We met summer of 07. Not long ago. And on our 3rd month anniversary..he was taken away by Child Protective Services. And i was there. But I stood by him..my dad pulled me to canada..and to new mexico..and then my dad went to jail, i found out that im 6 months pregnant, and im stranded in the desert. Of course, at this time, we were no longer together..and barely staying close over the phone. He had broken up with me because we had only gotten to see each other once..and he felt like he was holding me back. I never moved on..and was still desperately in love with him. Well in june I gave birth to our beautiful son. In october of this year, he was released from cps as he turned 18. He came to live with me..and..cheated on me with his ex from where he had been living. and so so many other things and it made me crazy bc i had stood by for over a year and a half..and we had a son. and i developed rage towards him and he blamed me. every time we fought, he would call his ex. and he would steadily pick her over me. and yet..he would be in my bed the next night. i still love him with all my heart..and yes..he has chosen her again. but we have a child..im forever. i will always be here. she..isnt forever. what do i do? i feel so hurt. i feel like i need to move on. and i miss that "new love" feeling. but at the same time..i want a family. my family. does that make sense?

Good Lord NO!!! That does not make ANY sense.

Sorry to be so blunt, but this dude is a real piece of work.

Do you not think you deserve any better than that??

He is never, EVER going to make you or your child a priority.

You keep hanging on and waiting for him to do something tha he is just not willing to do.

He KNOWS that you aren't going anywhere, so he plays that to it's fullest.

Meanwhile..you keep allowing it.

You want a " family "....fine. Make his ass pay child support.

To have a REAL family, you are going to have to, first, find a man that is worthy of your time.

He isn't it. Period.

Do not let someone become a priority in your life, when you are just an option in their life.........
Relationship work best when they are balanced.

thank you..
really..
thank you.

In life just do not trust people who changes their feelings with time..........
Instead trust those people whose feelings remain same, even when time changed........

i've never heard it be put like that..
but its true. so true.

oh honey...dont ever stay with someone who treats you that way!!! not even for a child. that home will turn into a bitter, cold place to be..do you want your baby to grow up in the enviroment??

My sons father was the same way, in and out... cheated on me, used me, i thought i loved him but you can never really love someone you cant trust, you apparently cant trust this loser. You think you love him becasue of the child, my advise is...move on. leave him behind. its up to you how involved he is with your son, but you deserve to be treated right and not played

We make them cry who cares for us.
We cry for those who never cares for us.
And we care for those who will never cry for us.
This is a truth of life. It is strange but true.
Once you realise this, its never too late to change..

my ex hubby cheated on me before during and after we got married and i also had a child with him. i put up with his crap for 2yrs before we got married and we didnt even celebrate our 1st annerversary for i had kick him out of the house 4 times and 4th was the last.. while we were separted he got together with someone else and they had a child.. he eventually met his 2nd wife while he was with the other person and yet we were still married... they have been married now about 16yrs and he has a 18yr old daughter.. it took me 2yrs just to see what everyone else was seeing love is blind.. my son now is 21(he a special needs child) but hes my life.
your still young..
my daughter had her first child at 14 she now 25 with 3 kids and it took her 10yrs just to realize the father of her kids is useless..

you dont need this guy in your life....

Move on. Move foreward. Not backwards.

and whats even worse..is that he moved in with my neighbor ( i live in a duplex ) but my neighbor is someone i went to school with. anyways, he brought his ex over there the night he moved out of my place. and i didn't know that. and i heard him ****ing her through the wall...

you must move on. absolutely must. it's a comfort zone you're in, but once you're out of it, things will be more like a life again. scary, yes, but you will be in control.

good advice!!!

This man speaks the truth!!

damn..i thought i had it bad.

that shows he doesnt give a rats crap about anyone but his own self....

I finally see. It's gonna be hard for me to walk away. But i will. it will take a lot of power that im gonna have to summon up inside me somewhere. but ill find it.

You wanna make it easier??

Just keep asking yourself if you want your son growing up thinking that treating women like that is an alright thing to do.

That alone will keep you focused on keeping that idiot from having ANY power over you.

im sorry..why aren't you taken? lol

AMEN brother

Even I'm wondering why you aren't taken.