Not for a date; but before moving in together or marriage, yes. I'd also run a credit check and have in the past. Unfortunately, NOT the times I needed to.

You didn't read what I wrote correctly. I signed for the loan, in my name and my name only. She made payments - of which she had to be 'authorized' by me to make. This only helped my credit score and not hers.

I'll follow up with "it was her loan" because it was for her lasik, but technically it was my loan since it was in my name.

You can say THAT again!

Or, may-be they have a plan. Their plan is to suck on acredit tit for the rest of their life. Borrowed life, you know...

And there come you and god forbid you may not be very instrumental in helping them to achieve their goal.

It seems to me that some people would rather grow old alone and be surrounded with "stuff." Hey, if that's your thing it's all good, but stuff doesn't fill my soul. If a woman is willing to be my partner and is a decent, honest, and loving soul I couldn't care less if she does not have the proverbial pot to piss in

Damn, you hit the nail on the head for me.

I think you all need to read this book.

The prophet: Kahlil Gibran.

Anything for you

It's sad how most people have become. Material items don't bring happiness. Maybe before they die, they can see this.

*darn it, im stuck in OKC for awhile, my company is tearing down 3 apartment complexes,

Happy new year 2 u 2, cutie

What if her habits and practices drain YOU dry, though. What then?

As a single mom and in my chosen profession, I surely can't afford to support a partner, let alone be pulled down the drain by their bad credit and unpaid debt or taxes, etc.

Well, maybe there will be some time. I have some sort of faith.

Sure there are people like that, but you can't blame everyone.

Kitten you know I am not selfish & money loving, but I have been out on the street because I trusted someone & I have worked too hard & sacrificed too much to risk losing what little I have to a lying user.

When someone has to have live a lifestyle way beyond their income it's a red flag.

When you are "going out" it dosn't matter & you are right, it's none of my business, but when you start thinking about moving in you have to discuss money. I have learned the hard way & I am too old to start over again. I'd rather be single & secure than part of a homeless, hungry couple & the truth is, when it gets to that point most couples split up anyway.

If she had habits that drained me dry she wouldn't likely be classified as decent and honest, would she?

The fact remains some people have different value systems and place more importance on materialism and status. You are entitled to live as you see fit and order you priorities accordingly, but what you hold near and dear does not have to be the same as me.

No wonder I haven't been asked out lately

I see where you are coming from. But you don't HAVE to have finances together. It can all be seperate. In the end, we are dead and it doesn't matter anymore anyhow.

u u spoke the truth again what the he!! does ur credit got 2 do with it? some have none good bad but that dont mean ur a bad person,it might b from id theft,NASTY DIVORCE, we dont want 2 buy them just date them and well we wont go there kitten did u find ur surgar daddy yet happy new yr girl