Is it true? If your relationship is starting to seem routine and you feel as if you are just getting bored do you think it's better to just distance yourself a bit and do more things on your own?

I think we all start to get comfortable and forget to be thankful for what we have sometimes and taking a step back helps to regain insight of things and what you do appreciate in your relationship.Am i alone on this thought?

More like distance makes the heart forget. If boredom or routine occur somethings not right, heads start to turn, plug distance in and you may get a result you didn't intend for.

Could be right.

Agreed.

The only problem with distance is that you also run the chance of making the heart grow more distant, as well.

I think it depends on the relationship........I think some distance does help a relationship and puts things into perspective...........I think it can work as long at its not overdone..................

its a tricky one, must be careful

Must proceed with caution.

Says the moooooooooooonkey...........

Monkey???

I've often felt distance without the actual physical distance being there. I've also felt close to some people I've never actually met. I've also wanted distance from some situations, only to have to tolorate hatred for half of a year and yet the other person doesn't want to let go of the marriage, most likely out of spite and bitterness. I let go over a year ago and have had the papers ready and the divorce paid for long ago as well. She will have no choice, as her signature wont be required soon. Distance is a nasty metaphor sometimes being like a butter knife and other times being like the Texas Chainsaw massacre aimed at my testicles as a woman with a shark tooth smile revs up the engine. I calmly walk away, and try not to feed that fire in her eyes.



I appreciate the empty space I have reserved for my family of choice, physically, spiritually and metaphorically. It sometimes brings sadness and that I accept as well.

You have to be careful.. cause for every action there is a re-action and sometimes not the one we're expecting or hoping for.

This is the key, find someone you enjoy outside of sex! If you just like kicking it with them you wont get bored. I have this issue, i really love the girly girl type, but they tend to have little in common with me! Wheres the princess that likes to do guy things?????????? Gosh i wish i could find her!!!!!!!

Have u tried the gitl-next-door type? they r usually girlie with a zest for the guy things?

Anyhoo, imo, distance can make the heart grow fonder, but it depends on the couple and the circumstances.

I miss Dan when we havent seen eachother for a while, and i just appreciate him more when i do see him.

Too much space just makes more space. It's just like outer space... continually expanding

Maybe when you have moved in with me i will have to send you away from time to time!!

That is an individual thing.....my woman works in China for God's sake....I love her as much now as when it was just puppy love when we were kids.

If it is the real thing with the one you are meant for...distance is irrelevant.

My boyfriend lives about an hour away and we work such different hours that we only see each other one day a week...so far it has worked for us

Like some of you have said, i think it does depend on the people involved. As long as you aren't crossing the line when you are apart then i think it is a good thing sometimes. We all need our space and our own time to do things for ourselves even when we are in love. It's healthy.

distance is great for those bad hair days and times when I dont want to get out of my jammiezzzz!!!