Topic: relationship, marriage ... ?
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Thu 01/08/09 08:23 PM
why after 26 u decided to leave that relationship?

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Thu 01/08/09 08:23 PM
why after 26 u decided to leave that relationship?

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Thu 01/08/09 08:27 PM

wow 26 is a lifetime


22 seems like it was also... indifferent

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Thu 01/08/09 08:30 PM
why the wait? my mom after 32 of being married to my dad she left him

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Thu 01/08/09 08:32 PM

why after 26 u decided to leave that relationship?


I realised how it was effecting my children. I decided then and there that I had to stop the cycle of abuse for them. It didnt happen over night, and it took time to heal. But with the help of family, friends and time, I was able to see that I was better off without all the abuse in my life.

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Thu 01/08/09 08:38 PM




is it sanity? or insanity? what have u tried?
:)

ill I was married for 10yrsill


Wasnt any part of those 10 years good? I was married for 26 years, it was only the last couple of years when he was cheating that was bad. I would do the marriage thing again, despite the lies and abuse. I figure its like this, I dont lie, cheat, or abuse alcohol, so there has to be one other male person out there that would like to spend the rest of his days with a fantastic person like me. bigsmile
How do you emotionally recover after being with someone for 26 years and then get divorced? My hat goes off to you flowerforyou


Jill, you grieve like you do a death. Cry a lot, realise you have to be strong for the kids, be strong to show them there is a better way to live. And be happy to look in the mirror everyday and know I am a good person with good morals. And thank you. flowerforyou

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Thu 01/08/09 08:49 PM
good for u! hope u can find what u deserve and better

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Thu 01/08/09 08:55 PM

good for u! hope u can find what u deserve and better


Thanks, I hope so also. flowerforyou

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Thu 01/08/09 08:56 PM
nite people good luck on ur seach

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Thu 01/08/09 09:08 PM
She said he was abusive and drank too much.

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Fri 01/09/09 12:01 AM
every four or five years I seem to find a gal I can spend five or six years learnin how to hate and buy her a house.:laughing:

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Fri 01/23/09 07:27 PM
All you have to do is find the right person and things should be alright. I hope.....!

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Fri 01/23/09 07:29 PM


and , after 10 years what happened?

I got divorced and got my sanity back:banana: :banana: :banana:




drinker Amendrinker

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Fri 01/23/09 09:17 PM
fear of being alonesad sad sad

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Sat 01/24/09 12:08 AM
We never want to look at the cross roads that life puts in our path. All we can do is make a decision and work with our experience day by day.

20 Years for me !

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Sat 01/24/09 04:03 PM
I was with my wife for 20 years. After she passed, I have found it extremely difficult being alone. I think I am too used to having that companion there, and I think I took for granted that it would be me going first, not her.
Yes, if I found the right one, I would get married, after all in 20 years...I never had one complaint I can think of.

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Sat 01/24/09 04:42 PM

well why do we wanna get there? what is holding us back?


Been married once, never again.

As far as what's holding me back from a relationship, the reality is that I can't find anyone compatible.



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Mon 02/23/09 08:58 PM


well why do we wanna get there? what is holding us back?

Been married once, never again.
As far as what's holding me back from a relationship, the reality is that I can't find anyone compatible.

a matter of compatibility? or barrier to protect yourself of the after taste of divorce and separation? or maybe both?

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Mon 02/23/09 09:13 PM



well why do we wanna get there? what is holding us back?

Been married once, never again.
As far as what's holding me back from a relationship, the reality is that I can't find anyone compatible.

a matter of compatibility? or barrier to protect yourself of the after taste of divorce and separation? or maybe both?


I really don't see that there are any "protective barriers," per se. But I've been through a lot of relationships, and I know what I want -- and, maybe more importantly, I know what I DON'T want.

And at this point, I simply don't seem to have access to the kind of person I would want to be involved with. They certainly can't be found on dating sites.





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Tue 02/24/09 05:18 AM




well why do we wanna get there? what is holding us back?

Been married once, never again.
As far as what's holding me back from a relationship, the reality is that I can't find anyone compatible.

a matter of compatibility? or barrier to protect yourself of the after taste of divorce and separation? or maybe both?


I really don't see that there are any "protective barriers," per se. But I've been through a lot of relationships, and I know what I want -- and, maybe more importantly, I know what I DON'T want.

And at this point, I simply don't seem to have access to the kind of person I would want to be involved with. They certainly can't be found on dating sites.
the prototype of woman that you are looking for would be able to make you happy and she won't hurt you? if you are looking for her, and you know she is not here, why are on a dating website? isn't time valuable for you?