Yea...but if you were in my shoes, would you out someone you knew to be a fraud? Even if it caused others embarrassement?

Oh, really?

Is the embarassment less than the harm of the fraud?

Well Rock...like I told you in private email, my friends & their welfare are very important to me.

If I had an acquaintanceship or friendship with the one(s) who stood in harm's way, I would tell them privately. As long as I had hard proof and nothing to gain by it. However, I can't decide for you. You need to make up your own mind and weigh the potential consequences either way. I just know that if it was me, I would want to know, even if it hurt. For me, it is far worse to be duped, have all know about it, and either laugh at me or pity me behind my back. It svcks being the last to know.

Yes, I agree Angel...that's why I like the Forums...it's good to be able to bounce ideas around on the board...

It's not always possible. The one I met on another site who turned out to be an arsonist -- well, that site didn't have forums. I didn't know anyone else on the site at the time. And the site owners simply weren't interested in knowing stuff like that. Their attitude was "use at your own risk" -- which I can totally understand, from a "legal liability" standpoint.

That's sad. How come all the forums here aren't easily researchable? Seems like one of the most important ones for researching character for reasons of personal safety isn't. Even if its for privacy reasons, regular forumites need the ability to do their own legwork in getting to know potential dates and partners that might have posted very relevant info on previous "hard to find" threads. It would have saved some a helluva lot of pain and suffering. Then again, I agree that there are probably good reasons why they can't make it more accessable.

Fraud on a site like this is probably much more common than we imagine. Many of us have charades going on, are entertained by them and possibly are entertaining others. If it isn't hurtful, and is just playful, why . . . ?

That's a good question, Alone... I too, often wonder if their lives are so desparate & void that they have to create a whole new persona...even down to what they do for a living, where they live, etc... I mean, obviously they have no intention of meeting anyone...so why the charade?

Maybe they have no other outlet due to childcare responsibilities; or perhaps they feel trapped in an unfulfilling marriage; maybe they are sex addicts/compulsive cyber/phone/predator freaks who never intend to meet anyone; perhaps they love to get over on a person and/or cheat on their partners; maybe they are physically disabled or physically unable to have sex or too butt ugly to attract most; maybe they are not the age or persuasion or gender they say and want what they know they otherwise couldn't have; perhaps they are penniless due to gambling or over spending or drugs/alcohol and can't afford a car, car insurance, or to spend under ten dollars on a first date. The reasons are as varied as the individuals. Proceed with caution, but have fun.

I just want to confess right now that I'm actually only 4' 9", balder than a cue ball, wiegh 400+ lbs, on public assistance and live in my mom's sewing room.

...& get off on being used as a pin cushion...*snicker*

Love it!!!

busted!!!

Some of you may or may not remember about a year ago I tried to warn others in the way of a poem in the poem forum. After talking with several others on the site...(JSH at the time)...I found out this 'player' had played over a dozen other unsuspecting females like myself. Although I never once gave up his identification in the poem...after about 200 peeps read it, he confessed publicly that the poem was about him.

I didn't get a heads-up about this loser until after the fact. Some times people just have to find out on their own I guess, like I did. But blowing the whistle on this particular 'LOSER' made alot of peeps aware, and let him know his gig was up...on this site anyway. I was very surprised how many privately contacted me afterwards and thanked me or shared how he had played them. One can be given the information...then he or she can choose what to do with that information.

What gets me here is why someone would lie on a dating site about who they are, and what their living and life conditions are. That just doesn't make any sense to me. Whats to be gained if your actually going to meet someone, their going find out the truth eventually...

Im disabled/retired, rent the master bedroom and bath from my ex GF/best friend, drive an ol flatbed Chevy, and ride a homebuilt VW trike, and live on about $1000.00 a month, paying $300.00 for rent. If that is a turnoff for a lady, then she can go look elsewhere, big deal.

If a person feels they have to lie about their life to make friends or impress others, then they should seeking therapy, not more friends.

More people should have the heart of a lion like you, Free. *Oh gawd...somebody stop me! The theme to Born Free is playing in my head!* Just trying to make you smile...I saw what just happened to you in another thread...

For some, it is the only way they know. Others might say its the nature of the human condition.