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Edited by
andrew101888
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Thu 12/25/08 06:27 PM
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I have to wait til mid january to see the girl I'm interested in again (we have met just clarifying). I've been busy between the end of school and working, so I haven't talked to her much. We had a brief "text" conversation monday and before that our last contact was last wednesday where I just asked how she was, and that was really it. So my inquiry here is would it be stupid to just kind of cut off contact until we get to the time where I could see her again? I am in no means trying to end our friendship its just she never goes on the computer and I rarely sign on (maybe 2-3 times a week) and when shes on sometimes I'll say hi. So aside from maybe a hey here and there would it be fine to just keep things cool until I can actually see her in person again?
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I see I'd take that as you are not really willing to spend time getting to know her unless it's in person
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Edited by
willy_cents
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Thu 12/25/08 06:30 PM
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If you are interested in her, for crying out loud keep the communication going. She is likely to figure you "dumped" her if you just vanish for a few weeks. Ladies need some reassurance that you still are interested or they will likely go off to other interests. Guys too, I suspect
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I have to wait til mid january to see the girl I'm interested in again (we have met just clarifying). I've been busy between the end of school and working, so I haven't talked to her much. We had a brief "text" conversation monday and before that our last contact was last wednesday where I just asked how she was, and that was really it. So my inquiry here is would it be stupid to just kind of cut off contact until we get to the time where I could see her again? I am in no means trying to end our friendship its just she never goes on the computer and I rarely sign on (maybe 2-3 times a week) and when shes on sometimes I'll say hi. So aside from maybe a hey here and there would it be fine to just keep things cool until I can actually see her in person again? From what you describe here it sounds as if she isnt really putting in the time to get to know you either. Are you sure this is going anywhere? |
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We know each other pretty well, we've been friends about 2 months now. I'm still gonna talk to her once in a while just not everyday like I used to. We just both need time to see whats gonna happen between us and the reason we can't hang out is shes home for winter break and we hang out at her college.
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Two months is not very long at all to know someone. Right now you two should be trying to communicate as much as possible. It would normally be a fun and exciting process in a burgeoning relationship. It sounds like she is not interested and that you are trying to convince yourself that you are not interested because she isnt. Im just telling you how it appears on the surface at least. Maybe there is more to it.
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Two months is not very long at all to know someone. Right now you two should be trying to communicate as much as possible. It would normally be a fun and exciting process in a burgeoning relationship. It sounds like she is not interested and that you are trying to convince yourself that you are not interested because she isnt. Im just telling you how it appears on the surface at least. Maybe there is more to it. 
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I have to wait til mid january to see the girl I'm interested in again (we have met just clarifying). I've been busy between the end of school and working, so I haven't talked to her much. We had a brief "text" conversation monday and before that our last contact was last wednesday where I just asked how she was, and that was really it. So my inquiry here is would it be stupid to just kind of cut off contact until we get to the time where I could see her again? I am in no means trying to end our friendship its just she never goes on the computer and I rarely sign on (maybe 2-3 times a week) and when shes on sometimes I'll say hi. So aside from maybe a hey here and there would it be fine to just keep things cool until I can actually see her in person again? If the two of you really like eachother, then communication is the key, there is always time for contact, when you have a moment and are sitting down, send a message text or whatever, you would be surprised at how much time you have inbetween your busy schedual.. people who care for one another find time or make time to keep in touch, if you let to much time go by you could lose what the two of you started..jmo |
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If you are interested, pursue her. If you're not, let it go. I know if I didn't hear from a guy regularly, I'd walk away. Assume he wasn't all that into me and was just stringing me along to keep his options open.
Don't treat this girl like a second class citizen. |
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If you are interested, pursue her. If you're not, let it go. I know if I didn't hear from a guy regularly, I'd walk away. Assume he wasn't all that into me and was just stringing me along to keep his options open. Don't treat this girl like a second class citizen. I agree |
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Its always been my personal experience (not saying it should be anyone elses) that the first part of a relationship is the most exciting and its also the period of time that you WANT to communicate as much as possible. This would only intensify if there was distance between you. There appears to be no chemistry here. No spark either.
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Its always been my personal experience (not saying it should be anyone elses) that the first part of a relationship is the most exciting and its also the period of time that you WANT to communicate as much as possible. This would only intensify if there was distance between you. There appears to be no chemistry here. No spark either. I kinda sense that too, I know if I am interested in someone I try to keep in contact as much as possible.. |
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