotionally. They drain ppl of their energy and leave them depleted and vulnerable, this in itself, gives that opportunity to control.

I will NEVER be controlled again, i was in a black hole for a long time, and it took me too long to get out of it. It took me a couple of yrs to get back to the real me, and i have grown stronger with every yr that has passed.

My ex was verbally and emotionally abusive. I put up with it for a number of years before it finally got bad enough that I knew I needed to make change. Once I started standing up for myself it was over in a matter of months and I believe that if I hadn't left exactly when I did that it would have turned physical. And yeah, his best friend would be there sometimes, and he just ignored it.

I also had a run in with a real wonderful guy at work. About the time that he was saying he wanted to kick my a$$ I submitted a complaint to HR. After about 5 weeks and another complaint, the company decided that the best way to deal with the situation was to get rid of me. It's being handled by the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission now.

I usally ignore idiots because i know its really about, envy or dysfunction. But i like to defend people and humiliate bullies! I really enjoy beating up guys that are bullies, makes me feel good! lol...... I HATE HATERS! I IGNORE IGNORANCE! They should allow men to handle things the old fashion way this would solve a lot of this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think a good old fashion a$$ wouping never hurt anyone and it will teach these men that women have men in their lives and they better show some damn respect! A pet "p" in me with men disrespecting women!!!!!!!!! It really pisses me off and it tells me they are a punk and need a lesson taught to them! Men that disrespect women are cowards and do it because they cant handle facing a man like this so they pick on a woman......okay ranting i f'n hate this.

Moved in with a guy and when things went south and I bad mouthed his new girlfriend.He had me pinned against the wall with his hand on my throat thank God he came to his senses, I was out of there with all my belongs the next morning. When someone tells you that people are afraid of him and that his coe-workers think he is phyco believe him!

Emotional---I DIDN`T GET OUT,I KICKED HIM OUT!!!!If a relationship is not healthy and doesn`t make you happy get out!!!! His family blamed me for years for our divorce, but after he moved in with them, they knew the truth.He is in jail now and I`m friends with his mother and sisters.

Isn't it funny how that works? I have a relationship with my ex's family now and he doesn't. His anger spilled over onto them after I was no longer a whipping post for his mean words. Finally they saw the light after many many years. I'm glad to say I could forgive them and develop a relationship so that my kids can see their family.

Well in my case, blood is thicker than water, and his family still blame me for the relationship breakdown.

Oh well, eitherway, it doesnt affect me no matter wat they think i am.

If you're ever hit, abused, humiliated in public and nobody came to your aid, you're living in the north. Cause down here every single man in the house will stand up for any woman being abused. In public anyway.

My girls both have been from South Louisiana (the best kind) and if you THOUGHT about mistreating them, they'd be cooking Boudin in a bowl made from your severed skull the next morning. These abusers need to just get em a Cajun girl. That'll fix em.

My wife was just a douchebag does that count, other than that they have been pretty good women.

i had some friends verbally gang up on me one night.
i sat through it and then dismissed them all the next day.


. . .

I filed for divorce.

ooohhhh Weee,
after 12 of my teeth being knocked out,and couple black eyes....
I stayed in the hosp..awile

Then.. well let me tell you, when I got out, this mad B!tch went home got my shot gun and got his azz out..and have never looked back.

And I will never put myself through that again.

also have filed for divorce.

You brought back one of my topics! Awesome, thanks!

My name is Luka, I live on the second floor...

You know it is really sad that so many have went through this type of abuse. Only thing my ex ever did was yell at me well to me that is nothing compared to the actually hitting. My ex never laid a hand on me and I have never been hit by a man. Gawd forbid that one would ever raise a hand to me now at my age for he would not walk away if he left me standing.

My heart goes out to those that have dealt with those that have used them for a punching bag. I have heard many times when others would say why do they not walk away. It is not as easy as it seems they gain there trust then slowly take away their confidence and make them believe they are worthless. It's sad but true the abusers end up with so much control over them they are too scared to leave until something finally goes off like a light bulb and they finally see that if they don't get out they will breath there last breath getting beat.