Hey everyone this is my first post here.

For about two years now I've been looking for some dating and hopefully an actual relationship...but nothing has really worked out. Some of it is circumstance, some was timing, and I definitely screwed up more than my fair share.

So I took a little time off from the dating scene, everything seems to be fine... except now one of my friends is dating this new girl. I don't mind it I'm genuinely happy for him, but to be quite honest he's not the most well kept or fit.

Now I'm not saying I'm a casanova or a brad pitt. I'm on the heavier side but I do what I can to lose and not gain any more weight. I feel what I lack in the visual department I possess leaps and bounds more in personality and wit.

But if I don't have much or anything to look at do I even stand a chance to find a relationship? Even with a decent personality?

I dunno lil brother...

But I'll be watching this post closely, in case someone gives you the perfect answer.

If you have to ask, the answer is no...its all in the attitude...believe it will happen and it will

You actually answered it. Your friend who isn't the most well kept or fit found someone. That means he had something to offer.

Although it almost sounds like you think it unfair that he found someone and you haven't. That you are better because you might be in a little better shape than him.

There are a lot of factors that go into things. But it is hard to bring in anything (or anyone) new to your life until you can be happy and satisfied in it without anyone.

If you really have personality and wit then you need to be where your traits can be seen and experienced......unless you intend on doing a lot of forum posting then a dating site might not be your best venue. Dating sites are very visual oriented....sure we have profiles but it's hard to show your true personality in a short profile.

I don't even see a lot of woman your age on this forum...so.....You really might be better off not being on a dating site.
You need real life interaction with women so your strong points can shine through.

......dating is not easy for most people regardless of their looks. I just ended a two year engagement when I caught my fiancee cheating on me. Instead of getting married.....I'm here....

Good luck with whatever path you choose...I wish you the best.

There are some people out there that base their dating preferences strictly on looks


But not everyone, but I have to agree with some of the above statements

You need to be comfortable with yourself and who you are and that confidence and acceptance actually attracts women.

Personality vs looks, really depends on each of us and what prefer

Hang in there, figure yourself out and you will find someone not just for the sake of not being alone or to complete you

But will compliment who you are as a person

I'd consider removing or changing this. 75-80 percent of all girls think they are overweight even if we think they are gorgeous.

I'd also get a camera and add some more photos.

Be yourself.

Know what you want and look for those qualities.

Be confident. Girls like a guy who is confident in his life -- not pushy or bossy or ordering them around but someone who knows what he wants in his life and a relationship and takes measures to reach those goals.

Don't focus on your size so much. I'm a plus size guy and my relationships have been with ladies that are skinny to chubby.

fold

cut your losses and wait for another deal

if you don't like yourself, looks, personality or whatever, change it

if you want women to want you, you have to be someone that women would want