Haha..............for real you have hijacked mingle and your doing your dissertation huh...........

I've dated several who have been, and most of the rest should be there by now....

Doesn't the song by Buck Cherry describe dating a mental woman?..I think the title of the song is Crazy B***h

Oh heck. that was going to be my amswer

Depends on what they were admitted into a mental hospital for but then again by the time you learn something this personal you're probably already dating. I wouldn't break up with someone because of it.

It depends what they were there for, how long ago, for how long, how many times, and whether or not they have had their symptoms under control for a good while.

Also depends on if they are able to successfully hold a full time job (or are successfully finishing/have finished school), obey the rules and mores of society, have friends and family that they interact with face to face on a regular, steady basis, and have interests and/or activities that they participate in regularly, but in moderation.

I won't date anyone who has been in a psychiatric hospital if they have a couple specific types of substance dependence; even if they are in recovery for over a year or more. It is just bad odds and I have to think of my future and my family's.

These are all things I know and believe in. They are also all personal promises that I have broken to myself in every relationship I have had. No more.

At what point in dating do you feel a person has a moral obligation to tell a potential partner/life partner, what-have-you, this information (the FULL story)? First, second, third date? Later in the relationship? I believe the sooner the better, in the first or second date and/or certainly before ANY kind of sexual relating takes place.

For that matter, how soon do you think a person should disclose that they have been arrested (and what for) and done jail time (including how many times, when, and for how long)?

Again, my answer stands the same. However, in most of these cases, you will probably never get the full truth, if any. It has to do with character.

While having certain types of character defects might, being mentally ill doesn't necessarily make you a burden or a menace to society. It depends on the factors I mentioned in my above post.

Ok You started so here we go.

I was 15 years old, the very first girl I kissed broke up with me, I had a premonition that my step uncle who raped me for 8 years was going to or had already started raping his 1 year old child, and I threatened suicide. They admitted me for 30 days, and put me back in about a month later for another 7 days. They put me on meds which I don't take, and that was a decade ago. 4 months after being admitted my step uncle was arrested for raping his 1 year old son, he spent the next 6 years in a prison where he stayed until he was released in the summer of 2004.

Now do you honestly think that I need to tell that to a girl before she dates me? No.. Not at all.

Oh as for me being mentally ill, nope I'm not mentally ill. I served in the United States Navy, I graduated highschool, I went to college, and I just had a job disappear from Southwest Airlines. I think I've held up my end of the bargain quite well but I still can't change my past. I think if I was to release all of that information on to someone that I wanted to move further with, it would back them up into a corner and be like oh **** goodbye. I don't think I'd risk losing someone whom I'm getting to know and possibly moving forward into a very long future with them because I decided to tell them I went to a mental institution back when I was a teenager.

The past doesn't haunt me, I've moved on and I don't feel the need to tell a future girl of mine at the beginning of meeting my life story.

You didn't read my first post closely enough. Go back and read again. And, REALLY GROK it this time. You will see there is a difference.

You had no control over the things that happened to you, you were traumatized, yet you SURVIVED. You have been able to lead a successful life since, despite the everyday ups and downs that affect us all. There IS a difference.

It would depend on what they were in the hospital for, what kind of mental illness it was and if they were med compliant.

I was in the fifth grade school band. We played in the Psych. Hospital for Christmas.....


It was a freak show with people eating Styrofoam cups. One Lady kept flashing her "ancient" boobs at us and this one dude in a wheel chair kept giving us a standing ovation.....but....he could stand.....kept falling on the floor.....It was a life changing experience. ......

So..... I have been "in" one...but not committed to one....

I didn't feel the need to read your first reply because it wasn't directed towards my response. My response got you to wonder how long should it be before something like that is released and you're demanding before sex... Psh whatever :).. If I chose never to tell her would it be so bad? Psh not at all if anything it will save her of being oh my god that's horrible and hating my mom and yadda yadda yadda.

Absolutely NOT, unless they were staff.

It just is too close to what I do for work. MMI's are a dealbreaker for me, as well as most Axis II stuff.

Don't you desire transparency in the relationship with (hopefully) the love of your life? Isn't she and the relationship worth establishing trust for? Respecting each other enough to be honest?

depends on what they were hospitalized for..........criminal purposes definitly not......ongoing mental issues that require constant monitoring......probably not........ongoing mental issues that require meds and frequent to periodic monitoring....again probably not.........if none the above instances apply then i don't feel i need to know they were ever in unless they want to tell me........then i'd hope i'm secure enough for it to not change my opinion of them

I'm not a big fan of "don't ask, don't tell".

Not everyone who has been in a psychiatric hospital is "nuts" I had a breakdown when I was 23 and in the hospital for 12 days, had 7 electroshock treatment for depression. This happened when I was 2 mo pregnant with my 4th child.. The dr said it was a combination of things in my life that caused this and that having 4 children in 5 yrs my body hadn't had time to adjust properly... I have never had a problem since..The dr says a breakdown is your bodys way of protecting you , it just shuts down...I have never abused drugs or alcohol...

I've always shared my experiences in the mental hospital. Its part of my life, and i'm not ashamed of it. It took alot of guts for me to say i had a depression problem and i needed help.

After that, i've turned my life around. So in response to the answer, i say if they are atleast trying to help themselves out than yes you can date them.

I've learned at times TMI is just that TMI.If the facts at hand have no bearing on the situation at hand then all you do is cloud the water. Some things are private and should remain skeletons in your closet. But that is just my opinion and agan if someone wishes to share I'll listen and hope I'm secure enough not to allow it to sway my original opinion.

I am...

I see nothing wrong with not telling someone whatever it is that happened in your past if it has no effect on the present..

Not everything needs to be shared...