Please excuse my ignorance on this matter.....first time on a dating site. I've replied to every message I've received .... excluding the ones received in the last hour. None of the men were what I was seeking so all my replies have been brief no thank you replies. I'm getting many replies to my no thank you messages and a surprising amount are nasty.

Actual examples.... snipped for brevity.... misspellings corrected :
.....How do you know you wouldn't like me ...you don't even know me...I hate shallow women like you...

....You're probably not even a real girl....just some wanker....

....Stuck up *****.....who made you queen...

....Why are you here then if you don't want to chat...

Those were the nasty ones.....a few more were just sarcastic insults.

Is this normal for dating sites? These replies are making me rethink my policy of responding to all message....I'm starting to think it's better to just ignore the messages that I'm not interested in.

No not the routine. You won't get one like that from me. Don't bother with the rude ones, not even to reply. And you can block them too, so they won't bother you again.

Those are just a bunch of jerks. Can't take a little rejection..

they have no maners

how rude of them. your a lady and need to be treated like one

This is why a lot of use women stopped replying.

Sorry about that. Block them and if they get offencive, report them.

You're a beautiful women and they're just ignorant. Plenty of nice people out there, be patient.

I had a guy making threats to me in emails last night until I blocked him.

what he said.!!!

There are always going to be people who think it's ok or cool to be rude. Just do your best to ignore them. There are lots of other great people here.

I may stop soon too because these type replies are real downers. One or two is no big deal but who wants to be treated to nasty degrading messages whenever they open their mail?

I'm also getting guys getting nasty and saying they didn't want to date me anyway....they were just writing to say hi. It's a dating site....so if a man writes me....and the man doesn't bring up a forum topic....then I'm assuming it's because he wants to date me. Why the hell would 50 year old men write 29 year old women to just be friends? Perhaps I'm not rude enough to be on a dating website. Maybe I'll just start replying with smilies

You'll go through those kinds of shenanigans when dealing with all dating sites, not just this one. You'll often have to wade through the virtual pond scum with little in the way of manners or tact. While they aren't the norm, they are vocal, and that fact alone can and will make trying to do the online dating thing a much less-appealing prospect.

About the only thing you CAN do when dealing with such twits is to simply report them to the management so that they can get their hydes thrown out. After all- if they're being as mean as they were with you, chances are that they're doing it to someone else, too.

If someone disrespects me online I just put on my lil happy cap and imagine them as some poor soul who has no real friends, probably doesn't have teeth, most likely hates what they see in the mirror, and has chronic b.o., then I'm feeling all warm and fuzzy inside again.

It's the internet; if you rejected anyone of those fellows face to face they wouldn't know what to say.

I'll let you know if I ever join a dating site again. Haven't been on one in years.

They guy I blocked last night said for me to "wait to see what he does next".

I am surprised that you would reply with a nice "no thank you" I don't even get that.

What was it about all these guys that you figured out you didn't like so quickly ? Dennis

So you just assume that any dude that emails you, if they don't speak of something specific in the forums, wants to date you??

Believe it or not, some guys around here are just friendly. They happen to like making new friends or trying to make someone new feel welcome.

But oh wait " I'm beautiful, so ANYONE that tries to say hello wants to date me ".

Sweetie, you seriously need to get over yourself.

Hell. I have written lots of emails to women just to say hello to them. Wasn't necessarily interested in dating them. I was just being friendly.