now....if he LEFT his wife to be with you...that would be ok.

Maybe. If it was a "one time" affair. But, odds are still 75% against that relationship working out in the end.

If it is a pattern of behavior, chances are, they'll be doing it to you, too - sooner rather than later.

Its more about them as individuals than it is about any issues in the relationship, in that case.

sometimes 2 people fall in love and they act upon it...as long as they are over 18 and not engaged in any illeagal activities...it really is no ones buisness..."we are a nation of noses pressed up against the glass"...don henley...be seeing you

No way. The ramifications, the loss, the betrayal, the hatred. Especially if there are kids involved. When it's all over the positive from it is what's been learned. The 2 that are having the affair are obviously blind to any consequences of the lustful feeling. Normaly affairs are a sexual encounter or attraction. They have to walk through that unknowingly hurting themselves in the longrun. Most of the time it doesn't last anyway. They are in an affair because their marriage wasn't/isn't healthy and that person is acting on lonliness, which can be misunderstood for the affair feeling healthy or person of their dreams. They are blind to the long term ramifications of it all. I feel sorry for them for what they don't know. There is so much more as well. Affairs hurt more than just the two or 3 invovled. Kids many times are involved and that is the hardest part to look at.
Why find someone that is married. If he/she has 1 affair there will be more. How can anyone have an affair with someone and trust them? OH and the vows you take in marriage aren't just for the 2 in the marriage. There's a spiritual commitment if that's the way you believe and that is the biggest downfall.

I think you forgot to read page 2.

um, not really, no. If he left his wife and then decided to be with someone else, that would be okay, but then, if there isn't enough time to mourn the original loss, odds are the next hostage is going to suffer for it.

Are there not enough unmarried or uncommitted out there that people have to find someone who is married or committed? I have a lot to say about this topic, so I'm done. I'm glad my situation and pain is over. I feel so sorry for those who are going through it now.

Sure as God made little green apples,
some folks will stray from their commitments.

If her husband can't trust her, why should I?