Just because a husband and wife seperate does not mean we are untouchable. Damn getting a woman to even answer an e-mail is hard. Not all of us are secretly having affairs on our wives. Some of us have made the decisson to leave and are not at each others throat. My wife is not a Hilter lover and Im not either. Her and I happen to still be friends and I think its sad woman pass me up for the words "seperated". Could it be due to still working out details in Health care and benifits in general is why we have not gotten or pursued divorce yet. Good God almighty..... Girls dont be so damn shallow. There are still decent guys out here looking for legitamate woman to spend there lives with. What do you think? I think we are all being sterotyped as cheats and sneeks because we are only "Seperated"

Get the paperwork done first...

This is an easy one. "Separated" still equals "Married", until you get that little piece of paper that says differently.

im shallow

the word Seperated means STILL MARRIED! plain and simple

you aint got them papers

your still married

I'm with ya

I think it has to do with there own personal experiences and a good number of people believe that "separated" implies that you are not yet over it and could possibly get back together...

this inane idea that legal work might actually take time even when the consensus about the relationship was that is was over for a long while, most often before the paperwork even got started....

I still have women contact me. I also have a copy of my divorce papers all signed & notarized on my desk.

Exactly!



equates to "still married"

You're entirely correct, but until you've got that paper in your hand signed by the judge, you're still hitched.

Big bummer, but true.

Don't do the crime if you can't do the time

Seperated means still married. There are many degrees of seperation & many reasons why people may not be divorced yet, but I don't want to be involved with someone who is still married. I don't even want to be the 1st girlfriend after the divorce. I want the ink dry & the bouncing from the rebound over.

im seperated and have been for 4 yrs.my husband and i are still good friends.we ring each other now and again and even visit one another.he has a new partner who lives with him..it doesnt bother me in the slightest.here in england seperation is as good as divorced.like you said not everyone can afford a divorce and if your both amicable about it..it shouldnt be a problem..unless you plan on marrying again?

did it ever occur to anyone that going out for coffee is in fact not a violation of marital requirements?

initiating a conversation and getting to know a person does not mean you have to have sex or marry....it might almost be..what is that word..friendship

last I checked married people were allowed to have friends

simply because he might be looking for more in the future doesn't mean he must be avoided now...

Europe is much different than America.

I think sometimes its scary enough to invest time and energy into a single person let alone someone who still has marital ties.

I noticed on your profile it states you dont want to be contacted by married men......CONTRADICTION???

I'm separated, I and I know I'm getting passed up to. For me I know exactly what the future of my marriage holds...it's over and has been for a long time. Unfortunately I can't get that little piece of paper for another couple months due to where I'm at in the world. I could always change my status to single or divorced, but that wouldn't be honest...would it

I concur with the rest... seperated still legally means married...

Those girls you speak of are DEF NOT shallow either... geez.. your half baked with now realizing that the issue is simple... you are still married..

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