I had been with one woman for 8 years... I was happy for most of it... When I look back now, I can see that it was a mistake so there is no going back to it, but I feel in this weird state of limbo now. Had a couple of dates already... but kind of like not sure what I want to do with my life now? How long will this weird feeling last?

Not sure, but keep your chin up. Not everything has to make sense. Sometimes it's better that way.

About 30 days... You'll be fine...

I don't believe that any of us make mistakes. We only make choices whos to say weather it was a good choice or a bad choice because the reality of it is if we went back in time to choose differently that choice might have turned out worse or better but there is no way to go back and find out so the wierd feeling starts to ware off when you start choosing a new course of action. Peace.

Wow...the weird limbo state...been there, felt that...it's somewhere between disbelief and trying to put the pieces back together and move on right? I wish you a speedy recovery and I hope everything works out for you!

Bad choice = mistake. you just playing with words here...

No, sorry to give you that impression. I was Refering to tony Robbins get the edge in talking on relationships and other choices in life. I don't believe we make that many bad choices. Good choices or better ones because the choices only SEEM bad in hindsight. If they seemed bad upfront we would have chosen differently then. I would hope. Good luck

I understand where yr coming from, man. I moved to a strange city with my girlfriend only to be dumped 3 months later in a strange city without family or friends. It's taken me 2 years to get it back together and still it's kind of ****ed up.

I can feel where you are coming from too...9 year marriage now it's the "its not you it's me" and the "I love you but not in love with you" story now I feel this limbo that you are talking about...and I'm the kind that don't get any luck with any women.. well I guess the best we all can do is hang in there and try for the best

I was single after 15 1/2 years! It gets easier, I promise, to a certain extent. I still get lonely though. Good luck.

Was nine years for me & I found it does take a while to get your equilibrium back. Took me at least six months before I started feeling back to normal. Hopefully it won't take you as long. Hang in there

yea dude.. i am kinda go from "oh great, I am single and decent looking, I can do anything" to "I don't have anybody to share holidays with". its like my confidence in myself is based on people reaction to me.. I was never this way before. its a weird state that I want behind me.

give it time, keep busy and don't jump into anything serious until you're over the last one... It's been almost 2 yrs for me and I'm still not sure I can commit to a relationship...

it's been three years for me
and I think the limbo you speak of
goes away when you meet someone new
...sad as it sounds

This is definitely true.

For some it may be but for others it just masks the pain and then they hurt someone else b/c they weren't really ready for more.. been there done that...

I can't say I know how you feel because I don't. I've never been with anyone 8 months, let alone 8 years, so I have no idea. However, I've had to get over some pretty painful situations- one I'm still trying to completely get over- so in that respect, I understand. So all I can say is, hang in there and try to be glad you had something good that lasted 8 years, even though it's over. Not everyone gets that. To most people, 8 years isn't long, but to some, it is....They say time heals all wounds, I hope it heals yours quickly.

Best of luck to you.

Yeah, I don't recommend the using someone else to get over the ex. It doesn't work and someone gets hurt.

I didn't intend to say you should use someone to get over your ex
I just don't think that lost feeling goes away until you are involved in something meaningful again

Well.. I cannot see myself alone for the next year and then I don't want to break anybodies heart either... its just strange zone!