Topic: it's tough having the heart & soul of an artist
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Sun 01/25/09 11:24 AM

To be completely honest. I don't care if the one i find and love, lives in a cardboard box on the side of the road. As long as we have love, honest, commucation, it doesn't matter if he has money, a car, house, anything. As long as we have each other.


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Oh really?

I hope you enjoy your cardboard box. laugh :wink:

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Sun 01/25/09 11:28 AM



To be completely honest. I don't care if the one i find and love, lives in a cardboard box on the side of the road. As long as we have love, honest, commucation, it doesn't matter if he has money, a car, house, anything. As long as we have each other.


I call bs...


So do I.



Well come on guys. Give her that until the temps go below freezing. Then homeless ain't lovable anymore.:laughing:

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Sun 01/25/09 11:31 AM
everyone has their motives.. a relationship requires compromise..if you can't find a way to work together.. it won't work....

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Sun 01/25/09 11:50 AM


I am president of the Justaguy fan club!:heart:


I have a fan club???

I wondered why people kept sending me pictures and asking for autographs.slaphead


You want me to find that thread?

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Sun 01/25/09 11:52 AM





To be completely honest. I don't care if the one i find and love, lives in a cardboard box on the side of the road. As long as we have love, honest, commucation, it doesn't matter if he has money, a car, house, anything. As long as we have each other.


I call bs...


So do I.


So be it. You believe what you want to. And it's fine that you don't. But just because i'm young, doesn't mean jack. It's who I am and how i am. I was raised to be thankful and grateful for what you have.


Great! You can remember that when the bills start coming in, or when you get hungry, or when winter arrives.


No no no. I didn't say I didn't have a car, or job or money. You make it sound as if there isn't men out there looking for the same thing us, women are getting accused of looking for. Which some women do look for that but not ALL women.

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Sun 01/25/09 11:55 AM






To be completely honest. I don't care if the one i find and love, lives in a cardboard box on the side of the road. As long as we have love, honest, commucation, it doesn't matter if he has money, a car, house, anything. As long as we have each other.


I call bs...


So do I.


So be it. You believe what you want to. And it's fine that you don't. But just because i'm young, doesn't mean jack. It's who I am and how i am. I was raised to be thankful and grateful for what you have.


Great! You can remember that when the bills start coming in, or when you get hungry, or when winter arrives.


No no no. I didn't say I didn't have a car, or job or money. You make it sound as if there isn't men out there looking for the same thing us, women are getting accused of looking for. Which some women do look for that but not ALL women.


Listen, sweetie....if it walks like a duck and talks like a duck, chances are pretty good it's probably a duck.

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Sun 01/25/09 12:06 PM
I don't care how much money a guy makes, as long as he can live within his means.
I am not ashamed to admit I don't want to support someone who isn't willing to contribute. I don't believe cash is the only contribution either, but "unconditional love" dosn't get the laundry done or pay the bills. Everyone has to meet responsabilities.

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Sun 01/25/09 12:18 PM
I know the feelings of the OP. I live like that myself. My needs are met. My wants are few. I live by faith. I help others. I can't generalize on the gold digger platform but I have dated others who's wants exceed their needs. But knowing me better they realize I'm not that way. Hey, we would all like better in our lives. But right now we should be counting our blessings for what we have. Just my opinion. And I think we have all dated those who have made declarations of what they would like- nice person, communicative, honest. Just to find out they were the biggest walking contradiction we've ever experienced and that's really not what they wanted and that they had ulterior motives. Sad but true.

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Sun 01/25/09 12:24 PM

I know the feelings of the OP. I live like that myself. My needs are met. My wants are few. I live by faith. I help others. I can't generalize on the gold digger platform but I have dated others who's wants exceed their needs. But knowing me better they realize I'm not that way. Hey, we would all like better in our lives. But right now we should be counting our blessings for what we have. Just my opinion. And I think we have all dated those who have made declarations of what they would like- nice person, communicative, honest. Just to find out they were the biggest walking contradiction we've ever experienced and that's really not what they wanted and that they had ulterior motives. Sad but true.


And so say all of us.drinker


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Sun 01/25/09 12:25 PM

SO LETS HAVE JUST SEE WHAT TYPE IS THE MAJORITY, lOVE OF MONEY,MATERIAL AND SELF BENIFITING OR UNCONDITIONALLY LOVING.
{ALL WE WILL HAVE TO DO IS READ THE REPLYS TO THIS POST.}


Oh puh leze. Do you REALLY think that the vast majority of the women who are material oriented are actually going to ADMIT to it on a dating site???

You have got to be kidding.
No I am not kidding read them for yourself just how many ask for certain incomes or the travel ( those 2 are the biggest) or to be able to go out to dinner and movies every week should I continue Its in what they say they like and most times they sayb how ofteten they like to do things.. Its ridulus . After they get divorced they gave up their lives for a man to be his wife and raise their kids . Now the kids are grown and gone they want all they gave up.. Gee maybe they should of thought about that before having kids?
yes... its that way often.

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Sun 01/25/09 12:42 PM
Wow! I'm kinda dismayed at the view some of the guys have of us women and the true bitterness I can almost feel in the some of your words.

So we're either money-hungry, lookin for a sugar daddy to take care of us and/or kids, lookin to see how we benefit.... or we're liars?

What's the point then if you all already have your minds made up about us?

I'm sorry for the experiences that made you feel the way you do, but I guess at this point saying we're not all like that is a moot point.

Makes me wonder why I'm even here.

*shakes head...walks out* sad2

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Sun 01/25/09 12:44 PM

Wow! I'm kinda dismayed at the view some of the guys have of us women and the true bitterness I can almost feel in the some of your words.

