Topic: Why do men cheat?
AndyBgood's photo
Fri 01/23/09 07:04 PM
That and a wet penis has no conscious!

s1owhand's photo
Fri 01/23/09 07:08 PM
"LARRY CRAIG: I saw a piece of toilet paper on the floor and it happened to be under my heel. And I don't know if you've seen it before, but I've seen it: somebody walk out of a booth, with a piece of toilet paper stuck to their foot...."

so it basically was the toilet paper, really....

laugh

no photo
Fri 01/23/09 07:51 PM
Edited by heartSoul on Fri 01/23/09 07:52 PM
people cheat because they allow themselves to be put in the situation to be tempted to cheat...

unable to say no they cheat...

or they want to do it and really could care less who they hurt...

or they do it to see if they can get away with it....

greed, they think everyone of the opposite sex wants them and that gives them the right to cheat....

so many reasons and none of them are worthy of telling the person that they cheated on....


I look at it this way, if you no longer want to be with the person tell them, then go be with someone else...
that way you're not labeled a cheat....

buttons's photo
Fri 01/23/09 07:57 PM

Women do the same thing but it breaks down to these reasons:

Genetically men are programed to sniff up as many willing backsides as we can find like any dog. Some men can resist the urge but given the right set of circumstances and the right person and any man or woman can cheat.

Now we are taught to believe in older more "traditional" ways but we are very confused by a lot of religious and Victorian ethics. The reality of it is that people are not monogamous for the most part whether they want to believe it or not. It is genetic. It is Mother Nature's way of insuring a healthy gene pool and also to insure survival of the species. That is the most fundamental reason why.

As far as what "drives" men to cheat?
Stressful and fulfilling relationships. Marrying because of a surprise pregnancy is one factor that add to this in a statistical way. The number of marriages that fail where the couple married under the pressure of a impending pregnancy was about 38% on the low end to almost 72% on the statistical scale depending on who's information you choose to believe. I feel it is around a little more than half myself of all failed marriages have this in common with them.
Women let themselves go physically. I have seen a lot of friends get married and their hot GF's suddenly expand to being obese in a few and I mean few short years. Worst is when it is blamed on pregnancy. More and more men are not buying that and it is an excuse to some extent.

There are cultural motivations as well. Successful men are perceived as being "good" with the ladies and there fore maintain a number of involvements. Look at movies and TV. Ladies, If you are looking for a king or a prince well better watch Braveheart. There is a little thing called "Lords First Right of Privilege." It comes up in the movie. Basically put, if you were a virgin and you got married the king actually had the right to take your virginity on your wedding night instead of your husband. Think that sucks? It gets better...
Nobility of a lot of nations save a hand full there is a queen to which the king is married but he has consorts and the number depends on the man's appetites.
On top of that look at the examples Hollywood sets for our kids. They treat marriage as a joke.

Now we get into what a lot of men claim as reasons,
Sex with his partner becomes unsatisfying or worst yet the partner is frigid or just 'dead in bed.'
Men also do not like to get hen pecked a lot. Women who wear on men's self esteem chase their men off eventually.
Also the way women carry themselves among friends has been used as a justification. Being too friendly among men a women knows can trigger jealous behavior and that can lead to revenge behavior.
Also men will wander if a relationship goes cold.

These are just the more core reasons. I could go on a lot more in detail but is it necessary?

Basically a relationship is like a car.

It needs maintenance!
the actual act of cheating can only lay on the cheater itself..... for the feeling of being self worthless can only be blamed on that feeling alone... there is no excuse.. move on get a life... before you cheat...

niko1's photo
Fri 01/23/09 08:50 PM
Edited by niko1 on Fri 01/23/09 08:52 PM

Women do the same thing but it breaks down to these reasons:

Genetically men are programed to sniff up as many willing backsides as we can find like any dog. Some men can resist the urge but given the right set of circumstances and the right person and any man or woman can cheat.

Now we are taught to believe in older more "traditional" ways but we are very confused by a lot of religious and Victorian ethics. The reality of it is that people are not monogamous for the most part whether they want to believe it or not. It is genetic. It is Mother Nature's way of insuring a healthy gene pool and also to insure survival of the species. That is the most fundamental reason why.

As far as what "drives" men to cheat?
Stressful and fulfilling relationships. Marrying because of a surprise pregnancy is one factor that add to this in a statistical way. The number of marriages that fail where the couple married under the pressure of a impending pregnancy was about 38% on the low end to almost 72% on the statistical scale depending on who's information you choose to believe. I feel it is around a little more than half myself of all failed marriages have this in common with them.
Women let themselves go physically. I have seen a lot of friends get married and their hot GF's suddenly expand to being obese in a few and I mean few short years. Worst is when it is blamed on pregnancy. More and more men are not buying that and it is an excuse to some extent.

There are cultural motivations as well. Successful men are perceived as being "good" with the ladies and there fore maintain a number of involvements. Look at movies and TV. Ladies, If you are looking for a king or a prince well better watch Braveheart. There is a little thing called "Lords First Right of Privilege." It comes up in the movie. Basically put, if you were a virgin and you got married the king actually had the right to take your virginity on your wedding night instead of your husband. Think that sucks? It gets better...
Nobility of a lot of nations save a hand full there is a queen to which the king is married but he has consorts and the number depends on the man's appetites.
On top of that look at the examples Hollywood sets for our kids. They treat marriage as a joke.

