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Topic: Ladies input needed ASAP
Southernborn29 Joined Thu 12/18/08 Posts: 8	Thu 01/08/09 04:58 PM
I just got a number at a bar last night and although it is the correct number.Was kinda wondering if any ladies had any personal takes on how to address this matter.I mean i txt her after leaving the bar since she had been drinking and i wanted her to have a reminder in the am...lol Thing is she has been unresponsive today and i wish not too over do it so ive laid back a bit. I wanna catch up with her again,but dont wanna blow her phone up like crazy till i reach her... Now women in your oppinion A would you give a guy ur real number if you had no intrest?B if you had how much is enough intrest to show without it being excessive and last how can i guage if this is a lost cause without giveing up too soon....Real advice needed plz

bad_girl Joined Tue 07/17/07 Posts: 67379	Thu 01/08/09 04:59 PM
Are you sure it is the right #, and if so then call her

quiet_2008 Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 11138	Thu 01/08/09 05:00 PM
she sobered up

Southernborn29 Joined Thu 12/18/08 Posts: 8	Thu 01/08/09 05:02 PM
i did it went to voice mail and i left a message....But no call back.I know it was her number b/c i recognized the voice on her message box intro.Thing is i dont wanna give her a bad vibe by being too presistant,but at same understand people get busy and might forget after hrs pass to hit u up..

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Thu 01/08/09 05:03 PM
I just got a number at a bar last night and although it is the correct number.Was kinda wondering if any ladies had any personal takes on how to address this matter.I mean i txt her after leaving the bar since she had been drinking and i wanted her to have a reminder in the am...lol Thing is she has been unresponsive today and i wish not too over do it so ive laid back a bit. I wanna catch up with her again,but dont wanna blow her phone up like crazy till i reach her... Now women in your oppinion A would you give a guy ur real number if you had no intrest?B if you had how much is enough intrest to show without it being excessive and last how can i guage if this is a lost cause without giveing up too soon....Real advice needed plz If I call twice and dont get an answer thats usually it for me.Phone number goes into the trash.

Southernborn29 Joined Thu 12/18/08 Posts: 8	Thu 01/08/09 05:04 PM
i feel you mirror the crazy thing is if she wasnt into me then why give me her real number???

heartbreaker123 Joined Mon 11/10/08 Posts: 1081	Thu 01/08/09 05:05 PM
if u really want 2 get 2 know her call the # and u'll find out if it's real or not,good luck

writer_gurl Joined Sat 03/01/08 Posts: 7673	Thu 01/08/09 05:06 PM
Call her if the # was real If she doesn't remember you quickly hang up

rlynne Joined Sun 11/23/08 Posts: 2458	Thu 01/08/09 05:07 PM
i did it went to voice mail and i left a message....But no call back.I know it was her number b/c i recognized the voice on her message box intro.Thing is i dont wanna give her a bad vibe by being too presistant,but at same understand people get busy and might forget after hrs pass to hit u up.. okay you're going to have more game if you wait a few days..not hours, not the next morning she did give you her number while intoxicated....I'd say three days average..then call...she'll be more likely to answer the phone cause she is not expecting a mistake to come back and say howdy..and you have more ground to ask for coffee..always go with the coffee for a first..its easy and casual

writer_gurl Joined Sat 03/01/08 Posts: 7673	Thu 01/08/09 05:10 PM
i feel you mirror the crazy thing is if she wasnt into me then why give me her real number??? Maybe she was drunk and didn't know what she was doing

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 01/08/09 05:10 PM
i did it went to voice mail and i left a message....But no call back.I know it was her number b/c i recognized the voice on her message box intro.Thing is i dont wanna give her a bad vibe by being too presistant,but at same understand people get busy and might forget after hrs pass to hit u up.. okay you're going to have more game if you wait a few days..not hours, not the next morning she did give you her number while intoxicated....I'd say three days average..then call...she'll be more likely to answer the phone cause she is not expecting a mistake to come back and say howdy..and you have more ground to ask for coffee..always go with the coffee for a first..its easy and casual Really? If someone waited three days to call me after I gave him my number, I might start to think he wasn't interested.

sensualsweet Joined Sun 12/28/08 Posts: 977	Thu 01/08/09 05:11 PM
I just got a number at a bar last night and although it is the correct number.Was kinda wondering if any ladies had any personal takes on how to address this matter.I mean i txt her after leaving the bar since she had been drinking and i wanted her to have a reminder in the am...lol Thing is she has been unresponsive today and i wish not too over do it so ive laid back a bit. I wanna catch up with her again,but dont wanna blow her phone up like crazy till i reach her... Now women in your oppinion A would you give a guy ur real number if you had no intrest?B if you had how much is enough intrest to show without it being excessive and last how can i guage if this is a lost cause without giveing up too soon....Real advice needed plz If she has been unresponsive thus far, chances are she may not remember you or wish to... but rather than keep calling and texting... I would suggest sending one text with your myspace or mingle2 ID and tell her to check our your profile (as a reminder of who you are)... and to call you if she is still interested (make sure you mention where she gave you her number). Then leave it in her hands. If she does not respond, chalk it up to experience. You never know, you might run into her again at the bar another night... but make sure she's sober before approaching her. Good luck.

