I'm new to this site but I'm not new to dating sites. I was on one before this one a couple months ago and what happened was exactly what kept happening months before that with guys here in Cincinnati... I got hurt. I luckily met a guy on another site who was sooo amazing and I know that I'm only 18 but having someone to be there for me and allow me to feel useful and wanted is a big part of my life. So after our first three AMAZING dates he just up and disappeared and I was devastated... not heartbroken because I wasn't in love or anything.

So now I'm giving it another shot and I know sites like this help screen the guys before hand but on each site I just can't seem to judge right and/or find the type of guys I'm looking for. I keep getting guys who just don't click with me and make me feel like I'm talking to a brick wall the entire time.

Any pointers?

This site doesn't screen anyone. And there are flakes and such on ANY website, paid or free!!

I have been misled and betrayed as well.

By screening I was referring to getting to know a little bit about guys before you actually had to interact with them unlike the guys who hit on you when you're out.

I wasn't trying have a pity party thrown I was just seeing if anyone had words of wisdom =/

<---- stay away from that dude; if you see him in person call the fbi immediately

Well, since you have been on dating sites before you know to be very careful about what you tell people and meeting new people. So, my only other advice is to post a lot in the forums, relax and have a good time.

haha... will do... and thanks :)

Yup. Just hang out and have a good time in the forums.

One of the best ways for you to be able to tell, without meeting the person, if you are going to click with someone is to see what they have to say in their posts.

That way, you'll know if you agree or disagree on some things, or if their posting style just grates on you.

Don't let past relationships get in the way of present relationships, be patient, and just try to enjoy the moment.

I think talking to a guy when going out is BETTER screening than internet dating. Looks and hobbies can be faked easily on the internet, but less so person-to-person. You may be in no better position meeting a internet date than a random stranger in a bar except for spending more time upfront in potentially meaningless facts about that person.

If they disappear after 3 times that is a good thing. Do you REALLY want to know if they can't wait any more for intimacy or if there is something about you making them disappear? Women do that all the time calling that "I do not want to hurt his feelings".

It is not always players that giving up on woman. I was serious about some women and also decided that it is not going anywhere - after only 8 emails both ways: she was basically married to her favorite music band and anyone not being a fan also does not love her enough - just the impression I got.

I would guess that guys would bed 50 out of 100 woman and only marry 1 out of 100, i.e. chances are 50:1 against you or you need to date at least 50 of them to even find 1 serious one.

It happens to everyone, being misled that is. People don't like to get to close to someone that comes off complicated and aware of what they want in a relationship. Because it conflicts with what they were trying to get into when they were getting to know you. At least that's the feeling I get when someone just ups and disappears. The only thing I can say is just take the vibe that you get off these guys and just remember when a situation like that happens again (hopefully it wont) and be able to read that person and know what to do the next time it happens. Me personally I just want to meet someone I like, likes me back, and knows how to be patience with things that go on at the beginning of a relationship.

just be yourself, and let it happen, i mean i haven't had the greatest success with dating sites, but i still have not given up hope

Also - maybe your profile picture attracts the wrong crowd?

If people mistake your kissing mouth roughly for "free blowj*bs" you will get plenty of responses from people that will try no longer than 3 times to see results. If you leave a blood trail do not be surprised about sharks.

If your profile picture would instead scream "marry me" the few people responding will probably be stalkers and crazy people.

A woman in a pretty dress with some lip gloss leaves a more positive impression with me than just skin and cleavage, but I may not be representative.

Just ideas.