Any number of times I have heard the same line "I only want a guy who is in love with me, who is gentle and has confidence, then when you open up and admit that, they are gone before you can say " hey WAIT!"

Stating what one WANTS does not translate into
"what I will date or be serious with" too often it seems.

Ah. And that is the enigma that is woman.

But guess what. Guys do that crap too.

If us guys had an answer to that question why would we be surfing this sight?

It sounds nice

timing is everything

I think it has more to do with the difference women place on what they want vs what they desire and I frankly do not see the difference!

wants and desires are the same thing

no the problem is that we want those things from a certain kind of guy.
and men do it too.
every one of us here could find SOMEONE to get that kind of attention from
but it isn't worth having if it isn't from THE ONE you want it from.

Yeah!!! What she said!!!

I believe the old saying was 'Having higher standards than the ones you are dating' /ponder

She is right we could all have someone but standards are the problem. My standards are in fact higher than my rating on a scale from 1-10. I would say and even if there was a guy out there who was say a 4 I probably wouldnt give him a chance unless he was a friend and it developed into more but off the bat I wouldnt.

i think its a classic case of numbers that wont add up... 90% of women want to "be with" 10% of men lol

and if u think about it in the long run -- thats just gross ^^

this also works the other way around, and is equally gross.

I don't think it is a percentages or rating game.
I agree with catwoman, timing is everything.

Timing might be everything, but so is using good common sense and not being afraid to accept the happiness that is being presented to you. If love, true love, is staring you in the face and you run from it...how can you say timing is everything? If that person truly loves you, and you know it, and you truly love them and you know it....and yet still you run from it...how can it be bad timing? All that really is is a fear to accept love? Or a fear of it being real. Use your head.

I think that it's chemistry too - both of them.

because there is a fine line between asshat and pansyass.

some guys can't seem to walk that line.

some are asshats..

some are pansyasses.

i can't abide by either.

walk the line.

(let me enlighten you.. balance is key. you can be sensetive but dont be the freakin pansy from bedazzled who cries at the sunset and sings songs about dolphin safe tuna. i can talk to my girls about my freakin feelings on everything. sometimes i just want a man to be strong for/with me. and that means have your own opinion, not just share mine, don't be afraid to express that opinion and tell me when i'm wrong. not just be mushy and try to avoid confrontation. nothing sucks more than dating a guy who is a freakin emotional leech.)

But I thought women wanted an sensitive, in touch with his feelings, cries at sunsets, kind of guy?

(I watched this movie last month, and laughed so hard during that scene. What a pansy!!)

maaaaannn thats the biggest misconseption out there. ya know? i mean sure there has to be some chick out there needing that kind of attention... the creepy kind. but really.. i'm not lookin for a man to constantly have a knockdown drag out fight with but shoot... stand up for yourself ya know? stop taking it up the emotional poop shoot and be a man!!

LOL okay i'm done.

and yeah.. that was hands down my favorite character.. that ... and the columbian drug lord. "YO SOY HABLAR ESPANOL!!"

HAHAHA

The basketball character was hillarious too.

But yeah, a guy who is THAT sensitive is creepy. I know women want a sensitive guy, but in no way like that character. She needs a man....A MAN'S MAN!

I like rough women.