AllSmilesInTulsa Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1903	Thu 01/08/09 05:11 PM
Some people don't know how to gracefully say no when asked for their number. We weren't there so we can't judge her motive. If you have left a voicemail I would wait for her to return your call. If she doesn't, she's not interested.

AllSmilesInTulsa Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1903	Thu 01/08/09 05:13 PM
i did it went to voice mail and i left a message....But no call back.I know it was her number b/c i recognized the voice on her message box intro.Thing is i dont wanna give her a bad vibe by being too presistant,but at same understand people get busy and might forget after hrs pass to hit u up.. okay you're going to have more game if you wait a few days..not hours, not the next morning she did give you her number while intoxicated....I'd say three days average..then call...she'll be more likely to answer the phone cause she is not expecting a mistake to come back and say howdy..and you have more ground to ask for coffee..always go with the coffee for a first..its easy and casual Really? If someone waited three days to call me after I gave him my number, I might start to think he wasn't interested. If a guy waits 3 days to call after I give him my number, he's liable to lose his place in line!!

adoubleby Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 289	Thu 01/08/09 05:15 PM
try it one more time : )

Frenchfry_03 Joined Fri 01/02/09 Posts: 3918	Thu 01/08/09 05:16 PM
i did it went to voice mail and i left a message....But no call back.I know it was her number b/c i recognized the voice on her message box intro.Thing is i dont wanna give her a bad vibe by being too presistant,but at same understand people get busy and might forget after hrs pass to hit u up.. okay you're going to have more game if you wait a few days..not hours, not the next morning she did give you her number while intoxicated....I'd say three days average..then call...she'll be more likely to answer the phone cause she is not expecting a mistake to come back and say howdy..and you have more ground to ask for coffee..always go with the coffee for a first..its easy and casual you should just lay low for a bit. She is probably trying to remember what she did that night...if she embarrased herself (she waaaasss drinking) If she truly was into you, she probably will call you...but it will be on her terms now. If you never hear from her....I believe you have your answer.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Thu 01/08/09 05:17 PM
She could be busy... she's not sitting at home waiting for you to call. If you call her, leave a message which you did. Now it's up to her. If she calls you back great, if not then move on. It does happen alot. Guys do it too. I've gotten numbers and when I called them they never called me back. I don't know why people do that but they do. If you keep calling her, I promise you'll freak her out and you will never again have a chance with her.

rlynne Joined Sun 11/23/08 Posts: 2458	Thu 01/08/09 05:17 PM
i did it went to voice mail and i left a message....But no call back.I know it was her number b/c i recognized the voice on her message box intro.Thing is i dont wanna give her a bad vibe by being too presistant,but at same understand people get busy and might forget after hrs pass to hit u up.. okay you're going to have more game if you wait a few days..not hours, not the next morning she did give you her number while intoxicated....I'd say three days average..then call...she'll be more likely to answer the phone cause she is not expecting a mistake to come back and say howdy..and you have more ground to ask for coffee..always go with the coffee for a first..its easy and casual Really? If someone waited three days to call me after I gave him my number, I might start to think he wasn't interested. If a guy waits 3 days to call after I give him my number, he's liable to lose his place in line!! thats the point if she was at all uneasy about remembering that she gave him her number the lack of action is going to better get her attention...and if she wants to forget him simply because he got her number while she was intoxicated...its better to catch her off guard..that way he still has a chance..despite her possible reserves

JoeW99 Joined Tue 12/30/08 Posts: 809	Thu 01/08/09 05:17 PM Edited by JoeW99 on Thu 01/08/09 05:20 PM
Some people don't know how to gracefully say no when asked for their number. We weren't there so we can't judge her motive. If you have left a voicemail I would wait for her to return your call. If she doesn't, she's not interested. This. Have given out my number and not responded later to people. Why? Why be rude to someones face? Let them have their moment, if i'm truely interest i'll pick up when they call or text back. As far as having no game usally 1 or 2 days later its a text. Reply or i don't bother wasting the time to call. No point stressing over who likes you and doesn't. You made the move, got the number, texted her.. balls in her court. If she doesn't play, move on. Not trying to be a D!CK, but better for you in the end. edit: sorry had to find another way to type D!ck

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Thu 01/08/09 05:18 PM
Some people don't know how to gracefully say no when asked for their number. We weren't there so we can't judge her motive. If you have left a voicemail I would wait for her to return your call. If she doesn't, she's not interested. exactly.