because some people are mentally and emotionally helpless...

And others just don't give a darn...........

Well, I use the rose because it symbolizes hope, mystery, and the unknown. It symbolizes a return to life. The flame was hope in time of great mourning.

I have been pouring out my heart and soul over the past couple of months. I have laid every thought bare in hopes of healing and personal growth. Because of this raw honesty and because of my community, the work I do, need for privacy, etc., I cannot show my identity at this time. Not under this profile anymore, anyway. I have exposed too much of who I am and what I struggle with. Privacy is necessary.

Besides, didn't ya' know. I've been single by choice. I'm not here to meet a mate.

PS....btw, your main avatar is a country scene, mike. Nice. I like nature.

Helpless? I'm not sure that's the right word. Perhaps that is their fear, but everyone has the strength inside, if they just bother to take the time to look deeply enough. If they have patience and willingness.

You wrote this Angel and I must comment..PS....btw, your main avatar is a country scene, mike. Nice. I like nature.
I wish for all of you who have problems with unscrupulous folks to have a place to go like the avatar I use.This is a rustic little cabin that I look at from upstairs in my stilt house and it is deep in the woods.Just pure beauty and nature. If you can get back to nature and yourself and look across your front yard and say you would be happy with just that and yourself, then you may be content like me..Be happy single...it could be worse...You could be living with a liar destroying your peace of mind. I suggest that when you catch the first lie ,Run away...do not walk...(and I wonder why I am single)

Nature has always been a calming, centering, and grounding influence on me. I wonder why I do not use it more.


Thanks.

Because it's the easier way out. A great many people would rather lead people on and pull stupid crap on other people than just come out and say what is on their mind.

I will be honest I do with my ex becuz he's stupid! I mean seriously he started the "mind-games" when we first met but, what I mean by that is he is controlling and emotionally abusive hell I just started counseling and you really don't need that BS. in your life.

I got kicked out of recess in school because I didn't play games.

I don't know that it matters, but I have confidence that when you get through all of what you're going through, fear will not exist in the same light that it does now. I still remember what you look like, but more importantly see more of who you are without your face in your profile. Keep it up and never say never. I keep my own level of anonymity here as well, except for some I've befriended. To date, I haven't had any regrets, which is extremely unusual.

Thank you. I hope so, too.

....and, my folks already found the toy bag in all this hoopla - so, that part (at least), although humiliating to the extreme is already out in the open - and i haven't been disowned emotionally!

Isn't that the truth!!

Because some of us don't even know what a mind game is, or how to play it, and so we believe that it is all real. <---sucker syndrome.

Ohhhh! Details! Details!

Back in the late 80's my mom got a shocker when she visited my house unannounced. Let's just say she calls first now.

Ditto, me too. Some people ask for truth, but when you give it to them, they run. That's why I don't indulge myself in games. You get a couple chances to show me who you really are....then all bets are off. I like to think that is called maturity, but maybe it's just a better bull**** meter.

La Belle Dame Sans Merci


Ah, what can ail thee, wretched wight,
Alone and palely loitering?
The sedge is withered from the lake,
And no birds sing.

Ah, what can ail thee, wretched wight,
So haggard and so woe-begone
The squirrel's granary is full,
And the harvest's done.

I see a lily on thy brow
With anguish moist and fever dew,
And on thy cheek a fading rose
Fast withereth too.

I met a lady in the meads,
Full beautiful, a faery's child:
Her hair was long, her foot was ligh,
And her eyes were wild.

I set her on my pacing steed,
And nothing else saw all day long;
For sideways would she lean, and sing
A faery's song.

I made a garland for her head,
And bracelets too, and fragrant zone;
She looked at me as she did love,
And made sweet moan.

She found me roots of relish sweet,
And honey wild, and manna dew,
And sure in language strange she said,
"I love thee true!"

She took me to her elfin grot,
And there she gazed and sighed deep,
And there I shut her wild, sad eyes---
So kissed to sleep.

And there we slumbered on the moss,
And there I dreamed, ah! woe betide,
The latest dream I ever dreamed
On the cold hill side.

I saw pale kings, and princes too,
Pale warriors, death-pale were they all;
Who cried---"La belle Dame sans merci
Hath thee in thrall!"

I saw their starved lips in the gloam,
With horrid warning gaped wide,
And I awoke and found me here,
On the cold hill side.

And that is why I sojourn here,
Alone and palely loitering,
Though the sedge is withered from the lake,
And no birds sing.

John Keats

It can be because of a number of reasons-

- the game-player is particularly immature and not secure enough to speak the truth.

- the game-player doesn't know what he or she wants in a relationship, and will pass that indecision to the other party.

- the game-player it actually not interested in having a relationship with he other party and is playing-games to "sour the milk", if you will.

In any case, it sucks and only serves to make the victim of such game-playing resentful people and dating in general.

Well, they were apartment sitting on a day I was having new windows reinstalled and noticed I had put the ladder I had borrowed from them in my hall, just under the attic door. Dad thought he'd be helpful and install an attic light and a few floor boards on those beams while he was there. I guess curiosity got the better of him and he opened my play suitcase, the one that holds most of my toys. Must have been a shocker, for sure!