I have this guy friend who I really like...when we hang out he opens the car door for me every single time and he pays for EVERYTHING...he will NOT let me pay ever...is he being friendly? or does he want to become more then friends? the reason im so confused is because when we do "hang out" he comes off as very distant...he doesnt talk much and it makes the situation awkward...is he shy? Guys, would u pay for everything for a girl who was just a friend to you?

He is too shy and wants to be with you; you may need to set the tone right for him to respond or make the first move yourself.

talk to him , he might feel the same way but isnt sure you do,. good luck!!

He pays for everything and is distant when you hang out. How long have you known this guy?

Paying for everything is an attempt to impress you with his financial stability.

He seems distant because he's restraining himself from telling you how he really feels. He's afraid you'll either be freaked out or won't feel the same way.

If you really like this guy, give him a break-- come out and tell him that you like him and ask how he feels about you; he'll warm up real quick.

If you're not sure how you feel about him, get him to tell you about himself. Guys feel better when a beautiful woman shows interest in who they are.

Let me know if I was right, hm? I'm curious!

He's trying to be a gentleman (where chivalry used to be important) with his kind actions to you. HE more-than-likely may also be shy as well and might not be able to tell you how he feels. I wouldn't be surprised if there were some slight trust or fear issues going on as well- he's probably nervous about speaking to you.

I know this because I'm the very same way- people mistake my being quiet as being "distant".

The thing you should do is be nice to him and encourage him to open up. Given time, he'll start to be more extroverted.

Oh, you are blonde. Of course he likes you.

Usually when I hang out with a girl, whether it be just a friend, date, prospective date, co-worker, classmate or whatever, I pay for everything, only exception is if it's in a group setting, or if the girl insists (I have a friend who pay for everything herself, but then again, she's a bit of feminist).

But that's just me, most guys won't do that unless they want something more. My guess is that the situation is awkward only for you. Some guys (like myself) don't feel it necessary to talk too much, actions speak louder than words. If he comes off as distant, let him know and see what happens.

he probably likes you - but if it is awkward with him he may not be right for you...

when it's right it is just natural...and obvious...

talk to him, this isnt the fifties the girl can ask out the guy/make the first move

With eyes like those, yeah, he likes ya.

without a doubt

but i would say that he probably really likes you and that he's nervous and doesn't want to say anything that would turn you off.

if you really like him, tell him that you're interested and that he shouldn't be nervous and to just be himself. hopefully that will loosen him up.
i think that the paying for everything is a way for him to try to impress you, but it could also be a way to try to buy your affection. be careful. you may suggest that you guys split the bill for stuff or maybe even take turns paying. he probably won't go for it, but i think it's the best way to keep things even.

just some suggestions.

He definately wants to do dirty bad things with you!!!

I hope people have good hearts and freely do things without expecting anything in return but from all the men I have know in my life that doesn't happen a lot.

Men don't freely do things in general they usually expect something in the end. Just look at the threads around here and you'll see that most have said that they will pay for a while but the lady will have to give something back (mmmm) at one point or they will leave.

Id at least want a hug. rite? a hug from that beautiful eyed beauty would b all i need 4 appreciation

Wow, I must be doing something wrong according to these posts..





personally I have friends ( female) that I do those things all the time with.. Yes I open car doors being a gentleman all the right manners I was taught through out life. And yes whenI am out with friends and I can afford it I do pay for everything we do. Iasked them out as a friend to join me.. No matter what it was.. BUT I have never expected anything in return except their friendship... Not a quickie or a afternoon romp or any other "sexual" favor. I guess I am old school.

Ok think back............waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay back. Now pretend you are a 22 year old GUY!!!

My male friends have always paid for everything when I'm with them. They won't let me contribute.

All the men that I know, family included, open the doors for women.

Sounds like he is a shy person. Instead of using words he is using actions to let you know he is interested. Don't be worried about making the first move and/or second move. Men like that.

Maybe he just likes looking up your skirt?

Time to pounce!