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Topic: serious opinions requested....
SKPCG Joined Mon 03/03/08 Posts: 14708	Sat 12/20/08 09:06 AM
I think YOU are a swell guy for thinking about this situation. You must really care for her.

LadyMartha Joined Thu 10/30/08 Posts: 626	Sat 12/20/08 09:12 AM
a little flirting don't hurt

A64WOODY Joined Tue 03/04/08 Posts: 6830	Sat 12/20/08 09:14 AM
Flirting is a powerful thing. It can be the fuel to your realationship, or it can be the water on your fire. Since you are agreed to meet as friends, I would definately make it a topic of conversation with her. Her opinion is very important on this issue. If you were to decide to move forward with this relationship, flirting with others will be a matter of concern, good or bad. Communication is critical to all realtionships. To not have it would be like placing a houseplant in the desert without water and expecting it to survive.

lovemeifyoucan26 Joined Wed 08/13/08 Posts: 2830	Sat 12/20/08 09:15 AM
I think YOU are a swell guy for thinking about this situation. You must really care for her. At this point, care is just given as a golden rule....treat people the way you want to be treated... I was thinking of general respect at this point. We live 20 miles apart, so instead of talking forever on here before meeting, we decided to just meet in person....

lovemeifyoucan26 Joined Wed 08/13/08 Posts: 2830	Sat 12/20/08 09:17 AM
Flirting is a powerful thing. It can be the fuel to your realationship, or it can be the water on your fire. Since you are agreed to meet as friends, I would definately make it a topic of conversation with her. Her opinion is very important on this issue. If you were to decide to move forward with this relationship, flirting with others will be a matter of concern, good or bad. Communication is critical to all realtionships. To not have it would be like placing a houseplant in the desert without water and expecting it to survive. good analogy

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Sat 12/20/08 09:18 AM
I think YOU are a swell guy for thinking about this situation. You must really care for her. At this point, care is just given as a golden rule....treat people the way you want to be treated... I was thinking of general respect at this point. We live 20 miles apart, so instead of talking forever on here before meeting, we decided to just meet in person.... well, you obviously respect her a lot just by asking the question. so go with that, take it a step further, comunicate it with her, flirt only with her for now, meet, see what happens.......and Good luck to ya.

lovemeifyoucan26 Joined Wed 08/13/08 Posts: 2830	Sat 12/20/08 09:20 AM
I think YOU are a swell guy for thinking about this situation. You must really care for her. At this point, care is just given as a golden rule....treat people the way you want to be treated... I was thinking of general respect at this point. We live 20 miles apart, so instead of talking forever on here before meeting, we decided to just meet in person.... well, you obviously respect her a lot just by asking the question. so go with that, take it a step further, comunicate it with her, flirt only with her for now, meet, see what happens.......and Good luck to ya. Well....GET 'ER DONE!!

lovemeifyoucan26 Joined Wed 08/13/08 Posts: 2830	Sat 12/20/08 09:23 AM
thanks for the opinions....now it is time to get ready for the family reunion....christmas time..LOL

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 12/20/08 12:18 PM
It simple. Look at it this way. Would you, in anyway, be upset if this person continued to flirt with others? At this point, no....because there is nothing serious... then you just answered your own question my dear... Sometimes you just want to see what others think, to see if they think the same thing or not.... GET 'ER DONE!!! This is really a case of you having to decide what you want to do, though. Seems like you've already answered it for yourself.

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Sat 12/20/08 12:22 PM
I "flirted" in a manner; even when I was married. EVERYONE knew I was married. I would never say anything behind Gwen's back, that I wouldn't say in front of her. "You have to be you."

OneMoreTimeAround Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 3649	Sat 12/20/08 12:24 PM
lets say I started talking to some one on here....and this person and I decided to meet in person, as friends, with nothing serious comitted as of yet....being that we want to meet, but are not in a relationship as of yet, should I stop the general "flirting" with just anyone on here? I am asking this, because on one side, I am thinking,it is ok to flirt since we are not in a relationship, but on the other hand, I am thinking it is wrong to continue to flirt with other people, since we decided to go beyond the computer and meet face to face. I guess you could call it an internal conflict between what is concidered right and wrong.... JMO..first communication, even if it's friends or in the beginning of the relationship moving forward....communicate, communicate, communicate!! Talk to HER about this. Find out what the both of you feel and forget what anyone else feels. Again, JMO.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76433	Sat 12/20/08 01:19 PM
It simple. Look at it this way. Would you, in anyway, be upset if this person continued to flirt with others? This is true out of pure respect for the one your talking to what would it hurt to not flirt in the open with others until the meet. I assure you it will leave a lasting impression upon the one your talking to. I say out of pure respect to hold back on the flirting with others at least till the meet has happened. Only good could come out of it.

potteryman Joined Tue 10/14/08 Posts: 7	Sat 12/20/08 01:28 PM
there is no relationship until you are committed. You keep right on flirting and so should she. You'll know when to stop

Riding_Dubz Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 22110	Sat 12/20/08 01:33 PM
you gonna bring the ring to the first date

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Sat 12/20/08 01:36 PM
Flirting is to feed YOUR ego... so all you need to do is ask ...is your ego hungry, right now? As to flirting with another whilst cCONSIDERING developing a friendship.... Jeeeeezuz.... are we in kindergarten? If being silly online constitutes harm.... everyone OFFLINE now!!!!! All fragile nebulous egos OUT OF THE POOL NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!

lovemeifyoucan26 Joined Wed 08/13/08 Posts: 2830	Sat 12/20/08 07:22 PM
It simple. Look at it this way. Would you, in anyway, be upset if this person continued to flirt with others? This is true out of pure respect for the one your talking to what would it hurt to not flirt in the open with others until the meet. I assure you it will leave a lasting impression upon the one your talking to. I say out of pure respect to hold back on the flirting with others at least till the meet has happened. Only good could come out of it. This is the best opinion I see....though, granted, at this point, it is nothing more then a "friend date", just the fact of meeting in person, to me, means there is a very good potential for more to come of it....should this be the case, it would not be a respectful move to flirt with someone else....after all, it could easily be construed as me being the type of person who is not looking for the relationship that is settled down....between just 2 people...

lovemeifyoucan26 Joined Wed 08/13/08 Posts: 2830	Sat 12/20/08 07:25 PM
you gonna bring the ring to the first date I think it is more about the image that is cast by me flirting with others while getting ready to meet one in person.... I think it gives the light of one who is a "player", and being that I am not one, it just seems wrong for me to continue to do as I have been.... It is not about a ring....quite awhile before that..

unsure Joined Wed 08/16/06 Posts: 4886	Sat 12/20/08 07:28 PM
It simple. Look at it this way. Would you, in anyway, be upset if this person continued to flirt with others? Nicely said!!!