Now we get into what a lot of men claim as reasons,
Sex with his partner becomes unsatisfying or worst yet the partner is frigid or just 'dead in bed.'
Men also do not like to get hen pecked a lot. Women who wear on men's self esteem chase their men off eventually.
Also the way women carry themselves among friends has been used as a justification. Being too friendly among men a women knows can trigger jealous behavior and that can lead to revenge behavior.
Also men will wander if a relationship goes cold.

These are just the more core reasons. I could go on a lot more in detail but is it necessary?

Basically a relationship is like a car.

It needs maintenance!



Very well put!

galendgirl's photo
Fri 01/23/09 08:52 PM

If there is anyone out there who knows the answer to this question, I would really like to know. If a man has a woman, who is faithful, and would have sex with him whenever he likes, why would that man cheat?


Why do men cheat? The same reason women cheat...
It has nothing to do with gender. It has everything to do with character.

no photo
Fri 01/23/09 08:53 PM


If there is anyone out there who knows the answer to this question, I would really like to know. If a man has a woman, who is faithful, and would have sex with him whenever he likes, why would that man cheat?


Why do men cheat? The same reason women cheat...
It has nothing to do with gender. It has everything to do with character.


:thumbsup:

niko1's photo
Fri 01/23/09 08:54 PM

That and a wet penis has no conscious!



That's the real reason behind it!


Cristina4fun's photo
Fri 01/23/09 08:56 PM

If there is anyone out there who knows the answer to this question, I would really like to know. If a man has a woman, who is faithful, and would have sex with him whenever he likes, why would that man cheat?
OK, you may think I'm a nerd, but anthropologically speaking men are genetically designed to spread their masculan seed and procreate. They seek out mates that are genetically strong and most compatible with them, at least on a subconscience level.

....or they're just dogs whoa

seahawks's photo
Fri 01/23/09 08:56 PM

If there is anyone out there who knows the answer to this question, I would really like to know. If a man has a woman, who is faithful, and would have sex with him whenever he likes, why would that man cheat?
never cheated on a gal .!! drinker drinker drinker drinker

DTHRomeo's photo
Fri 01/23/09 08:58 PM


If there is anyone out there who knows the answer to this question, I would really like to know. If a man has a woman, who is faithful, and would have sex with him whenever he likes, why would that man cheat?
OK, you may think I'm a nerd, but anthropologically speaking men are genetically designed to spread their masculan seed and procreate. They seek out mates that are genetically strong and most compatible with them, at least on a subconscience level.

....or they're just dogs whoa


That reminds me

I have to go and check on my 200 kids

Cristina4fun's photo
Fri 01/23/09 09:00 PM



If there is anyone out there who knows the answer to this question, I would really like to know. If a man has a woman, who is faithful, and would have sex with him whenever he likes, why would that man cheat?
OK, you may think I'm a nerd, but anthropologically speaking men are genetically designed to spread their masculan seed and procreate. They seek out mates that are genetically strong and most compatible with them, at least on a subconscience level.

....or they're just dogs whoa
I guess you never really know, for certain that is

That reminds me

I have to go and check on my 200 kids

DTHRomeo's photo
Fri 01/23/09 09:03 PM
surprised

AndyBgood's photo
Fri 01/23/09 09:04 PM


If there is anyone out there who knows the answer to this question, I would really like to know. If a man has a woman, who is faithful, and would have sex with him whenever he likes, why would that man cheat?
OK, you may think I'm a nerd, but anthropologically speaking men are genetically designed to spread their masculan seed and procreate. They seek out mates that are genetically strong and most compatible with them, at least on a subconscience level.

....or they're just dogs whoa



WOOF WOOF.

Some of us do try to be good dogs.

I'm just BAD...


seahawks's photo
Fri 01/23/09 09:04 PM



If there is anyone out there who knows the answer to this question, I would really like to know. If a man has a woman, who is faithful, and would have sex with him whenever he likes, why would that man cheat?
OK, you may think I'm a nerd, but anthropologically speaking men are genetically designed to spread their masculan seed and procreate. They seek out mates that are genetically strong and most compatible with them, at least on a subconscience level.

....or they're just dogs whoa


That reminds me

I have to go and check on my 200 kids
laugh laugh laugh laugh

galendgirl's photo
Fri 01/23/09 09:05 PM

....or they're just dogs whoa



WOOF WOOF.

Some of us do try to be good dogs.

I'm just BAD...




...and THAT is why dogs bite people! LOL! laugh

buttons's photo
Fri 01/23/09 09:06 PM
bigsmile


If there is anyone out there who knows the answer to this question, I would really like to know. If a man has a woman, who is faithful, and would have sex with him whenever he likes, why would that man cheat?
never cheated on a gal .!! drinker drinker drinker drinker
bigsmile

causality's photo
Fri 01/23/09 09:07 PM
It's because they have a brain and a wang, and only enough blood to run one at a time.

ScotishGerman27's photo
Fri 01/23/09 09:07 PM
yea the initial topic seems very byist to me because ive never cheated on anyone ive formally been seeing but ive been cheated on atleast 3 times .. thats ATLEAST 3 times that i know of ladies

seahawks's photo
Fri 01/23/09 09:08 PM
do you wanna take advantage of me?laugh laugh bigsmile :wink: