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Topic: ATTN: ALL Men!! (question for ya)
Berryboo's photo
Mon 12/29/08 03:10 PM

He knows I'm sorry and there is no hostility between us but his response is .."I don't know"...


Do you blame him? What do you EXPECT him to say? "Oh, sure! It's okay! Come on back!"

You dumped him. Why should he trust that you wouldn't do it to him again?

If he DID take you back, that makes him just as wishy-washy.



hmm.."wishy-washy". I would hope I didn't come off to him as "wishy-washy" but you make a valid point.
It been over 2 months since the breakup...discussing this makes me wonder...don't know what 2mths is in "man-time"...but uh...

Mr_Music's photo
Mon 12/29/08 03:11 PM
It's not so much about the time as it is about the circumstances. You stepped on the guy's heart, not his big toe.

Berryboo's photo
Mon 12/29/08 03:11 PM


it's best to move on hun......
there will never be trust there again ! flowerforyou


seriously. its a downward spiral from there.


hmmm...

kingkai's photo
Mon 12/29/08 03:13 PM
depends on why you dumped him and what you did after you dumped him

no photo
Mon 12/29/08 03:17 PM
Chances are if he is forward looking, he moved on. It's too late to apologize...like the song?

no photo
Mon 12/29/08 03:17 PM
Here is another thing to take into consideration:

If, after dumping him...you dated/went out with another guy sometime in the last couple of months, that he may know about. If so, I know it would make me stick to my answer of "no", even stronger. Most men don't like competition, especially when it come to "matters of the heart". JMOwhat

Berryboo's photo
Mon 12/29/08 03:55 PM

Chances are if he is forward looking, he moved on. It's too late to apologize...like the song?



He is that "forward looking" type. But hey, its healthy...right...

Berryboo's photo
Mon 12/29/08 03:57 PM
I'm just going to try put this guy out of my head. I mean thinking about it and allowing myself to be bothered by it is not helping me.

Thanks guys for the help and being so awesome!
:smile:

Berryboo's photo
Mon 12/29/08 04:10 PM


Ok, so I ended it for a selfish reason...(ofcourse isn't that always the case). It wasn't a trust issue...just early relationships jitters. It was childish but we've been a couple for about 4-5 months..He's the 1st guy I took seriously after my last relationship of almost 5yrs ended.

give it some time boo if it is meant to be it will work out.. dont force the issue


Thank you:smile:

SitkaRains's photo
Mon 12/29/08 05:01 PM

Dumped a Guy...but what if I want him back?? ohwell ohwell


Honesty is the best policy. I think before you decide if you really want him back really decide why you dumped in the first place. Also really dig deep on why you behaved the way you did in the first place. Ask yourself will you do it again. I am sure he will be asking those types of questions and more. I also think if I was the guy it would take a lot to trust you again. I also would be your friend before I would ever let you have a peice of my heart again. good luck

Berryboo's photo
Mon 12/29/08 05:26 PM


Dumped a Guy...but what if I want him back?? ohwell ohwell


Honesty is the best policy. I think before you decide if you really want him back really decide why you dumped in the first place. Also really dig deep on why you behaved the way you did in the first place. Ask yourself will you do it again. I am sure he will be asking those types of questions and more. I also think if I was the guy it would take a lot to trust you again. I also would be your friend before I would ever let you have a peice of my heart again. good luck


The questions that you presented I have dealt with in my mind already. The thing is if he wants the relationship 2nd go 'round I trust he will initiate it again. He knows where I stand. And really if he can't communicate to me his feelings...then maybe I need to rethink if I want him back again.
Thanks again.

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