if I gave it up, would she definately hurt me is all Im sayin.......

Most are, but not all. Again, do your research. Google is your friend.

Learn to think outside the box. Different people are motivated by different things and for different reasons.

As to your question - no, it just sounds codependent; like you may have those tendencies, yourself. Be gentle with yourself. Try self-help books, therapy, and/or join CODA or Alanon.

Wishing you & yours love & light in the New Year~

It is scary. He may have been reacting to severe PTSD symptoms. Or he may have been under the influence of some mood altering substance; or possibly even had bipolar disorder or schizophrenia. Sorry to hear about that.

Are you high, by any chance?

yes I have to say he is

Getting a restraining order has to be an individual decision after talking to detectives or other law authorities skilled in this area and after profiling the person. Only YOU can decide. ....It is just a piece of paper. Sometimes restraining orders make it worse. Women have died as a result. In the end, only you can protect yourself. Always be aware and watch your back.

I have a retired police officer friend whose daughter had no other choice but to move, change her name, etc., and go into hiding to protect herself from her stalker. He was dangerous.

A true stalker makes your life a living hell. I know when I had one it changed my whole outlook on life, changed everything about me. I am just now starting to feel normal again. Some will go to any length to obtain what they want even to the point of trying to destroy you professionally, personally. I know that now I am so damn secretive about my life that it is hard for people to get to know the real me.
I know that I begged mine one day to let me go and leave me alone. His answer not a chance in hell. I was the good in his life. Go figure...
When he realized that he could never have me. My life turned into a living hell for about 4 months. There is still some fall out I am still dealing with.
Not trying to rain on anyone's parade but once you go through this it isn't something most of us can joke about.

There are areas I am still putting back together in my life.

I hope I am not a stalker. Is leaving online messages being a stalker or is that the start of it? lol

Report him...
some 40 year old dude keeps trying to flirt with me...and i know i've rejected him politely.
ugh.

If it is then I guess were all just a bunch of damn stalkers

I was kinda called a stalker for that...(leaving online messages). like the girl above said...."ugh"!

I am a stalker

Ask them to marry you!

just a thought let them get close then act all weird to scare them off, imo stalkers have a fixation on their idea of you and once u shatter that image you shake off your stalker. One idea would be to ask if you can cut off a piece of their hair so you can eat it so they will always be a part of your or something like that. Just add your own little brand of crazy in there to make it interesting : )

I could be wrong, but....actually, if you are doing it across state boundaries and the person has told you to stop, I believe it could be a Federal Offense with possible heavy fines and jail time.

Please try to get a grip on yourself, for YOUR sake....

angel is a walking encyclopedia brittanica!.......hehe

......Chase luves angelin darkness......

Imma smart, that I am. Wise to the world, too, babe.


....even if I sometimes don't take my own advice or remember what I know when it comes to me.

You're welcome.