Sex have to be the center of things for so many people? It's almost as though people hear the word 'virgin' and they think it's almost taboo!

Not gonna lie I'm a virgin and proud. I get questions like "WHAT IF YOU DON'T HAVE SEX FOR LIKE TEN YEARS!!!" So what if it takes that long for me to get married so be it.

I'm not saying that sex is wrong before marriage... If you choose to do so then so be it... but I think everyone needs to find a middle ground of respect for people who choose to do things opposite of them.

I too am a virgin.
and I completely agree with you
Kudos.

Try to bear in mind that we are genetically programed to reproduce. The urge is THE most powerful of the instincts. Sex has been the center of human culture FAR before we ever began to write. Many alternate religions focus on fertility while other more main stream religions fear it. Ultimately though sex is just sex but this is a misunderstood given. Some people fear lifestyles that conflict with the main stream. Although a girl is considered in the main stream a slut if she has sex out of wed lock there are underlying social expectations as well that a "normal" girl has had sex by around age sixteen.
The reality if it is nothing is normal. Like any lifestyle choice you should not feel pressured into having sex if you are not ready for it, period. Part of being human is you have an opportunity to over ride your instincts a little but loneliness can complicate things a lot for a person.

Now sex for as socially maligned as it is can be a beautiful thing. Some guys view it as a act of conquest to "score" while others view it as a canvas to make art upon and create beauty in sensual expression. Likewise women view it in a variety of good and bad ways. Either way Americans in general are just messed up on the whole issue of virginity, sex, homosexuality, and nudity.

There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. Its your body and your choice. Don't let others' misgivings change who you are and how you feel about yourself. It isn't fair, it isn't right, and it is down right immature of anyone to want anything more of a person than they would want for themselves. Just please do not get mad at us men for appreciating your physical aspects. It is hard wired into us.

stick to your values and find a man with similar ones when you do make love for the first time then thats what it will be. PEACE sister

I am really not sure on this on! Sex has never been the center of anything for me! If I have it or not it is fine with me. It must just be people that feel that way either dont like being close to people, or feel they need to have sex just to be accepted! Obviously this doesnt explain them all but I bet it covers most of them!

well, i haven't had sex for about ten years, but i do miss it. you can have many friends the you won't have sex with, but the one that you want to stay with.....why not? why does it have to be about abstinance all the time with people? if you don't like sex or love making, then pick a partner that doesn't like it either. why should the two of you suffer? be straight with your interested party before you get involved, and tell them that you don't like sex, and you won't have this issue. good luck in your search.

being a virgin is very cool though, and take your time, don't let them rush you, and be careful. it might be good to have a best friend help you loose it, for they will care more...even though it might feel weird.

I was when I got married! I was the only one of my friends that was. Good for you!!

I believe all the virgins should hang out with other virgins!!!! You need to get a virgin website.......and then you can all congregate!!!

virgin chi chi wednesdays!!!!


virgin wing night!!!

virgin bbq's..........geeeeeeeeeeeez the list is ENDLESS!!!

What this was about... Okay... I was talking with a guy on the instant messaging thing on here last night for a good while.... and then out of nowhere he asked me if I had had sex before and when I said no he made a huge deal out of it and then stopped talking to me... so it's a thing of why is it such a big deal if someone has not had sex before?

Wow that was way rude! We all arent jerks like that, but I guess it comes down to a preference. He is the one that will miss out! It is not that big of a deal for most of us, just the insecure people.

Well, he sounds like a loser in my book!! Only looking for 1 thing!!!

You just ran across a choad looking for instant gratification!

virtue is cool! I think it rocks! but dont take everything so seriously in here. With that said when someone has the hots for you dont take it as insult and let them know how you feel. If they respect you great! Coming off as you dont consider sex or that your not at least dreaming about it is a little scary. Who wants someone with no passion?

Try it. You'll like it.

Awwww.....c'mon. All the kids are doin it these days.


I'm just messin with ya. Haha....sounds like a bad peer pressure commercial.

Even though i think this comment was hilarious and sounds like something sarcastic my little sister would say (no lie)

i don't think that being a virgin is wrong...personally i am not but who the hell cares? do what you want with whatever you want on your body<3

When my youngest daughter was a teenager, she and a few other girls called themselves the Virgin Club.
I learned a lot. She asked me, what constituted a virgin?
I got to wondering. Is a virgin, a gal who will participate in total abstanance. No foreplay, fondling, oral, hand-jobs, etc. Or is virginity just not allowing penetration and busting the cherry.
I told my daughter, a true virgin practices total abstinance.

thats a good daddy<3