if you are meant to be alone in this life?

My last serious relationship was in 1996 and that was the last time until aug 2008 I was in any type of relationship with a guy. Well when things ended in Oct, I thought I would get into another relationship, yet nothing. Don't say it takes time I mean you are talking 12 years without someone or anyone interested.
So it got me to thinking, since the last guy I met a couple weeks ago didn't like me like that, if there are some people meant to live alone.
Who is to say everyone is meant to be with someone? Couldn't it be that you are just meant to live this life alone? What do you think? An no this is not a pity post, don't even want to hear one comment on how I am a cute girl and will find someone.
I want honest opinions on if you have ever thought about if its meant for some people to be alone in this life?

Lord I hope not...

First NO i don't think we are meant to life this life alone.
I was married for 18+ years now single for 2 years. I haven't found that one that i have been able to click with.
Being alone is my biggest feeling that i am dealing with and walking Thur it, it really does suck!
I do understand where you are coming from
XOXOXO

I've thought about it....then I think it may be a choice one brings upon ones self.....even without knowing its been done

I hope not , but it seems to be a reality.(for me)

dam now I'm sad

I've been alone since 1992(17 yrs)! No I don't think we are ment to be alone.

I think there are a numerous reasons why some take longer to find that right person. Call it cautious, call it afraid/scared, call it what you may...we all have perceived in our own minds as to what we're looking for. Once you put together what your looking for, then you have to be what the other person is looking for. That in it's self...makes it double fold in your efforts, and your success!

Some say I am too "picky"! I don't think so...it's just what I'm looking for that makes others come to that assumption. I'll know it when it comes along...only hope that the same is recognized from the other of interest.

OK...I want SAY(but I can think it) anything about you being cute. JMO

I ask myself the same question often.

I am sure of this...not having a man does not classify you as being alone.

I am positive that women fill their life with the wrong person, so they can say they are not alone. Infact, people make a living spending time with the wrong person/people.

But no, I do not think you or I or anyone is put on this planet to be alone. Some of us however, know not to force that fit for convenience.

In the book of Genesis, God said "it is not good for man to be alone". So he made eve. So on the basis that God exists then no you are not meant to be alone.

I think when it is ment to happen it will.

Seems in a lot of cases people self sabotage meeting someone because they really are not ready. When they are they prepare for it and just enjoy life and it seems to happen.

Yeah i do wonder that sometimes

Sera lo que sera

Yup.

Unless you want to be lonely NO!

I have gone through my share of relationships and honestly I am more focused on myself these days because the reality of it is that most women I have come across are either possessive and control hungry in a relationship or they are vain and always looking to step up to the next shiny better someone that gives them the sly wink. I also have run my gambit of nutcases in disguise. There are times I feel like a insanity magnet.
I personally am holding out for a women who knows what really being a team player is and also someone who will not play me to a double standard like I have run across as well. Time reveals all unfortunately and sometimes some revelations come quicker than others. Yeah loosing out on a long relationship hurts a lot but you just have to get up, brush off the dust and move along. I will admit I am not easy to get along with in my own ways but then again I have met some VERY annoying women in my time.
Also don't lower your standards just to fill in a void in your life. Did that and it got me emotionally burned.

You can't hurry love
no you just have to wait...

Good song...
Good advice!
Other than that be excellent!

i have honestly though about that so many times it like but what you have t o realize is that your the only one who can make you dont try to look for the love or the interested there is really no point. i know it sucks but its true, srry.

yeah the lonliness is fustrating.

I asked a similar question a few days ago.

Basically, what I was told is that we are alone because we choose to be.

What ways are you using to put yourself out there to be found???

Nope. I've found that things happen when you least expect them. And when you've had what you believe to be the best, something better comes along. Or maybe we just choose more wisely. Whichever the case, I truly believe that, like Sam Mescalito, it does no good to veer off your set path to pick a big ole peyote. Just get the ones that land right in front of you.

I have no doubt that I'm not meant to live alone in this life, but... The way I've been approaching my goals haven't been working, and I'm doing something different, which is completely backwards from what I've done in the past.

I'm thinking 12 years alone could have had more to offer, but then again, your focus might have not included a relationship as one of your goals. It probably made you independent in a healthy way, so I would fault you for that, not in the least.

In that same period, I was married now twice and am completing a second divorce. We both ultimately acheived the same results, that of being alone. The first thought that came to mind on this thread is that if what I'm doing isn't achieving desired results, I should be trying something different.

ive wondered if i was meant to be sngle for the rest of my life before, even decided I was okay with it.............BUT things change.
and there is a time and place for everything in life.

Honey, from an older guy, just let me say this without being dismissed as totally clueless.

I took a look at your profile, and I respect and admire your convictions.

With that said, let's discuss your fishing net, and how big of a fish you want to catch.
The fish has to be the southern gent, so that is a smaller pond than nationwide manhunt.
The fish should be between such and such ages, so that is an 8-year restriction.
I don't know about fish in that age group. I am older than...some things. But it seems like small fish for a big heart you've got.
Plus, those fish cannot have offspring and the mama-drama that goes with being spawned out.
Well...maybe you should talk to a couple of the cougars on this site. There are some pretty sharp gals here. I'm sure that they can give you the inside line on perfecting your fishing technique, so that you choose well and are successful.
Just a suggestion.
Best of luck.

No. You are not meant to be alone...forever. The concern is that you were not meant to be alone for all these years, already...except that you are going to be swooned by Mr. Foreverafter and therefore had to be alone when he meets you.

In my opinion, most good women can turn a decent man into an outstanding man. We don't come ready-made into perfect matches (regardless of Mutual Match propaganda).