Now see...there is a minor problem there.

What if there is something that a guy really likes to do, that his S/O doesn't care a whit about?

I play a lot of golf with friends. Not technically a " guys night out " but still an activity with a bunch of buddies.

If my S/O can't stand the game, I really wouldn't want her to try to pretend to like something that she doesn't. Not only would it be a drag for her, but for me and the guys I am with as well.

That doesn't mean that I wouldn't like her to be there. It only means that I am considerate enough to not want her to be doing something with me when I am having a blast, and she's bored out of her skull.

I can't think of anyone I ever dated that I wanted to do EVERYTHING with. Sometimes I just wanna be with my girls and do girl things. I honestly don't really want a man to come with the girls to the mall and be my purse holder.

Youre right!!! My ex hubby was a golfer. That was his favourite thing to do and sometimes I didnt want to go or I felt it was a better idea if he could hang with his buds. I would do my own thing when he wanted to do that but if it becomes every weekend and you never see each other then it becomes a problem.

It all boils down to trust. If someone is possessive and jealous, then it can become an issue. Hence the term "ball & chain".

Not to mention, just because you're in a relationship, your friends don't automatically become alienated.

Yea that pisses me off when people do that. So what, I'm good to be a friend until you're dating someone?? I don't think so.

ya better let your guy out for a night cause if you don't, later he will say u have him on a short leash. and to divorce court we all go.

of course however, they can stray on a night out, if they like to drink and carry on.

then, some don't. it just depends.

the way u get around this is u...women i am talking to here.... have your night out, and u go where he went, and do what he did.

the gander does not like the goose doing this trust me.

if i knew then what i knew now, what i would have done, is every middle of the week i would have declared it my holiday, dumped the kid with his father, and stayed out playing baseball all day long, and come home in the middle of the night...got myself some male friends not the boinking kind, but just a few, then go country western dancing, and enjoyed my youth.
now i am an old bird reflecting on what i should have done. it was my hunka burning love that had me on leash...pregnant, and typing his term papers....
i hope my x husband is reading this.
he is in california, land of the fruits and nuts, with his 5th wife, the hooch. his mother told me this.

I figure if your around each other ALL the time, you're going to get on each others nerves..and thats bad for a relationship

if you can figure out a way to combine some of those outings..say mutual friends and a barbecue or whatever or the football game thing..its all good , but you still need that time when you aren't at work that you get to have to yourself

both parties

I guess that there will be times she doesn't want to be a part of "your" routine same as I wouldn't be the "purse holder" but we are talking about a weekly event I thought?.. I am sure we all both men and women "find" time to be with our friends... so I will say this then.. MY priorities are my s.o. then my family then my friends.... and if there is a problem with that.. with anyone do you really think I need their approval to each their own do what best suits you and your life style.

I do golf almost every weekend. BUT...if I have other plans with someone, I don't go. Don't let me know on Friday that you made plans for the weekend, though. Warn me on Monday that you want to plan something. That way I can let the guys know I'm not available. lol

My general idea is, if you don't want to go out on the course with me, I'm not gonna be mad about it. If you don't get mad at me for that, then I am not gonna be irritated about you wanting to hang out with friends. If you get pissed about me doing that, but then expect me to say nothing when you want to go somewhere...well...it probably won't work that way very well.

That's one of the reasons that, in my profile, I say I want someone who takes a relationship seriously, but not TOO seriously. I want to be with someone who understands that we don't have to be together 100% of the time.

I agree that it becomes a problem if one or the other completely forgoes time with the other on a consistent basis.

I thought we were just talking in general, not a weekly basis thing.

all my male college buddies have gone their seperate ways...at this point in my life,my best friend is a woman...so i do everything with her that i would with a male friend...including go to gentlemen's clubs...be seeing you

In a relationship (my opinion) there needs to be a guys night out and a girls night out! The rest of the week is for the both of you! I have seen many of relationships fail because one of the parnters are now trying to change the other. Change is a good thing but as long as the change is for both and not just for one!


just saying

who cares if he goes out as long as he dont mind girls night,

um well as with anything, it could all change next week...how u feel on this subject, girls/guys night out...
but i am telling you...keep some space out there for yourself, and do with it what u want to do, or otherwise, there will be resentment later on.

i could be wrong, but sometimes i am right.

Meh....whatever. Either/or, I don't care. I never go anywhere, anyway.

Im having problems with a buddy of mine that is a bad influence on me. He is coming back around and I dont know how to tell him I dont want to hang around him anymore because I dont like the effect he has on me

guys night out is about going to hooters and having way too much beer. we need it at least once a week. sometimes we need to go talk **** about our girlfriends

maybe you should just be a straight shooter and tell him you and your life have changed and it has nothing to do with him!!

And this is why you're young and single.