Ok, I know this is kinda split down the middle but I really wanna know what everyone thinks. Anyways to the point, Ok so if your dating a girl, do you think the guy should pay for every IE going out to eat, movies, drinking ect ect, and if not how long should you pay till its time to be like ok so i need you to bring something to the table, I feel that both male and female should be in a mutual relationship and should take turns paying for outings and such but of course my mom says differently lol

ya mean a $50 on the dresser isnt enough??????

That is for what you guys are called THE MAN!
If you can't afford to be a man guess what : you can become a woman any time you want to .just a little pain ,,,

I dont mind taking care of the bill about 80% of the time, however I think the woman can pay sometimes aswell, just saying it would be nice, but not what I totally expect.

Oh boy!Poor thing !

100%

but somehow I believe you really don't want others opinions and have already formed your own....and just want justification for your cheap azzed ways....

lol yes im a poor thing, move along with your bad self

Just pay for whatever & rifle through her purse later on.

No wonder my cash was missing every time I go out

did you ask?

Nope, I dont ever plan on asking, just kinda wondering what everyone else kinda does, instead I get rude replies lol Fun people =)

Everyone sees this different they say now days it depends on who asked who out. If you ask her to go somewhere then you should pay. If she ask you then she should pay.

My self I have been known to pick the tab up on more then one time. Any time I have in fact asked anyone to go with me somewhere then I pay for it.

Therefore if you asked her to go eat, movies ect then you should pay for it.

I totally agree Txgal

Not only poor , rude also enjoy life, joke .Damn relax man

I think once you begin dating it should be whomever plans the dates. But that's just me. Sexy and independent.

I think a man has to be demonstrateing his ability to support a wife in the dateing scenario.

On the same mind frame I think a lady has to show how she will be a help mate.

If you get the drift that a relationship is only going to be about you carrying the load I think you are wasteing your breath saying anything and it is time to move on.

Women who are selfish wonder why guys just drop them after a few dates but even if you tell them you are not going to change their basic character.

The real matching skill is finding someone who is willing to give equally in a relationship. I am not suggesting a woman has to drop her panty's but an effort at apprecition might help.

It helps if men realize that often the dateing thing is a little lopsided. What and effort and cost that dateing is for some women; especially single Mother's who have to use precious resources to set aside time for a date. It might feel like you are carrying the load in the dateing process but a guy can get away with minimal grooming and clothing expenses and because he often picks the time and place for a date it can mean lost work time, imposeing on family and friends for help, or often depriveing themselves of things you might not know about. A true lady would not whine about that but she might be doing the best that she can making your date time stress free and enjoyable.

Just for the record a guy can't count the cost of his side of the date. If you choose a resturant or other entertainment that puts you on the rocks on your budget it is not your dates fault.

If you continuously pay, and the relationship goes on for some time, she would, if she were a real woman and not just some golddigger, repay you in some way, ie a home cooked meal, or offer to pay for the theater tickets or the ice cream afterwards.

Times have changed, I want a diamond this time

i think i'd be very uncomfortable if i were dating a guy and he paid for every single thing each time we went out.

With this economy, I think it's only fair that she offers to chip in every once in a great while.