I'm getting email from guys asking if I want to chat with them. Cool, but the emails don't say anything else and most of their blogs don't say anything else. In a bar men ask to chat and if they're cute then hell yea I chat but here I imagined getting emails with some information about the guy or a witty joke or something.
I don't know how to respond to these messages. I can't just chat with a dozen guys everyday because I do have other things to do. When I tried saying, thanks but I don't think we'd work out, I get the response, how do you know if we don't chat?

I was wondering how the other women of mingle2 handled these messages? Do you just ignore them or send them one note? What if they are posting on the forums is that different?

I want to be polite but I'm not attached to this computer 24/7.
Guys, I already know your ideas but sorry, I can't sleep with every guy who emails. My bed is not that big.

Wanna chat?

Deja vu.

You have the same problem then? What do you do just ignore or send a note?

I try to answer as many as possible. If they're rude, I delete them.

Just have fun and don't worry so much about things, it's the internet. JMO, I only reply to messages if I'm interested, or know them from the forums.

I know it's just the internet but the people are real and they have real feelings. Some are probably seriously looking for dates or relationships so I don't want to be the mingle2 ice queen.

Explain this in your profile. It will help some but not all, for some won't even read your profile. Being young and attractive can be a burden sometimes. You will be solicited heavily. You will be insulted unaccordingly. And you will be disrespected. Its up to your discretion on how you handle it. Checking your expectations will help. Best of luck.

Not really about being polite, it just about setting parameters you are comfortable with.

The one-liners you get... respond with a one liner back, people usually get the hint.

As far as offers to chat why bother? I don't even use IM with anyone till i have exchanged 3 or 4 emails getting to know them.

You can deal with the cyber offers how you see fit depending on your mood. I use the old " not into cold showers or dirty keyboards atm, but thanks."

Well i'm still kinda of new here so maybe that's why i get so much mail still.. something new.

Best of luck with everything.

I think you read their profile and if they don't invest enough to start a conversation to have something to talk about I would not take them seriously.

If someone has sent you a generic let's chat and nothing more is like throwing a bucket of bait in the pond and hoping you snag a fish. Hardly a huge compliment but maybe they are shy.

If you are fortuneate enough to get a greeting it is only good manners to respond with a breif hello and maybe a remark about something you think is a mutual interest. Not talking about a lengthy life story just a couple of sentences.

Then follow up with the ones that interest you most. The longer you wait between messages the ones who are not in the running will get the message.

turn off IM

communicate via email only at first until it is obvious that it will be fun to chat....

works for me.

interact on the forums to get to know
how people think and if they have any
tact, manners, wit or spark...

OH OH, you should also find yourself a "Nice Guy". We currently have a wide selection for you to choose from! Just check out the daily nice guy threads to browse!

(hey if we don't get them hooked up, the threads will never stop)

You're funny. I never heard anyone say youth and attractiveness was a burden, I'll manage it, somehow. What you described sounds like regular life, I can take it. Just trying to get some input on what the norm in on the internet for handling emails.

...look at others profiles for ideas. It is the internet. There is no disgrace in not answering emails here. There is no disgrace in replying and saying "Sorry- not interested". Some people are adults here. Some people here need severe psychological medical attention. You will find this out in the future. Best of luck.

If the profile does not interest you, just respond "Thanks for the contact, but I am not interested." Plain and simple!

I'll try your way as long as they send something more than a, lets chat, email. If the guy takes the time to think about his message then I do think it's polite to respond. For some reason I got the thought in my head all messages would be long wordy ones.

IM off, check
interact on the forums, check
Wit and charm, pending further investigation

I prefer nice guys so point the way. I've more than had my fill of immature assholes on campus and at work.

Quite modest, aren't we?