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Topic: Pics
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Sun 01/25/09 02:55 PM


I've seen two men on here in two days with naked pictures of their sons as their main photo.

Does anybody see anything wrong with that? Or is it only an issue if the child is female?





I will admit I didn't read all these posts. I will give you my opinion of any one posting pictures of others on the internet children is really a pet peeve of mine.
I think it is great to be proud of your children, I also think it is wonderful to share them with others. The internet is NOT the place to do it.

If anyone has done any research or worked with Sex Offenders they would know just how dangerous this really is. Anyone that is on public site can be found very easy to do actually. The majority of Sex Offenders will fantize of the act a long long time before they actually do it. Something triggers each one of them, that could be a body type, eye color, hair what ever. If there is a picture of said perfect one for them on the internet. Well, I think alot of people would be surprised as to what lengths this type of predator will go to; to obtain the prize.
Any nude picture of a child on a profile is in my opinion a type of porn... Period, a child can't give their permission for it to be there. So therefore to me it is posted not only unethically but illegally and I would report it post haste.

sorry for the spelling errors.


well the problem is you have been misinformed. The picture i had up was not in anyway a pornagraphic photo and i did take it down. It was just my son with no shirt showing his muscals. i thought it was cute! The rest of your statement i find paranoid and unrealistic. I have in no way endangered my children by posting pictures of them up i know that and to assume otherwise is wrong. there are ways to responsibly use computers without endangering your family and i have already done that so sorry your just not right in my case okay?

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Sun 01/25/09 03:07 PM



Just out of curiosity....what if there was a photo of a happy, smiling baby, just taken out of a bath, lying on their stomach, so nothing was visible except the profile of their little butt?


i think these photos "these photos i mean musics comment"are beautiful! I love little children!!!!! They are so precious and kissable i just dont get it honestly..... I have an imense love for my children and its really a part of who i am! Quite frankly i am still shocked and confused by the criticism. I dont think i will ever get how people associate nudity and pornography! They are completely two different subjects if you ask me. But the photo i had up was just my son from the belly button up. I thought it was very cute. But i guess some people seen it differently and i dont like that at all. I would hate for someone to see my kid in that way! it infuriates me acctually that someone would do that. Its very offensive! The worst thing you could do is attack someone about their kids ,thats really a low blow!!!!!!!


He is a beautiful child. There are pervs out there that like to look at pics like that. We cannot relate to it but they do exist.flowerforyou



Thank you for the compliment about my sonflowers

papersmile's photo
Sun 01/25/09 03:13 PM
well see i am glad i know that i acctually think you are quite attractive and i had an impression you where a very nice person. but now i know to not contact you. see a goal was accomplished in me posting that pic so its not all bad. But you know i have received many compliments on that pic and i am seeking a woman that is comfortable with her sexuality. your photos acctually made me think that you are comfortable with your sexualty so that comment wasnt aimed at you. they are quite sedutive even though they arent showing anything. you see even though you may see me as unattractive i have no problem saying i think you are. You really are limiting yourself though cause i am a wonderful person and i think my greatest quality is my caring heart, so i think your thinking may be causing you to miss out on a wonderful man. not to say thats me but everyone has flaws and you will never find a perfect man. i have been chatting with quite a few people and the one i find the most attractive is for her mind and her heart. Assumptions really limit ones ability to see life as it really is. I am confident and I dont need anyone to tell me who i am and i will be myself and hope that a woman finds me attractive just the way i am. Honestly i almost did not want to post those pics and added them later cause i felt i was being a little brash. but thats just me so in the long run i think i did the right thing. But you know what about the guys that are not as confident as me? Your comments might make them hide in a shell and may do more damage than you intend. Not all people have many options, some have few and its difficult for them to find someone. But you know what for all the woman looking for a male punching bag bring it! I could probably use a little more humility in my life so i really am intrigued by the criticism as long as it is construtive and not without content and filled with malice. I value others opinions and like to know how others see me and i like to know why i can be so misunderstood at times. So pretty lady your comments dim your beauty in my opinion and i hope you can see that as a construtive statement and not an attack. Mr. over anylizing


well it's a good thing then, isn't it, that i'm not trying to make myself attractive to others.

SitkaRains's photo
Sun 01/25/09 03:25 PM



I've seen two men on here in two days with naked pictures of their sons as their main photo.

Does anybody see anything wrong with that? Or is it only an issue if the child is female?





I will admit I didn't read all these posts. I will give you my opinion of any one posting pictures of others on the internet children is really a pet peeve of mine.
I think it is great to be proud of your children, I also think it is wonderful to share them with others. The internet is NOT the place to do it.

If anyone has done any research or worked with Sex Offenders they would know just how dangerous this really is. Anyone that is on public site can be found very easy to do actually. The majority of Sex Offenders will fantize of the act a long long time before they actually do it. Something triggers each one of them, that could be a body type, eye color, hair what ever. If there is a picture of said perfect one for them on the internet. Well, I think alot of people would be surprised as to what lengths this type of predator will go to; to obtain the prize.
Any nude picture of a child on a profile is in my opinion a type of porn... Period, a child can't give their permission for it to be there. So therefore to me it is posted not only unethically but illegally and I would report it post haste.

sorry for the spelling errors.


well the problem is you have been misinformed. The picture i had up was not in anyway a pornagraphic photo and i did take it down. It was just my son with no shirt showing his muscals. i thought it was cute! The rest of your statement i find paranoid and unrealistic. I have in no way endangered my children by posting pictures of them up i know that and to assume otherwise is wrong. there are ways to responsibly use computers without endangering your family and i have already done that so sorry your just not right in my case okay?

You are entitled to your Opinion we all have them. Till You walk a mile in my shoes and what I do for a living please don't call me unrealistic or paranoid. I have been doing my line of work for almost 20 years. I have been on both sides of the fence.
I won't be coming back into this thread since I am sure I would let it fly with enough stat's and temper that I would get a vacation.
I didn't commment directly on your picture I didn't see it I commented in general.
Maybe you are protesting to much. I stated if it was a nude picture of a child that falls under porn. Look up laws don't take my word for it. If your child's penis was showing that is porn black and white.

no photo
Sun 01/25/09 04:01 PM




I've seen two men on here in two days with naked pictures of their sons as their main photo.

Does anybody see anything wrong with that? Or is it only an issue if the child is female?





I will admit I didn't read all these posts. I will give you my opinion of any one posting pictures of others on the internet children is really a pet peeve of mine.
I think it is great to be proud of your children, I also think it is wonderful to share them with others. The internet is NOT the place to do it.

If anyone has done any research or worked with Sex Offenders they would know just how dangerous this really is. Anyone that is on public site can be found very easy to do actually. The majority of Sex Offenders will fantize of the act a long long time before they actually do it. Something triggers each one of them, that could be a body type, eye color, hair what ever. If there is a picture of said perfect one for them on the internet. Well, I think alot of people would be surprised as to what lengths this type of predator will go to; to obtain the prize.
Any nude picture of a child on a profile is in my opinion a type of porn... Period, a child can't give their permission for it to be there. So therefore to me it is posted not only unethically but illegally and I would report it post haste.

sorry for the spelling errors.


well the problem is you have been misinformed. The picture i had up was not in anyway a pornagraphic photo and i did take it down. It was just my son with no shirt showing his muscals. i thought it was cute! The rest of your statement i find paranoid and unrealistic. I have in no way endangered my children by posting pictures of them up i know that and to assume otherwise is wrong. there are ways to responsibly use computers without endangering your family and i have already done that so sorry your just not right in my case okay?

You are entitled to your Opinion we all have them. Till You walk a mile in my shoes and what I do for a living please don't call me unrealistic or paranoid. I have been doing my line of work for almost 20 years. I have been on both sides of the fence.
I won't be coming back into this thread since I am sure I would let it fly with enough stat's and temper that I would get a vacation.
I didn't commment directly on your picture I didn't see it I commented in general.
Maybe you are protesting to much. I stated if it was a nude picture of a child that falls under porn. Look up laws don't take my word for it. If your child's penis was showing that is porn black and white.



