A thought began to occur to me as I have began reflecting on my participation in dating sites like Mingle. What are people really looking for? What are the standards they have when looking for someone to date? What qualities rule people out as an option?
Like i said in a previous blog concerning euegenics I have began to get the impression that these standards people have may be something of shallow in nature. My question to you all is what is acceptable when ruling people out as a potential match? Age? Race? Height? Weight? Education? Health? Employment? Seriously now, what in your opinion allows us as far as standards go to have the right to still say we are a civilized decent society and people? Or is it really as simple as natural selection, where the strongest and "best" are the only ones fit for selection? Just curious if I am wasting my time?

I'm looking for... that "spark". That tingle you get in your stomach. That smile I get when my phone rings and I see it's him. Yes... that's what I'm looking for.

i think it mostly has do with lust.

if you come across a pic of an ugly woman do you take the time to read her profile?

there has to be some kind of attraction for a person so you'll take the time to know more about them,even then it's still more of a lustful thought because how many people are actually honestespecially on web sites.

now if you meet an ugly woman that is with your friends then some time is there to make an honest judgment rather than a lustful thought as most do on web sites.

Don't confuse the "spark and tingle" with gas!

I don't have a set of standards. I have to have an attraction to someone. But there's no set thing that makes me attracted to him or not.

Sounds good to me!

Evolution and Darwin's observations sure do not flatter us now do they?

Women "Looking for Prince Charming", and "Looking for my King"....

Translation....

I am lazy and want a rich guy to marry so I can live the life of a kept woman and not have to work.

Instinctual? To a strong degree.

Respectable? Not really. That thinking is biased and also wrecks the ideals of equality. Men are viewed unfairly as the ones who are suppose to be sole supporters of families but women scream how unfair life is to them and how biased men are towards them.

DON'T GET ME WRONG!!! There are women that do not buy into the thinking a man has to support them BUT it is a social bias that Americans have not over come yet!!!!!! There are and I mean ARE a lot of women who feel men owe them a living. Spread their legs a little and they get it all handed to them. I am not trying to stereotype ALL women like that but for those who do fit this stereo type.....


BEYACTH! YOU ALREADY DONE BEEN DISMISSED FROM MY COURT!
I ain't got no time for worthless people in MY court!

To the rest of the real women out there...

and mad props!

My kingdom salutes you!!!!!!

Groovy...

I’m looking for nothing. I have no agendas or preconceived notions. In fact, I’m easily annoyed and I grow inpatient with people in general. I fully admit to this as being some kind of character flaw. Woe is to the man that endures.

Intelligence, articulate creative individuals who can see farther than their toenails, and be objective, or willing to allow other views and experiences to be shared....that may possibly expand their world.

Diversity, tolerance, objectivity.

That's what I look for within this site in others...

People who WALK their TALK... and haven't bought into their own propaganda.

Can they form proper sentence structure and speak clearly? I'm sold...

This describes me fairly well, only I do not want anyone to endure me woe, or no. The only endurance needed should be in bed.

Well said Jess. I would hope we can all strive for more tolerance and objectivity, I know that is something I try and have succeeded in gaining as I have grown older. Its a journey not a destination.