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Topic: To Call or Not to Call...
JoeW99's photo
Sat 01/10/09 02:14 PM
So this is the situation i find myself in right now.

Date has bailed for movies/dinner tonight due to work... understand that and not bitter since she works 12 hour shifts at a hospital.
Exchanged numbers with a cute girl last night. She told me to let her know how the night went.. so text her after friends and i left the club and she did text me back. Now... i have no plans at this moment for tonight, her friend said i should come down to the club they would be at tonight- male friend. Pretty sure she doesn't know he told me this since she was off getting a drink.

Do I-
Text her- let her know my plans went belly up and wondered if she wanted to do something.

Show up to the club- If it goes well she is happy to see me(mentioning that her friend had told me to go there) / if it goes bad i look like a stalker...

Call her- we have only met twice before, so don't know her that well.. except she is cute.

Wait to call/text- find something else to do and wait 2 or 3 days before i text or call her. Since i'm new to dating have already messed this up a couple of times!

Wait just to see her again- every Friday night we all go to the same place, so sure i will see her again.. well hope i will.


So those are my choices atm.. delayed till 2pm already but still not sure which route to take. Any suggestions?

MirrorMirror's photo
Sat 01/10/09 02:16 PM
glasses Text her and see whats up.glasses

PATSFAN's photo
Sat 01/10/09 02:17 PM
Call her, at the very least you won't be stuck in the house

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Sat 01/10/09 02:18 PM
If you want to see her, call or text her. Seems simple enough.

Goofball73's photo
Sat 01/10/09 02:18 PM
If you two exchanged numbers, then I say you call her and just feel her out. Don't come right out and talk about how your date bailed on ya. Talk a few, get a feel, and when she asks, tell her the truth and then say that part of the reason you called was to see if she might be interested in meeting up. No date...just hooking up to get to know one another.

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Sat 01/10/09 02:20 PM
Just call or text her whenever you feel like it. You don't have to way 2.63384 days to call. Just do it whenever you feel like it.

jdcolvin's photo
Sat 01/10/09 02:20 PM
show up unanounced at the club and raise some hello

MeChrissy2's photo
Sat 01/10/09 02:21 PM
Joe,

Call. I went on a great date recently and if called right now, it'd be his lucky night.:wink:

JoeW99's photo
Sat 01/10/09 02:28 PM

Joe,

Call. I went on a great date recently and if called right now, it'd be his lucky night.:wink:


Yeah past the point in my life trying to just get lucky. Getting laid isn't really an issue.. but kinda like her.
Not sure on the calling but i guess a text can't hurt. Worst comes to worst text friends later and find something else to do.

Thanks for the adviceflowerforyou

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Sat 01/10/09 02:30 PM

So this is the situation i find myself in right now.

Date has bailed for movies/dinner tonight due to work... understand that and not bitter since she works 12 hour shifts at a hospital.
Exchanged numbers with a cute girl last night. She told me to let her know how the night went.. so text her after friends and i left the club and she did text me back. Now... i have no plans at this moment for tonight, her friend said i should come down to the club they would be at tonight- male friend. Pretty sure she doesn't know he told me this since she was off getting a drink.

Do I-
Text her- let her know my plans went belly up and wondered if she wanted to do something.

Show up to the club- If it goes well she is happy to see me(mentioning that her friend had told me to go there) / if it goes bad i look like a stalker...

Call her- we have only met twice before, so don't know her that well.. except she is cute.

Wait to call/text- find something else to do and wait 2 or 3 days before i text or call her. Since i'm new to dating have already messed this up a couple of times!

Wait just to see her again- every Friday night we all go to the same place, so sure i will see her again.. well hope i will.


So those are my choices atm.. delayed till 2pm already but still not sure which route to take. Any suggestions?



I'd just go to the club- you don't have anything better to do, right? If she asks how the date went, tell her what happened. Just play it by ear, be casual and have fun. Hope you have a nice time. :)

JoeW99's photo
Sat 01/10/09 03:02 PM
K well that seemed to work ok.

I text her-
she texted back-
text her-
text back-
ended up just calling her and will be meeting them at the club tonight.

Hmmmm i guess i was making it harder then it needed to be. I blame her for being cute... it's my story i'll tell it how i want!

MeChrissy2's photo
Sat 01/10/09 03:05 PM
Good Luck and have fun.

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Sat 01/10/09 03:14 PM

K well that seemed to work ok.

I text her-
she texted back-
text her-
text back-
ended up just calling her and will be meeting them at the club tonight.

Hmmmm i guess i was making it harder then it needed to be. I blame her for being cute... it's my story i'll tell it how i want!


LOL, well if you didn't think she was cute you probably wouldn't be trying to be with her. Have fun and be careful.

JoeW99's photo
Sat 01/10/09 03:30 PM


K well that seemed to work ok.

I text her-
she texted back-
text her-
text back-
ended up just calling her and will be meeting them at the club tonight.

Hmmmm i guess i was making it harder then it needed to be. I blame her for being cute... it's my story i'll tell it how i want!


LOL, well if you didn't think she was cute you probably wouldn't be trying to be with her. Have fun and be careful.


Cute is not always the deal breaker, but if she can't smile or laugh i'm out. IF i find both along the way.. :heart: flowerforyou :heart:

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Sat 01/10/09 11:37 PM



K well that seemed to work ok.

I text her-
she texted back-
text her-
text back-
ended up just calling her and will be meeting them at the club tonight.

Hmmmm i guess i was making it harder then it needed to be. I blame her for being cute... it's my story i'll tell it how i want!


LOL, well if you didn't think she was cute you probably wouldn't be trying to be with her. Have fun and be careful.


Cute is not always the deal breaker, but if she can't smile or laugh i'm out. IF i find both along the way.. :heart: flowerforyou :heart:


Well, it's an attention getter at any rate.

Tanzkity's photo
Sat 01/10/09 11:41 PM
Just go and act like you didnt know she was going to be there........just expect the worse.............club,men,drinks.......so many dillemas and things that can go wrong when you do see her......

catwoman96's photo
Sat 01/10/09 11:43 PM
have fun

Riding_Dubz's photo
Sat 01/10/09 11:43 PM
I would made the appearance and been like hot damn you kick it here to, smitten smitten smitten smitten smitten

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Sun 01/11/09 12:42 AM
i think he is on the date by now.....lol Go get em Joedrinks

JoeW99's photo
Sun 01/11/09 02:18 AM
Yeah just got home, was nice.

Got to know her alittle more and have fun.
Guess time will tell where it goes like everything else.

Btw the texting worked just fine lol.
Based on how she acted to see me, sure if i had just shown up it would of went fine as well.

Couple of nice dances tonight and we will see where it goes in the future.

thanks for the advice.

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