So we're either money-hungry, lookin for a sugar daddy to take care of us and/or kids, lookin to see how we benefit.... or we're liars?

What's the point then if you all already have your minds made up about us?

I'm sorry for the experiences that made you feel the way you do, but I guess at this point saying we're not all like that is a moot point.

Makes me wonder why I'm even here.

*shakes head...walks out* sad2


It's often easier to blame someone else, than have to do the work on yourself.....:wink:

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Sun 01/25/09 12:46 PM
No offense intended, Robbi, but like I've said several times in the past....when it's all you've been repeatedly shown, you tend to see the pattern. Granted, I'll admit not all women may be this way, I'm just speaking from my own personal experience. As a result, it's really no wonder how a person can become rather jaded.

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Sun 01/25/09 12:47 PM


Wow! I'm kinda dismayed at the view some of the guys have of us women and the true bitterness I can almost feel in the some of your words.

So we're either money-hungry, lookin for a sugar daddy to take care of us and/or kids, lookin to see how we benefit.... or we're liars?

What's the point then if you all already have your minds made up about us?

I'm sorry for the experiences that made you feel the way you do, but I guess at this point saying we're not all like that is a moot point.

Makes me wonder why I'm even here.

*shakes head...walks out* sad2


It's often easier to blame someone else, than have to do the work on yourself.....:wink:


Or it could be geography, social setting, economy, status, etc. I've worked on myself and came pretty damn far from what I used to be, but I'm not going to be the only one pulling 100% for a relationship.

Not that I blamed anyone, but just noting the flaws in that shady theory that I get tired of bloody hearing all the time.

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Sun 01/25/09 12:50 PM

No offense intended, Robbi, but like I've said several times in the past....when it's all you've been repeatedly shown, you tend to see the pattern. Granted, I'll admit not all women may be this way, I'm just speaking from my own personal experience. As a result, it's really no wonder how a person can become rather jaded.


We've all had bad experiences....this thread just makes me wanna cry. It's just so sad.

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Sun 01/25/09 12:54 PM

oh and btw.. It does appear way to often that women want the following from a guy (reading profiles in other sites)....


1) a great (not just good) job and make over $100,000
2) a harley ( bad boy issues)
3) a good home, toys, quad bikes etc.
4) a desire to do world travel.
5) a college education, or more
6) be a ( should I dare say this) a nice guy, no drama
communication, honesty etc etc

and its usually in that order go figure



That is soooo wrong. I numbered them to make my reply easier.

Me:
1) Could care less.
2) No.
3) Already have home.
4) No.
5) Doesn't matter.
6) Yes!!!


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Sun 01/25/09 12:56 PM

No offense intended, Robbi, but like I've said several times in the past....when it's all you've been repeatedly shown, you tend to see the pattern. Granted, I'll admit not all women may be this way, I'm just speaking from my own personal experience. As a result, it's really no wonder how a person can become rather jaded.


May I ask what was the common denominator in these past bad experiences? And repeatedly shown the same behaviours...what was the common denominator there?


you, perhaps?


just some food for thought... if one continues to see the world through distorted lenses..(jaded) how is it possible to get a different veiw, other than clear the filters/lenses?

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Sun 01/25/09 12:59 PM


No offense intended, Robbi, but like I've said several times in the past....when it's all you've been repeatedly shown, you tend to see the pattern. Granted, I'll admit not all women may be this way, I'm just speaking from my own personal experience. As a result, it's really no wonder how a person can become rather jaded.


May I ask what was the common denominator in these past bad experiences? And repeatedly shown the same behaviours...what was the common denominator there?


you, perhaps?


just some food for thought... if one continues to see the world through distorted lenses..(jaded) how is it possible to get a different veiw, other than clear the filters/lenses?


Again...common denominator can be a number of things such as but not limited too, geography, social setting, economy, status...quit using such a vague patsy.

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Sun 01/25/09 01:01 PM



No offense intended, Robbi, but like I've said several times in the past....when it's all you've been repeatedly shown, you tend to see the pattern. Granted, I'll admit not all women may be this way, I'm just speaking from my own personal experience. As a result, it's really no wonder how a person can become rather jaded.


May I ask what was the common denominator in these past bad experiences? And repeatedly shown the same behaviours...what was the common denominator there?


you, perhaps?


just some food for thought... if one continues to see the world through distorted lenses..(jaded) how is it possible to get a different veiw, other than clear the filters/lenses?


Again...common denominator can be a number of things such as but not limited too, geography, social setting, economy, status...quit using such a vague patsy.



Bah hahahahah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The base common denominator, after taking away ALL OUTSIDE contributors....is still you...

and Mr Music is not a vague patsy.... you may be... but only you know that!!!

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Sun 01/25/09 01:07 PM




No offense intended, Robbi, but like I've said several times in the past....when it's all you've been repeatedly shown, you tend to see the pattern. Granted, I'll admit not all women may be this way, I'm just speaking from my own personal experience. As a result, it's really no wonder how a person can become rather jaded.


May I ask what was the common denominator in these past bad experiences? And repeatedly shown the same behaviours...what was the common denominator there?


you, perhaps?


just some food for thought... if one continues to see the world through distorted lenses..(jaded) how is it possible to get a different veiw, other than clear the filters/lenses?


Again...common denominator can be a number of things such as but not limited too, geography, social setting, economy, status...quit using such a vague patsy.



Bah hahahahah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The base common denominator, after taking away ALL OUTSIDE contributors....is still you...

and Mr Music is not a vague patsy.... you may be... but only you know that!!!

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Yep. You get what you think about. If you believe it and if you think about it, your subconscious mind will alert your attention to every single gold digger that comes within your view. That is because your subconscious mind thinks that is what you want and expect so it is on the look out for just that in order to give you what you want.

Law of attraction. drinker