I dunno M J

I don't understand the fear of commitment at all.....

Me either...guys are girls are so different. We will never understand eachother much less our own selves.

Some men are just scared of commitment. Some think they know what they want until they get it (just think of kids wanting a toy until they get it then throw it away). Men are simple .. if not too simple. Being locked down to one person is also a factor. What used to run through my head was if I found the right person I want to settle down with for the rest of my life, or is that person still out there.

Not saying all are like this ... but I know I was.

Good analogy!

I spent years just bouncing around from one brief entanglement to another -- it was fun, and easy, and I was heavily involved in music so there were always plenty of "prospects" around.

Then I got married (for no good reason) and it was horrible and damn near fatal -- and it took me awhile to get out of that, but....

But I realized, sometime afterwards, that I really had no more desire to do the revolving-door 3-month thing anymore. It was fun while it lasted, OK for that particular time in my life, but -- I had outgrown it somehow.

I wanted something serious and long-term.

But there was no one out there for that.

I thought there was, a few times. I was wrong.

For me, it comes down to a simple issue of compatibility. There isn't anyone compatible out there. I've only met one, in my whole life, and I've played on-and-off with her for nine years, and I'm tired of it.

As much as I'd like to find something permanent, there just aren't any suitable candidates.

So -- is it better for me to be alone, or just go back to drifting in and out of casual, short-term scenarios? I really haven't made up my mind yet.

It was simple .. it's a guy thing you wouldn't understand

Men suck in general... I have yet to find one guy that I would seriously think of being with.... For the exact reasons of this thread....

You know... I was just thinking that I needed some sexy lexy wisdom!

Oh but I do now that you mentioned it! I have a 5, almost 6 year old boy at home... and I understand the toy analogy.

You really want me to answer this question?

i know what i want but so far no luck.i have waited years and i will wait years more if i have to.

Actually! YEAH! You have been snagged! How did she do it?

That sounds pretty familiar.

I don't really understand that though. Do you just assume a woman is going to do that because someone in the past has? Or because of something specific women have done while in a relationship with you?

I can't speak for the "majority" of men, but I can tell you what does it for me and what I believe what most guys want.

See, I look at life in a general sense of being about choices. We make them, some good and some bad. But, it makes us who we are. Now, when it comes to relationships and to what I want, I never really have a "plan" of what that is. I mean, I know what type of woman I generally go for. I know what I like to find in a woman. And, being honest, I look for if she can "get" me. Yes, there has to be an initial attraction to her, but when I talk to her, get to know her, and I like who she is and what she is all about, I also want to see if she accepts me for me and "gets" me. That is how I got and always get snagged. I don't shy away from it. I don't run from it.

Men in general want to be happy with a woman. They want to find a partner that they can share life with. But, most guys just freeze up when things start to go good. Don't ask me why, they just do. Some guys are all about the hunt, in that they want to find a woman and conquer her. Sounds primal, but it is the truth.

I dunno Tanya. Guys are strange creatures at times, and I should know...I am one of them.

Thanks Goof!

At least I know that there might be one guy out there that when I get him he might not run

Well, just avoid "that" guy who "falls in love" with every girl he dates, has been married and divorced over 5 times. That guy is dangerous too.