Can someone please define "Baggage" for me?

I seriously would not date someone who thought my children, family, or job were considered "Baggage"

about two feet lower in my pic...

Now that kind of baggage I could handle... repeatedly.

I think you defined baggage in your post. Baggage is anything you bring to a relationship that others don't want a part of.

Well if a guy doesn't want any kind of baggage, he should buy a bagless vacuum cleaner.

I think that baggage may mean bad drama with an ex.

I would never consider children or a job as baggage.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cD-UzrQFF4M&NR=1

I always thought that Baggage was things like:

- Lingering Ex
- Bad Debts
- Issues from past relationships
- Maybe even aging parents who need constant care
(although I don't agree with this one)
- Children requiring babysitters
- Probation
- Addictions
- Not letting go of old relationships or things
not finalized
- Alimony or Child Support

(there may be more that I missed)

Am I wrong?

Do people actually consider family relationships, friends, kids, jobs, memberships, etc. Baggage?

I would think that is rather selfish and unrealistic? Am I wrong?

<----- has matching baaggage on wheels so I can take it with everywhere

Everyone has some type of baggage.
If they believe they don't, it just means someone else is carrying the $h!t...

just my





I'm just....

It's like a hangover from getting drunk. Emotional hangovers that cling from one relationship to the next, dragging the character of the person down causing problems in subsequent relationships. You see it often not in what a person wants in a relationship, but in what they don't want, or hate, as shown in their profiles, usually.


For some, baggage may also include children, but those are really bonus gifts making for a much more complete and well rounded package deal.

other people's children can bring drama into a relationship. It depends on who you're dating. You already stated you don't want to date people that consider this as part of your baggage, so ... Don't. It's really that simple.

some people do believe this which is sad and their loss on meeting a great person

I, for example do not consider child support as baggage. I consider it taking care of your children.

Amen to that!

You stated you don't want YOUR children and family considered as baggage. Yet, you go on to say you consider alimony and child support as baggage. That's pretty hypocritcal don't you think? Why should his children be considered baggage then? Because he's supporting them like he's supposed to??

I define baggage as a hassle that I dont want to deal with

Emotional baggage, as in having to carry someone else as they fall deeper into insanity.

That moral highground.. it's a b!tch when it's quicksand.

I understand that!