yes suppose your right..my husband and i decided which furniture we wanted, halved the bank account and went our seperate ways without lawyers etc.he even gave me a little extra money as i was short to buy my house..it was very amicable.

Oh, don't get me wrong, I'm all about friends. I don't think anyone would have a problem with that aspect. BUT....if there's a hint that any further intimate relationship may evolve, and if the other spouse wants to be a real asshole about it, they can make a divorce very difficult for the other.

I've not been in that particular position, but I have been divorced.

If your still on good terms with your wife...do the divorce yourselves...cost you at the most $250...either your divorced or your still married...don't do the crime if you can't do the time

yes i did put that..but all seperated men are welcome to contact me..they arent living with their wives..totally different..which is why we have the option to put married or seperated!!

It's been a while. But I understand what he's talking about. Once your divorced you wont have to worry about her medical bills or her insurance. But keep her insured till the divorce is final.

I don't know about good terms but that's the route we took.

The word "Separated" is not trust by many

I actually stay away from it myself

Either get the papers done or work it out

that answer is easy too
set limits and boundaries

just like a virgin..if its worth it you can wait until you find it morally acceptable to both parties
but if you never give it a chance how would you ever know

its like other undesirable circumstances ..if you want to like the person, you have give them a chance

I am separated and I don't expect anyone to jump into a relationship with me. I have on my profile that I am looking for a relationship, though I guess it is more of companionship. To know that I am not alone in what I am going through.Trust me as soon as I have the $$$, I will be in my lawyers office pronto. I want no ties to her save for my daughters.

Chances are fine, but it's best to wait until the divorce is finalized before making any positive steps forward.

It's just like going to the bathroom....no job is finished until the paperwork is done.

Ditto, and those that are seperated at times use that as a crutch and don't plan on getting Divorded been there had it happen and now I think twice when they say seperated. Sorry but just the way I'm.

'nough said...

I understand where everyone is coming from. I guess I have not explained my situation, and as to why I haven't yet filed. and that I wont get into. I don't want to make anyone think I am looking for sympathy or to rationalize my own mistakes. But I cant help but feel somewhat black balled. I will do what is right when I can afford to not get racked across the coals. I have 2 daughters to take care of. Their needs trump my needs and wants.

SHALLOW ?????????? How ridiculous. It's called, for many of us, SCRUPLES or shall we say MORALS.

We don't WANT a guy who isn't finally divorced. Do you know how many end up BACK in the marriage.

Gimme a break here.


After all .. it's not all about YOU.

I have been divorced and when you want to be divorced you don't get to have your cake and eat it too.

You want to hang on to the perks of being married; emotional, financial, custody ect. you might not be living together but your still married. Still benifiting from that relationship.

When you really want to move on with your life, give a relationship a fair shot, you cut your losses, find the money, and get divorced.

When you are only seperated you can't bring all your cards to the table like those of us who are single can. Why would anyone who has made the sacrifices and done their time want to play with a short deck of someone who can't and might never get there act together?

Before anyone gets righteous about how they know it is over the game isn't over until the decree is filed. Hundreds of seperated people are in accidents, contract illnesses, their houses are destroyed in storms or won't sell in a collasped real estate market, their kids get into problems or want to get married, spouses get pregnant (it doesn't matter by who when you are married it is still part of the family that has to be contended with) and seperations drag on for years. I don't know about anyone else but I am not up for that. Not when there are plenty of Single people out there.

Ditto that!

And what's a Hilter lover?

yeah i am separated and there is no effing way in HELL we will ever work it out. he's engaged to someone else already. the only reason we haven't divorced yet is cause he was overseas in iraq and you can't do anything till they get back stateside. military divorces are freakin complicated. lucky for him i don't want **** but my truck and he already gave that to me. so im just waitin on the papers, sign that ****, and it's done! i can't wait!

It's really their choice, and really, we only have ourselves to blame for being married but seperated in the first place. I can fully expect apprehension over any woman thinking seperation could mean reunification. My own situation I just leave hanging on my profile clearly and let the reader decide if it's an issue. If someone's interested, fine, otherwise, well, next. Admittedly, it will be a very nice day when either a), she signs the papers, or b) when june 14th rolls around, but to be quite honest, option b is much more cost effective and I have other things that are just as important going on.

\/\/hatever

I would date you