I stand by my statement! I am sorry cause i can see your trying to avoid a dog fight but the reality is neither of us have enough information to make a sound judgement. So i think its better to just give eachother the benefit of doubt.

no photo
Sun 01/25/09 04:24 PM
Okay based on the content of this thread i would like to share some information make people feel safer. I have a drgree in Computer science and there are ways to make it near impossible for someone to hack your computer. keep in mind that i am no computer guru i acctually never worked for long in computers. but hopefully this information will help people secure their computers and more importantly their families.

Computers send packets of information across data lines and in every packet there is an address. What they call a mac address. this info can be traced and back to you. it is all encrypted but not difficult to dycipher. however they sell software that encrypts this info in a way that makes it near impossible to get passed. thats only part of the equation because they can still hack in to your computer and steal info. So thats why we have firewalls, i sujest using two firewalls this is difficult to setup but it can be done without conflict if done properly. what a secondary firewall accomplishes is the algorythm that is attempting to get thru does not realize that it has got passed the first firewall and it moves on and never acctually gets thru. So I know that you can very cheaply make your computer near perfectly secure. Ofcourse there is no way to ever make it completely secure. But you can make it near impossible. i hope this helped and i am sure there may be better ways but this is how i secure my computer!

Rock's photo
Sun 01/25/09 05:36 PM

Okay based on the content of this thread i would like to share some information make people feel safer. I have a drgree in Computer science and there are ways to make it near impossible for someone to hack your computer. keep in mind that i am no computer guru i acctually never worked for long in computers. but hopefully this information will help people secure their computers and more importantly their families.

Computers send packets of information across data lines and in every packet there is an address. What they call a mac address. this info can be traced and back to you. it is all encrypted but not difficult to dycipher. however they sell software that encrypts this info in a way that makes it near impossible to get passed. thats only part of the equation because they can still hack in to your computer and steal info. So thats why we have firewalls, i sujest using two firewalls this is difficult to setup but it can be done without conflict if done properly. what a secondary firewall accomplishes is the algorythm that is attempting to get thru does not realize that it has got passed the first firewall and it moves on and never acctually gets thru. So I know that you can very cheaply make your computer near perfectly secure. Ofcourse there is no way to ever make it completely secure. But you can make it near impossible. i hope this helped and i am sure there may be better ways but this is how i secure my computer!


With the education level that you've stated about yourself, you remain oblivious to the fact that the issue isn't about securing software. It's about securing kids from the unknowns that are emailed with, whom we might voluntarily let slip some of our personal details.

You may be well suited in a profession at Radio Shack. But lack experience in areas of the counseling that any of the victims of crime have to go through. You lack any experience in prevention from the law enforcement side as well.

Software may be fine and dandy.
But misses the point.

Many feel strongly on both sides of the issue, about posting pics of minor children on an adult dating site.
I personally feel that doing so is either an act of flippancy, or an act of stupidity.

Take your pick.

Winx's photo
Sun 01/25/09 06:54 PM



wow i am starting to beleive we live in communist china. tears Its amazing how restrictive people are and they feel they have the right to make rules or impose there will on others. Sometimes i wonder if people just post to say something and really dont have any real moral coviction at all in there opinion. No logical thought proccess just jump in with there judgement and oponion. Ofcourse their opinion should be imposed on others as well. I dont see any realistic risk what so ever posting a picture. are you saying some perv might masturbate while drooling over my kids picture? How would i ever know? Well i would of never thought of it but thanks for the thought. I think moms are just a little over protective sometimes.... and when i see women with kids in there profile i just think she is showing us her children thats all.... whats the big deal jeez...


