I met someone too fast once.... it was one of the worst dates I've EVER had. But also one of my best stories....

He started out by saying he was only free as he got stood up by someone else, was late as he ran out of hair gel and had to "shave" (said while glancing at his crotch and winking) and then announced he hoped I'd already paid for my drink as the last girl he dated, her kid told him he was fat, so he was on the Adkins diet and in ketosis.....

if the profile is almost empty of course I would want to talk first... but if its almost empty I wonder why? it seems that the strict guidelines your thinking and what I am thinking are not the same... sure you want to know something about the person and yes intially the conversations have or should take place.. what is the basis for contact in the first place...hmmm lets float this by you .... if you go to a bar and look around .. what is it that you are looking for first? conversation? I don't think so.. looks.. then you decide if you want to talk and see if they can hold an intelligent converstaion... true or not? same thing applies to profiles the written part is what you see after their picture... duh... we are a society of self gratifcations and very visual people.... again nothing will beat a face to face encounter.. take a chance and see what happens I say.

wow

Eh, if I'm going to a bar, it's usually with friends. Not to hook up with drunk guys . As for here, I'd absolutley talk to someone who wasn't quite what I look for looks wise if their profile was interesting.

I think its what ever you feel comfortable with. It could be different every time. Some email chat, a phone call, and set up a date. If at some point you dont feel comfy with it then tell them so. If you cant agree on something then its time to move on.

Sweets, it got better, in fact I ordered (and paid for) a second drink as he was so horrible.

Synopsis:
He had a DV conviction and a TPO from his wife.
He violated the TPO.
He sold fire safety equipment to Amish, moved to Ohio from Michigan for this.
Was 5'5", said he was 5'8"
Some woman who flew from out of state to meet him took his truck, drove to the police station and charged him with Menacing.

And on and on and on.....

Oh, no. I'm taking my time, plenty of time....I've done the "rush into meeting" thing (after 2 weeks -- this was the arsonist) and I should have learned something from that....

Yikes. You have the worst/best date stories. haha

Arsonist?

Ya, I seem to meet the good ones, especially those with TMI Syndrome.

It's why I am holding out for Lexy...

Someone I met from another site -- this was years ago.

2 weeks e-mail, IM, phone calls, she asked me to meet her, I was stupid, said OK, met her, she asked me to go along with her and some of her friends because they liked to start fires in hotel rooms.

Uh, I think not....

Later, she had a job at a mall and got in trouble for stealing stuff out of her store and trading it to another mall employee for stuff he stole from HIS store....

Last I saw her (2002), she was selling perfume door-to-door....

Persistence is very alluring....!

Although if anyone is guilty of TMI Syndrome, it's probably me & my profile....!

Hearing stories like that makes me feel better .

And, there I was thinking it was going to be when you posted her bail. That, or at the last Burning Man Festival. Cliffhangers, go figure.

Yeah but I want to know about YOU....

I mean those people you meet and say hello and within ten minutes you know about their mother's surgery, nasty divorce, their estrangement from their sister, and the fact they are against immunizations.

And, what of the the idjits that ask for your phone number on the 2nd email? Now that you've established they aren't yet a serial killer, and all. Yada - yada, zzz-! Buzzkill.

What about the ones who send you a friend request (no email) with their phone number?

It would depend really. Do they practically live down the street? Maybe... but only if its on neutral ground. Normally though, there needs to be at least a week of chatting online and no fewer than a few days of phone calls when meeting someone from online.

Whats really so sad... is that its even though of as "rushing" to meet sooner though. I mean, its to each their own right? If we meet someone in person first we can't have all those restrictions before we actually speak to them...lol. Its so sad that people are so paranoid of others these days, myself being one of the paranoid also....lol.

Ewwww-, what's that smell...

I wouldn't really call it being paranoid. Just that if I'm meeting someone from here, I'm going to want to know a bit about them and chat first. Plain and simple.