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Topic: acceptable to approach women at their job
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Tue 09/26/06 07:58 PM
i've talked to different people about this and everyone seems to have a
different opinion on the subject. i personally don't think that it is
acceptable to ask a woman out while she is working but alot of people
disagree. i have done it twice but that is because i didn't think i
would get another chance. if i could get some feedback from both the men
and the women it would be appreciated.

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Tue 09/26/06 09:21 PM
I think the work place is a great way to meet singles. However because
of the rules in the work place are it is impossible to do. So I don't
bother. I was recently accused of sexual harassment at a job I had that
I didn't do. So I quit.
I have always felt uneasy about asking women out, and now because of the
sexual harassment laws. I don't even try to look at women at work. It
sucks but that's life.

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Tue 09/26/06 09:28 PM
Ghost brings up a good point about the whole sexual harassment issue.
That in mind, I'd say approaching a woman you work with must be handled
extremely carefully...However, if you don't work with them by all means
approach them. But then again, I guess it would depend on where she was
working, you know? I mean, hitting on a cop in the middle of a bust or a
surgeon with her hands in someone's guts. -=x

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Tue 09/26/06 09:31 PM
i have a rule about not dating women at work but i was actually meaning
something like, you are out running errands or something and you come
across a woman who is working. you are not at your job but you are at
hers for some reason. would it be appropriate to ask her out or for her
phone # while she is working?

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Tue 09/26/06 09:33 PM
i have never minded when i get approached at my job but i have always
felt a little funny about approaching someone else while they are
working, i just don't want to interrupt.

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Tue 09/26/06 09:35 PM
LOL Metal.

Well, I had a chance to go for a siniorita who was student at a college
I was working at and the little notion of loosing my job was a great
cold shower. so it doesn't have to be a co-worker either.

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Tue 09/26/06 09:39 PM
I have actually done that. I approached a girl while she was working at
a retail kiosk. Unfortuneately she said she had a boy friend at the
time. Gee! don't they always. lol

I know a lot of times they say that just to get rid of ya. lol

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Tue 09/26/06 09:44 PM
yeah, the only two times i have done it i was rejected. the no's were
not the reason that i don't feel it is appropriate though.

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Tue 09/26/06 10:20 PM
Hi again. Lets see. Yes, its possible with extreme care. Lots of ifs. If
your paths cross frequently? Is she open to lite conversation see if she
might be free? See if she shows any interest. Or, suggest a department
or shift group outing? If only for fun with your co works. You'd be more
free to interact that way,and safer.

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Tue 09/26/06 10:24 PM
I ussually wait for them to ask me or show an interest in me. but still
I kinda get that peranoid feeling that my job will suffer if I indulge.

I ussually get fixed up by friends so at least thats safe.

Peachiepoohie's photo
Tue 09/26/06 10:49 PM
I prefer to live by this motto...

"Don't shit where you eat..."

Just my take on it...

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Tue 09/26/06 11:16 PM
Oh wise one! Please indow us with your wisdom of that comment.LOL

I am but a mere mortal of no importance.

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Tue 09/26/06 11:27 PM
If your not working together and she is at work, I don't see what the
problem would be to ask for her #. My son has even asked when a certain
young lady would be working so he could go in at that time just to ask
for her #.

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Tue 09/26/06 11:27 PM
i think it's more important to remember not to eat where you shit lol

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Tue 09/26/06 11:33 PM
lol...i agree with that one. Never heard it quite put in those words but
I know exactly what she means.

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Tue 09/26/06 11:39 PM
i've just had weird responses with actions like that, for some reason
they alway get freaked out like i'm gonna stalk em or something...

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Tue 09/26/06 11:47 PM
Well if that is the way she acts and don't want to give you her #, then
just say "Your loss" and move on.

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Tue 09/26/06 11:54 PM
i do but i don't particularly like them acting like that towards me. it
doesn't bother me that much but it gets irritating going up to a girl
and being polite and respectful and having them act like i'm some kinda
freak that is gonna try and abduct her or something, they need to get
over theirselves because their phone number ain't that important to me.

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Wed 09/27/06 12:00 AM
I am not sure how to respond to that one. I have never had anything I
needed to get over, I treat everyone the way I like to be treated.

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Wed 09/27/06 12:02 AM
i wasn't talking about you though

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