When I made the thread, I was asking questions. I did not mention you.



dont get me wrong i realize this, i also realize that my photo was not the same as the other. i am just saying why do people feel compelled to critisize others? In my opinion this is wrong! I can understand if it was hurting another but if not its not right. Honestly when people do this it makes me think they are gossipy and enjoy talking bad about others and its something i loathe. I have never once thought it was wrong that someone posted any pic. I dont care what it is thats their personality and they are smart to show who they are if they want a good match. I have photos of me up that are hints of who i am and the different sides of my personality. i have half naked photos of myself that i know some woman find shallow and brash. But you see i dont want that woman that sees a photograph and makes such assumptions. I am quite modest acctually I rarely wear revealing clothing it makes me feel uncomfortable unless the surroundings warrant such clothing. I wear suits to work and am usally dressed quite conservative. I am proud of my body though and i know that it helps to find someone when you show that you are concerned about taking care of yourself. Some people are looking for someone they can share this common interest in. Sites making rules is fine i mean the kkk is a legal a orginazation but im not looking to join that orginazation either. I am not offended by others opinions unless they have no real warrant or substance. This i find is really about them not how you offend them. they have this close minded oneness that they see as reality. I myself try to look at ones opinion and see if i am wrong or see their point of view. When someone refuses to admit they are wrong and unwilling to understand that others are entitled to thier opinion is quite mind boggling to me. I mean is it accurate to think that your way is best? Is it right to think someone else is weird or strange cause they see things differently? Does someone have to be stupid or immoral cause they dont share your opinion? Is posting what you dislike really constuctive in anyway if you know that it will offend someone? honestly i think that thier are some on here that are bigoted and unrealistic. try to open your mind to what may be and not so much to what you think you know.

I don't feel that asking questions is criticizing others.

Winx's photo
Sun 01/25/09 06:54 PM


I've seen two men on here in two days with naked pictures of their sons as their main photo.

Does anybody see anything wrong with that? Or is it only an issue if the child is female?





I will admit I didn't read all these posts. I will give you my opinion of any one posting pictures of others on the internet children is really a pet peeve of mine.
I think it is great to be proud of your children, I also think it is wonderful to share them with others. The internet is NOT the place to do it.

If anyone has done any research or worked with Sex Offenders they would know just how dangerous this really is. Anyone that is on public site can be found very easy to do actually. The majority of Sex Offenders will fantize of the act a long long time before they actually do it. Something triggers each one of them, that could be a body type, eye color, hair what ever. If there is a picture of said perfect one for them on the internet. Well, I think alot of people would be surprised as to what lengths this type of predator will go to; to obtain the prize.
Any nude picture of a child on a profile is in my opinion a type of porn... Period, a child can't give their permission for it to be there. So therefore to me it is posted not only unethically but illegally and I would report it post haste.

sorry for the spelling errors.


This is so true.

Winx's photo
Sun 01/25/09 06:55 PM




Just out of curiosity....what if there was a photo of a happy, smiling baby, just taken out of a bath, lying on their stomach, so nothing was visible except the profile of their little butt?


i think these photos "these photos i mean musics comment"are beautiful! I love little children!!!!! They are so precious and kissable i just dont get it honestly..... I have an imense love for my children and its really a part of who i am! Quite frankly i am still shocked and confused by the criticism. I dont think i will ever get how people associate nudity and pornography! They are completely two different subjects if you ask me. But the photo i had up was just my son from the belly button up. I thought it was very cute. But i guess some people seen it differently and i dont like that at all. I would hate for someone to see my kid in that way! it infuriates me acctually that someone would do that. Its very offensive! The worst thing you could do is attack someone about their kids ,thats really a low blow!!!!!!!


He is a beautiful child. There are pervs out there that like to look at pics like that. We cannot relate to it but they do exist.flowerforyou



Thank you for the compliment about my sonflowers


You're welcome.flowerforyou

Redshirt's photo
Sun 01/25/09 07:38 PM
Rock, Your point is well made. There is a difference in the forms of security. Though we may think we have taken all of the technical precautions...there is no way the typical home system will ever be completely secure. The more important point though is with regards to the security of those that are important to us. I would love to post some pictures of me and my grand-children enjoying life together. Yet the harsh reality is that it would put them at risk. That is something I will not/can not do. My love for them is too great. Even though they are not biologically my grand-children. Spiritually they are.

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