I dont know where this topic goes so I am putting it here. So, I am clicking on the mutual match thing you guys got going here. Here's what I dont get. Many of the guys have pictures of cars or cartoons and not much else in the way of pictures. These same guys have nothing written down in their profile blogs.

Now how am I suppose to know if I am a mutual match if there is nothing to see or read? Am I suppose to mutual match myself with just a picture of a car or a cartoon?

Q2? Whats the difference between clicking a yes and a maybe on the mutual match? If I click maybe who then decides if the guy and I match?

Q1: Click No because ... it's common sense not to say yes to a cartoon or car.



Q2: Yes and Maybe are the same perdy much

I'm only taking a guess here but if you said maybe then it gives that other person a chance to see rather or not they want to click the same or not.

Bingo!

I think a maybe equals yes on here. If I click a maybe I see their profile again. If I click on no - I don't. Hmmmm. I am still trying to work it all out. What I don't get is I want local people and I see profiles for people who live in other states and other countries!

Mutual Match is like two blind people drawing straws at best.

Hanging out in the forums works much better

The thing is with the pictures (in my case) I have other pictures on my profile. I just post the car because I only have 2 updated pictures of me, and I perfer the way the car looks. It looks much better that I do. And it isn hopes that you will read the profile a little and judge on the type of person I am, (At least what we can put down in a small column) instead of what I look like because thats a little superfical.

I also can't spell. Sorry.

However, that goes along with the reasioning for the little or no profile. alot of guys are shy, or they are embarrased because they don't spell every little thing right or use proper english, which seems to be going out of style anyways.

But most of all, How are you sopposed to sum up who you are in such a little space? Generally we just don't know what to say without coming off like we are arrogant, bragging or just flat out lying.

Just my little thoughts on it.

But I'm just an idiot with a picture of my last Mustang posted.....So what do I know?

Superficial? Hardly. Looks are one of the most important things in attraction. Face it, if you've never talked to a person before, the first thing you see is their physical appearance. There isn't a person in the world that would blindly be interested in another without that first initial outward physical attraction, whatever that may be (and it's all subjective and arbitrary, at best).

"I want people to like me for ME, not what I look like."

Spare me.

If a guy has a few pics with him not in them and has no description, he's probably just hanging around checking things out. You should disregard those. I think he knows that he's not really putting himself out there.

To the car guy right above me (no no, now he is 3 above me). If guys have no pictures or 1 or 2 pictures and if the guys are too shy to write anything in that little blog space then how do the guys expect to get the gals attention?
I think I am just going to ignore that mutual match and use the regular search feature.

Right there is a perfect example of shallow.

Regardless of the fact that I'm repeating myself yet again (because, apparently, the words have gone unheeded many times before), I shall offer this advice:

Don't come onto this site with the mindset of looking for a potential relationship. Make friends first. Without being friends with someone first, a relationship will mean absolutely d!ck.

Thats on them. I can't answer how everyone else thinks.

And by the way you can see their entire profile on the mutual match feature but going to the bottom of the page and clicking the link for "View entire profile".

If that makes me shallow, then shallow I shall be. At least I'm honest about it and don't try to bullsh!t my way through it.

That I can agree with.

At least your true to yourself. Better than most.

One MUST be true and honest to themselves, or else they will never be able to be true and honest to anyone else.

Very true.

no picture and no info sometimes means a BOT

Talking on the forums is fine but it doesn't help you meet someone you can actually date in your area like making the effort to talk to someone in your mutual match. The sad part about the mutual match thing the people rarely want to make the effort to do anything to get to know you at all before they meet you. I think many of the people on mutual match rarely read the forums. I don't know but it seems that way because they rarely reference the forums in conversations. LOL your are lucky if the even read your profile.