Nope. I require that I get to know someone via online before I go out and meet 'em. I'm a naturally-suspicious person and get rather... well... suspicious when someone pulls that "I JUST HAVE TO MEET YOU RIGHT NOW!!!" stuff on me, as it mostly results in trouble... especially for me.

That has happened to me before also. They push so hard... and then "blip" they're gone... LOL Then they act like I have a problem... and yes I guess I do. My problem is I am not going to feel forced into the "it's now or never" thought process. I guess never will work for me...

I have found that anyone who is in a big hurry to meet is usually a head case. If they can't progress through the usual steps they are hiding something. How hard is it to spend 30 minutes here and there getting to know someone. If they are that desperate to meet it is probably because they are Not getting sex and there is a good reason.

Yeah, the "i have to meet right now" people turn me off to meeting them.

At least they show that right away and we don't have to waste time talking to them anymore.

ditto

No, I'm not like that. I email for awhile and then if I want it to go further, we graduate to the phone. Then we will decide if we should meet or not.

I met someone quickly once. It went badly.

Meet that night or the next? He$$ no.

The problem I have is that the ones who pull that "JUST GOTTA MEET YOU RIGHT NOW!!!" types are typically also the first ones to pull the "we're just not compatible *in some nebulous kind of way*" malarkey on me. If they didn't think I was compatible with them, they shouldn't have even bothered to get so anxious to meet me in the first place.

Yep, that's for sure. I let my guard down once and met this dude... after only talking on the phone once... we met and he pretty much grilled me to death. I told him that was the reason I wasn't anxious to meet so soon, because I really don't feel comfortable talking about this kind of stuff "all at once" to someone I still feel is a complete stranger. If he would have just been a bit more patient... It would have eventually been brought up in the proper forum and in the right time and then it wouldn't feel like a horrible job interview scenario. Learned lesson for me, and I guess I didn't get the "job" Which I would have "passed" on anyways and waited for a better offer...

I've met a couple people (on a different site) after just chatting a little and no phone calls. Neither of which I wanted to see again. After that, I'd rather get to know the person a little more to see if I am interested in meeting.

The problem with stuff like dating in general is that our pre-packaged, fast-food, broadband, gotta-have-it-right-NOW!!! society has sort of spoiled us a bit- we expect everything to happen instantly, much like that instant hot coco or that Lean Cuisine lasagna someone on this site will be slammin' in his or her microwave.

No one wants to slow down and REALLY get to know someone... they think it's all gonna turn out like some sickeningly romantic Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan movie. After a couple of hours (and some truly-trivial occurrences added in to "add drama" to things), the couple lives "happily ever after", which is HARDLY how things turn out.

It's all about the instant gratification, as well as the convenience (meaning "laziness") of the instant hook-up.

Chances are that a product called "Instant Girlfriend (or Boyfriend)" would sell like hotcakes if such a product were actually out there.

If someone turns them down for meeting that night, they'll just keep trying until they get what they want. I'd rather meet someone who actually wants to meet me. Not someone who is going to keep trying until someone goes out with him that night.

after reading the posts on this.. I guess I will be shunned and banned because I like to meet someone right away as to the why... least you all forget not everyone is honest with their profiles and I would rather see for myself and know the truth on how the look act talk and their intelligence level... there is nothing on a profile like body language or voice inflections .. so I will stick to my meet and get it over with then continue with gettiong to know someone it doesn't need to be sexual you know.

You really should string it out a little more with some people, there are weirdos out there and most of them can't hide the fact.

no if they turn me down I figure ok not a problem . BUT I will have my guard up even more so..people tend to hide things and after a little time they let their guard down and you find out things ..things that are just not your cup of tea ( so to speak) so now you invested time for what to walk away and have him or her think what a jerk? no thanks.

I prefer to meet after a couple of phone conversations. I can get to know someone better if I see them in person.

So, when meeting right away, how do you decide if you want to meet someone? Based on their picture? Their profile? Obviously there isn't much conversation if you're meeting right away.

It depends... if it is a Friday or Saturday I might be up for meeting for a drink just to see how it goes. But that is if we clicked in mail and on the phone right away.

My thing is these people asking to meet right away don't give much info about themselves. There's not much in their profile. They don't want to chat. They don't want a phone coversation. They just want to meet. Not much to go on to see if I actually want to meet them.

That equals "no connection" to me.