I should clarify...he was unhappy with his performance. I had no problem.

I agree with Ruth's statement "Good sex is very subjective. If I was in a relationship with a man I loved and who I knew loved me there wouldn't be much I wouldn't do to meet his every sexual desire and need."

And for 'duck, thank you for the sorry. We need to follow our own path and be true to it and not hurt others along the way.

I myself am from the "old school" and I think that sex should only take place after the two have meet repeatedly, are seeing no one else, and they both share the same feelings toward's one another---and if it takes three months or three years, it really doesnt matter---as long as neither one goes "out-side the box" to get a fix....as far as starting off getting all bent outta shape with someone of the opposite gender---well, what do we expect...were all human and horney...myself included

I'm not sure what you meant here.

hey Squeeze, I got three years and your number and I'll patiently wait !...lol

opposite sex { gender }

Exactly. We are all looking for someone, something. And I wonder if we even know what it is we want. We use terms (myself included) like "caring" "loving" "good sense of humor". But what does that mean? What is loving to one person may annoy the crap out of someone else.

So while some may see this thread I started as a "complaining about men" thread, that was not my intention. I recently had my first brief relationship after my divorce a year ago. It didn't work out but I learned a lot and I think its really important to know what we're looking for, what's important and what's not. I'm just trying to do that for myself.

this is what i think, people shouldnt have to get married and have kids just to be happy. i think you all you need is just a gf and have sex with her and be just as happy. sex is somethin thats enjoyable, and you dont need to get married just to do it.

Thank you but I never said anything about getting married.