And there the gender vs character case must rest!

I agree with this, but a man can choose to fight against his impulses for love.

"Why do men" "why do women"

"Who's urinating out a resentment?"

if u are refering to me.... u know me better than that... would never do that 2 u

Related to another post in another thread...this is much like a 'drama' or a 'nice guy' topic.

...and THAT is why dogs bite people! LOL!
And why they hump legs

Men and women both cheat and there are many answers to why.

Men have been taught through their upbringing and
society that women are the control of their man parts so if they "fall" it becomes the woman's
fault.

Self esteem issues are usually at heart of
promiscuity with the exception of mental
illnesses that cause promiscuity. This applies
to both men and women.

People who are afraid to be alone will always
ride the current relationship out while they work on a new one so they don't have to spend any time
alone.

Those are a few off the top of my head. Hope that helps

C onquer
H ormones
E xcitement
A roused
T emptation
E xplosion
R ight now

i don't know i just found out my boyfriend been on here cheating on me while i am 6 months prego i am asking myself this question why would sumone cheat in the end i think it just how sum people are but what do i know in the end

Only cowards cheat Sorry for you

Men cheat for the same reasons the "ladies" do- 'cuz they can.

he cheats... because he can. Because he's done it before and women put up with it and let him get away with it. Because women take him back after he swears he'll never do it again.

I think it is lack of self respect and control!

If you love someone, how could you do something
that you know will hurt them so deeply....
bastards....and bastardesses ?

Thank you AndyBgood, you make a lot of interesting points and I can agree with you there. I think both parties must work together to keep the relationship interesting and from becoming stale, instead of either one of them cheating they should be trying to make it work. Like any other job, a relationship takes commitment from both parties and a lot of hard work.
To answer the question as to why women cheat, I really don't know, because I don't cheat. I am a firm believer in what goes around comes around and I can only handle one man at a time. But i think a woman would stray, if she is not getting what she needs at home. Just like a man women need to feel special and needed, desired and loved also. If they don't have that at home and there is a man paying attention to her and making her feel beautiful, she might tend to want to be with him. Though I would say leave the one who treats her like a dog and move on. I don't know why anyone would want to hold on to someone who direspects her, when she has found someone to treat her like a queen. I am a woman and i have no desire to cheat, which is why I didn't ask that question, but I have always wondered, why men cheat instead of just leaving, so the woman can get on with her life. No one male or female can have both, the one at home and the one in the street, sooner or later it all comes out.

I agree with you heartandsoul, I think you should end one relationship, before starting another. If you are not happy, you should leave, a little honesty would be nice. Shouldn't that be one of the basis for a good relationship? Thank you all for responding to my question and men, if I offened you by asking, why men cheat as opposed to why people cheat, I am sorry, I didn't mean any offense, I am a straight woman and I don't cheat, I have no interest in why women cheat. I am, however, interested in men and why they cheat. I finally divorced the man, I was with for 30 years and he cheated on me many times through the years. I asked him why and he said it just happened, but it happened a lot. I think I allowed him to continue, because I kept taking him back, because I loved him, but in the end I realized I love me, too and I deserve better than that. I need to take better care of me. I appreciate some of the comments, that I have gotten here, I feel a bit more informed. Thank you very much, everyone.

Isnt that the problem with this generation. Everyone is quick to pack up their bags and leave. What happen to working things out. Isnt that the defination of relationship "work" but it easier just to find someone new and walk away. If your not happy with a person you spent half of your life with I almost promise that your not every going to be happy. There is no such thing as perfect but there is compromise and with compromise there is a future

I think you should work on your relationship, what i am saying is instead of cheating, instead of trying to be with two people and hurting both of them and yourself in the end, it is better to walk away from the one and start something new or to stop cheating and fix whatever is wrong at home. It takes two to save or end a relationship. There's no way to fix it by yourself.